Today I am sharing a bonus interview from the Sex After Kids Summit with Holistic Pleasure Coach Helen Rowlands. Helen is in her 60s and has been married for 45 years. I sat down with her to talk about she's living the best version of her relationship yet with more love and more satisfying sex than ever. We talk about her sexual renaissance in her 40s, understanding each others sexual types and needs, and the importance of having mentors and role models who show us what can be possible in a l...

In this episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, Sofia delves into the significance of sex education and its lasting effects on adult sex lives, particularly after having children. The conversation covers several key points, including the failure of sex education to address pleasure, the importance of self pleasure, the need for detailed anatomical knowledge, and the impact of societal shame on sexual well-being. Through personal anecdotes and reflective questions, listeners are encouraged to...

In this episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, we discuss the importance of creating a positive feedback loop in your sex life. Sofia explains the concept of feedback loops and how positive sexual experiences can lead to more enjoyable and relaxed future encounters. Conversely, stress, trauma, and negative experiences can cause a negative feedback loop, making it difficult to enjoy sex. The episode offers practical tips for partners to help each other break free from these negative loops, s...

In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we explore the four secret ingredients essential for a fulfilling sex life post-parenthood. Listen in to find out what the nervous system, communication, your relationship to pleasure and your mindset have to do with reclaiming your sex life after kids. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:37 Setting the Stage with 'Easy'07:24 The Naked Sexy Fun Times Cycle14:43 Four Core Ingredients for a Fantastic Sex Life15:10 Nervous System: The First Ing...

Today we are talking all about Great Sexpectations - those sneaky "shoulds" that are killing the vibe in your post baby bedroom. Whether it's falling prey to gender traps (scripts about how he and she should behave in the bedroom), expecting everyone to be a five star sex god, or believing it's all for his pleasure - a better sex life is beyond what we think we know about sex. We'll explore: 00:00 Introduction: The Power of Talking About Issues00:03 Comfort Zones and Silent Stress00:11 Suppor...

This episode of the Sex After Kids podcast delves into common challenges couples face in their sex lives after having children, focusing on the detrimental effects of the blame game and the significance of teamwork in overcoming creating a new sex life together. Sex is a team sport - let's talk about how to support each other to get to pleasure town. 00:32 The Biggest Mistake in Post-Kids Sex Life00:50 Blaming Yourself or Your Partner03:41 Common Thoughts and Misconceptions05:07 Quit the Magi...

In this final part of our mini series explore the shifts in our sexual landscape after kids we examine the intersection of cultural, spiritual, and societal influences on our sex lives after having children. Listeners are invited to reflect on their personal beliefs and the impact of societal and religious messages on their 'sexpectations.' The episode emphasizes the need for communication, intentionality, and understanding to overcome myths about natural sexual prowess. By addressing issues ...

In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast we continue our series exploring what factors impact libido and our desire and drive to have sex and connect with our partner after kids. In part 2 we explore the emotional dynamics at play including: the importance of communication, equitable division of labor, and modeling healthy intimacy for children. Practical advice, including resources like 'Fair Play,' and reflections on trauma, shame, and societal expectations round out the conversa...

In the next three episodes we are going to start by helping you map the new sex drive landscape post-kids. So many clients I talk to don't know where their desire or interest for sex went after kids - and the truth is, there are a lot of potential culprits. So let's help you get to the bottom of it. In the first of the three part mini series we'll explore the physical dimensions of change in your sex life after kids. 01:34 Understanding the Libido Brick Wall04:07 Four Dimensions Affecting Pos...

Hello world! Welcome to the first ever episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast. The place to be if you are in a sexual stalemate after children and don't know what to do about it. We are one part science, one magic and one part real talk to help you find the spark in yourself and your relationship after kids. From missmatched libidos and pelvic floors, to sexual fantasy and communication skills - your host Sofia Ashley - certified sex coach and educator - will walk you through her thoughts...

Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. Host Sofia Ashley, founder of the Happy Vagina Project, Certified Sex Coach and Sex Educator, brings you one part science of sex, one part magic, and one part real talk to tackle everything from miss matched libidos and lacklustre sex after kids.Whether you adopted, joined a blended family, or made a kid in your body we'll explore the ups and downs and th...