Jayson and Ellen talk entrepreneurship. What inspired Jayson to create The Relationship School? What is it like to be in a relationship with an entrepreneur? What drives entrepreneurs? Can you be addicted to stress? Are you afraid that you’ll lose your motivation if you do the inner work and deal with your issues? Listen to discover how both your relationships and your business can benefit when you stop letting stress and inadequacy drive you. Timestamps: 2:59 - What is an entrepreneur?...

Xavier Dagba is a coach who focuses on shadow integration and trauma informed transformation. He has an inspiring story that emphasizes the power of listening to the voice inside and following your passion no matter the cost.  Why is shadow work so important? What can you learn from your imposter syndrome? Can envy ever be used in a positive way? Join Jayson and Xavier for a powerful conversation that will change the way you think about yourself and your relationships. Timestamps: 4:08 -...

Friends are some of the most important relationships in our lives, but some types of friendships help us grow more than others. Jayson explains why you need to cultivate friendships with people who are comfortable challenging you and who aren’t afraid to go deep. Learn why it's so important to have two of this type of friend and how you can set an intention to foster this type of friendship in the future. Timestamps: 2:21 - Friends that aren't great for you 3:48 - The type of friend that...

Why do people get complacent in long-term relationships? Jayson and Ellen discuss a situation where a couple mutually decided to put their marriage on the back burner to avoid conflict. What are the drawbacks of using complacency as a coping mechanism? Is ignoring your relational needs in order to avoid conflict a sustainable long-term strategy? Tune in to learn how to break out of the complacency trap and get real with your partner today. Timestamps: 2:22 - Using complacency to avoid...

This is a pretty charged issue. On the one hand, some people really believe divorce is one of the major causes of problems in children. On the other hand, newer research suggests that kids are fine coming from divorced families, and in fact may even be more resilient and capable of handling life’s challenges. If you really think divorce is going to mess up your kids, think again… Timestamps: The erroneous assumption that comes along with divorce statistics [3:30] What is the real issue...

What can you learn from divorced people and what can you learn from people who have been married for a decade or two? What are the main differences? There are two and we cover them in this episode with author Mark Manson. We also explore how Mark navigated a big challenge with his now wife and why self-improvement and self-awareness are so essential to long-term partnership.   Timestamps: 1:03 - Episode introduction 4:36 - Mark Manson's backstory 8:52 - Common issues and challenges 10:42...

Explore the wilderness of Colorado with Jayson and Ellen in this upcoming episode. Their backpacking adventure takes an unexpected turn which leads to thought-provoking insights about human interactions, relationships, and the delicate balance between self-expression and consideration for others. Tune in to this discussion that will inspire you to reflect on your own interactions and the impact of your actions on those around you. Timestamps: 4:04 - The story of the misattuned camper 11:38...

This week Jayson welcomes back a returning guest and good friend, Mark Divine. Together, they discuss the stages of human development, emphasizing the importance of maturing, resolving emotional issues, and achieving full integration as individuals. They cover diverse aspects, from self-connection to various spiritual paths, authentic leadership, and simplifying life for a more meaningful existence. Join Jayson and Mark for a journey into personal evolution and a reflection on the impact of...

Join Jayson and Ellen as they discuss insights from a transformative two-day retreat. From conflict management to embracing the unknown, they uncover using relationships as a path to self-discovery. Tune in for an authentic journey of growth that reshapes your view on human connections. Timestamps: 2:28 - What happens on a two day retreat with Jayson? 9:53 - Accepting challenges as learning experiences 13:20 - Don't lose your relationship to yourself 16:31 - What does Buddhism have to say...

In this episode, Jayson discusses the importance of finding the right coach or therapist. He also explains why you should identify your readiness for change and clarify your specific problem before seeking help. Learn why you should prioritize practitioners who are not only trained in the area you’re targeting but also actively involved in their own personal growth. Find out how to spot the real gems among personal recommendations, endorsements, and online reviews. If money is an issue,...

Uncover the captivating blend of art and science in relationship coaching. Join Jayson as he guides the way, painting a masterpiece of understanding, growth, and authenticity. Discover the science behind lasting happiness and the significance of deep connections for a fulfilling life. It's not just about belonging; it's about being truly known and loved. Step into a transformative adventure, mastering the art and science of coaching. Embrace your evolution, becoming a beacon of connection in...

In our latest episode, Jayson talks with Layne Norton, a distinguished figure in health, fitness, and personal development. Listen to their candid discussion on compassionate communication, setting boundaries, and fostering healthy relationships. Layne's emphasis on breaking free from restrictive food rules and embracing a balanced, joyful relationship with nourishment reflects his dedication to empowering individuals to achieve their health goals. Watch this inspiring episode to learn more...

Are you ready to break free from the chains of victimhood and embrace empowerment? Join Jayson and Ellen in this episode as they dive deep into the complexities of fault versus responsibility. They also discuss the struggle between victimhood and authorship. Explore empowering perspectives, real-life stories, and learn how to transform challenges into personal growth opportunities. You won't want to miss this as they challenge the norms compassionately, fostering self-reflection and...

A brave, smart couple shares their darkest period and how they worked through it. Anyone who has been married for a few years and then adds in a child to the mix will pretty much get rocked. Tripp (host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp) and Alyson (psychotherapist, relationship coach) share what happened and how they got through it. From their day-to-day check-ins, emotional distance, and meltdowns to transforming their sex life after kids, we imagine you’ll...

Join Jayson and Ellen’s in-depth chat as they talk through listeners' questions in this Ask me Anything episode. Betty asks about a tough financial situation, Jean is looking for tips on how to break the toxic cycle of always being told it's your fault by their partner, Christy is struggling to differentiate between love addiction and being in love, and Alyssia is looking for advice on how to handle mixed messages. Tune in as they offer guidance on creating a strong foundation based on mutual...

Join Coleman Hughes and Jayson as they discuss the multifaceted aspects of the anti-racist movement, evaluating its progress and identifying areas of improvement. Coleman Hughes is a writer, musician, opinion columnist, and host of the popular podcast Conversations with Coleman. His work focuses on race, public policy, and applied ethics. Through this engaging discussion, they strive to foster meaningful conversations, challenge assumptions, and pave the way for a more inclusive and...

Why do people hesitate to speak up in relationships? And how do you speak up  if you are unhappy and unfulfilled in a relationship?  Why do you even need to speak up at that point, right? Many of us fear conflict and believe that speaking up will only make things worse. But let's challenge that notion. Is it a good enough reason to keep your thoughts and feelings hidden? The answer is a resounding no. The truth is, when we don't speak up, resentment builds. We start to feel a boundary being...

Are you tired of feeling unfulfilled in your relationships or like something is missing from your life? Have you achieved success and acquired material possessions, yet still long for a deeper sense of happiness and purpose? It's time to shift your perspective and embrace a new way of approaching relationships. This episode explores Jayson's journey of self-discovery after embracing Buddhism's core teachings. He realized that relationships are about more than just happiness or meeting needs....

Unsure why certain interactions with loved ones get you so upset? Ever struggle to relate to the hardship of others? Psychotherapist Sharon Stanley says the issue could be trauma, trauma you may not even be aware you have. Once we assess our own trauma we can begin exercising our senses and become more compassionate to others. According to Sharon, we owe it to ourselves and to each other to consider the pain in our pasts, only then can we embody true empathy! Timestamps: 5:56 - How ...

Most people have a little bit of codependency going on. However, if you have a relationship that is based on codependency, you're probably feeling insecure and frustrated. In this episode, Jayson covers the signs and symptoms of codependency, the history of the term, how it "works" and what to do about it. You'll want to check this out! To sign up for our next Masterclass click HERE. Timestamps: 4:03 - What is codependency? 11:36 - Signs you might be experiencing codependency 16:21 - What...

Renowned relationship expert, Stan Tatkin, joins Jayson and Ellen in discussing the concept of secure functioning and how it can transform your partnership. Introducing "In Each Other’s Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them" This is not your typical self-help book filled with abstract theories and jargon. Instead, it offers practical guidance and actionable steps to help you and your partner thrive. Join us as we break down the complexities of...

On this AMA episode we tackle important questions from listeners. Inna is dealing with her boyfriend's anger issues and wonders if breaking up is the only solution. Kendra seeks advice on how to handle criticism from her husband. Stay tuned as Jayson and Ellen answer more insightful questions and offer guidance on building healthy and fulfilling relationships. Timestamps: 1:37 - Dealing with an angry partner 13:21 - Receiving criticism 25:48 - Not asking our partner questions Links: ...

This podcast comes from a blog post Jayson wrote for Elephant Journal where he polled over 200 women on his social media channels with this question: Hetero-women: “What are you wanting from us men in the context of an intimate, monogamous partnership?” Over 200 women responded. It was an emotional read. So, guys, listen up and take notes. Timestamps: 2:02 - The top 6 things women want from men 3:46 - Willingness 5:02 - Emotional availability and vulnerability 7:12 - Presence 9:42 -...

Do you ever wonder if your relationship pain guides you deeper into whatever you need to heal yourself?  What kind of relationship do you have with God? With reality?  In this explorative and enlightening interview, Andrew Harvey explores how to create evolutionary love that is much bigger than the "you" you know yourself to be. Hang on tight for a mind-blowing ride as Andrew shares his perspective on how relationship work is sacred. He also shares how it serves your soul's calling.  Tune...

Want to know one tip that most of us avoid or don't execute well so you can have a sexy and powerful partnership that lasts? It isn't going on more dates, and it isn't getting really good at repair. Find out how to transform your romantic relationship with Jayson and Ellen in this week's episode, and leave a comment below with your response/experience. Timestamps: 1:43 - 1 tip to have a sexy, powerful partnership over time 5:11 - What's holding couples back? 9:19 - Having a plan 15:54 -...