Today, I speak with Dr. Josh Smith. The conversation delves into the concept of shadow work, exploring the definition of a shadow and its impact on relationships and attachment styles. It also discusses the challenges of self-awareness, the influence of environment on behavior, and the dynamics of scorekeeping in relationships. The conversation delves into the concept of people-pleasing and the impact of learned behaviors on decision-making. It explores the challenges of setting boundaries, understanding personal desires, and breaking free from familiar patterns. The discussion also touches on the importance of self-awareness and the willingness to embrace discomfort in order to make authentic choices. We talk about: -Shadow work involves integrating the parts of oneself that are denied or hidden, leading to a deeper understanding of one's complexity and a sense of humility. -The environment in which a person grows up influences their behavior and the way they perceive 'normal,' leading to challenges in self-acceptance and authenticity. -Scorekeeping in relationships can impact the way individuals interact and perceive their own worth, leading to patterns of accommodation, entitlement, and difficulty in maintaining balance. -The journey of self-discovery and personal development involves unlearning the need to conform and adapting to environments where one feels accepted for being their true self. The struggle of people-pleasers to make decisions based on their own desires rather than trying to -please others. The importance of self-awareness and the willingness to embrace discomfort in order to make authentic choices. -The impact of learned behaviors on decision-making and the challenges of setting boundaries. -The need to understand personal desires and break free from familiar patterns in order to live authentically. Time Stamps:  00:00 Introduction and Technical Difficulties 02:19 Exploring the Depths of Shadow Work and Self-Integration 08:01 The Influence of Environment on Behavior and Self-Acceptance 35:43 The Struggle of People-Pleasing and Decision-Making 49:33 The Impact of Learned Behaviors and Setting Boundaries 01:01:34 Embracing Discomfort and Making Authentic Choices CONNECT WITH KAIT: IG: https://www.instagram.com/kaitannmichelle/ Team LevelUp: https://www.instagram.com/team.levlup/ Email: [email protected] Free FB Community: : https://www.facebook.com/groups/levluptraining TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kaitannmichelle Email List: First Dibs on Freebies and Tips! Twitter: https://twitter.com/kaitannmichelle SnapChat: https://snapchat.com/add/kait.callahan22 Legion Code: CoachK CONNECT WITH JOSH: IG: https://www.instagram.com/drj.smith/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kaitannmichelle/support