In this episode we unpack Canadian psychiatrist and analyst Eric Berne's 1964 book "Games People Play." This book explores... The 6 different types of social interactions The most common games people play What intimacy is and why it is so rare Links to Reading  Games People Play by Eric Berne *note* reading is not required to enjoy this episode! Host: Zach Stehura  UnpackingIdeas.com Guest: Sonya   @selfhelpsonya on TikTok & Instagram Theme Music: Polyenso Timestamps 00:00:00 Intro 00:04:04 The 6 Types of Interactions 00:05:59 Withdrawal 00:08:09 Procedures 00:10:13 Rituals 00:11:39 Emotional Stroking  00:14:28 Calculating how many strokes to give 00:19:21 Pastimes/Small-talk  00:20:06 Types of Small-talk 00:21:08 How a host determines the pastimes people play at a party 00:24:08 The rules for small-talk 00:27:16 Why we engage in small-talk 00:28:38 The 3 Ego States 00:29:25 The Parent Ego State 00:29:45 The Child Ego State 00:30:18 The Adult Ego State 00:31:32 Complementary Transactions 00:33:31 Crossed Transactions 00:36:00 Child-Child Transaction 00:38:04 Adult-Adult Transaction 00:38:39 The 2 Levels of of an interaction (social level & psychological level) 00:39:05 Superficial Transactions 00:39:32 Ulterior Transactions 00:39:46 Flirtatious Games 00:42:32 A Thesaurus of Games 00:42:36 "Look Ma, No Hands!" 00:47:32 "Now I've got You, You Son-of-a-Bitch!" 00:52:55 "Why Don't You, Yes But..." 00:55:25 Intimacy 00:56:00 The Uncorrupted Child  00:57:39 Operations ie. stating a need directly 01:00:36 Why Most people settle for games 01:01:53 Closing Thoughts 01:03:34 Outro