Talking It Out: Navigating Conflict in Our Marriage
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Ever wonder how couples navigate the seismic shifts in their relationship after the stork drops off a bundle of joy? On Episode 3 of Up Past Bedtime, join us in an intimate discussion about the transformation of our partnership in the face of parenthood. From the comedic trials of late-night settling sessions to the profound discussions on upbringings and conflict styles, we unpack the complexities of keeping the discourse to a minimum amidst the pitter-patter of little feet.  This week, we’re lifting the veil on our own relationship and parenting strategies, laying out the successes and stumbles with humour. Striking a balance between couple time and family time, we rate the current state of our marriage, sharing the strategies that have helped us rediscover our spark.  Our conversation also explores how our distinct upbringings and conflict styles affect our relationship and parenting approach. We discuss the blend of a matriarchal background with one where male figures were more prominent, and how these perspectives influence everything from daily decisions to the way we confront challenges and support each other through them. (13:26) - Challenges of Parenting on Relationships: We open up about the unexpected challenges that have surfaced in our relationship since becoming parents. We reflect on the intense struggle to maintain communication and find time for each other amidst the demands of raising children and managing a hectic work schedule.  (22:52) - Navigating Differences in Relationships: We open up about the unexpected challenges that have surfaced in our relationship since becoming parents. We reflect on the intense struggle to maintain communication and find time for each other amidst the demands of raising children and managing a hectic work schedule.  Book Mentioned by Bella: Fair Play by Evie Rodsky (29:11) - Navigating Different Upbringings and Conflict Styles: We explore the impact of personal backgrounds on relationships, as I recount the story of my parents' fast-tracked engagement and subsequent tumultuous divorce, and its traumatic effect on me and my siblings. We consider how these experiences shape our views on relationships, with me bringing insights from a matriarchal, female-dominated upbringing and contrasting it with your experience in a family where male figures were present and no divorces occurred. (39:48) - Answering your questions!  Bella's recommendation of the week: @nakedharvestsupplements Pure Collagen (Affiliate DC: BELLSMESSINA) Adrian's recommendation: Seeded mustard lol Up Past Bedtime is a podcast putting the P back in pillow talk; broadcasting the after-hours conversations of parents! Join the husband and wife duo, Bella & Adrian Messina, for weekly unfiltered discussions that explore the rollercoaster ride of relationships/marriage after kids while navigating the challenges and triumphs of parenting today.  UPB Socials: Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast Facebook Community: Here Watch on Youtube: Here Or Email Us: [email protected] Bella’s Socials:  Instagram: @bellsmessina Tik Tok: @bellsmessina Adrian’s Socials: Instagram: @adrianmessina Tik Tok: @itsyaboyado Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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