“I’ve been a big fan of your podcast for a while and always found your insights on communication incredibly valuable. One of the concepts that stood out to me was the “What, So What, Now What” framework. Recently, I applied it in a way I didn’t expect—to reflect on some personal challenges—and I wanted to share the impact it had.
For a long time, I struggled with perfectionism, fear of vulnerability, and communication—particularly in interpersonal dynamics. I would often stay quiet in meetings or avoid social/leadership role as a result, despite being a high performer (technical skills). Over the past month, I’ve been journaling and reflecting on patterns like perfectionism, fear of vulnerability, but my thoughts felt scattered. When I used your framework, everything finally clicked.
What: Root causes driving patterns, like how early success made me tie self-worth to objective outcomes.
So What: Behaviors and outcomes resulting from those causes (e.g., avoid step out of comfort zone, reluctance to collaborate etc.)
Now What: Steps to overcome these behaviors (e.g., intention setting, practicing vulnerability)
Since that realization, I’ve experienced a real breakthrough—I feel more open, talkative, and comfortable engaging with others. Conversations/meetings that used to feel stressful now feel like opportunities, and I’ve started enjoying connection in ways I never expected.
Thank you for all you do.”
CuriosMind via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
10/17/24