We’re joined by two social types, Ikram & Kristen, to explore the pain and suffering of the social instinct. — (12:33) Post-zone reflections on social pain and longing— (16:44) Potential dangers in social space— (22:48) The naivety of social-blinds with the social game— (26:50) Why people tear others down to prop themselves up— (29:47) Social is how we project our inner identities and shadows out into the world— (36:18) Dysfunctional social sabotage and attachment dynamics— (40:29) Our nervous systems are regulated by other people / the healing power of connection— (49:30) Owning your own social danger and parasocial obsessions— (1:08:33) Personal encounters with social wounding Get the last spot on Alexandra and Josh’s new Attachment Support Group:https://www.theenneagramschool.com/attachment-support-group DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Couple’s Therapy, iShowSpeed, Marianne Williamson. And get typed at https://www.enneagrammer.com 20% OFF -END OF SUMMER- DISCOUNT ON ALL ORDERS BEFORE SEPT 1ST:\/:USE CODE SMR23 DURING CHECKOUT Consider supporting us with a donation if you enjoyed the show:https://paypal.me/bighormonevenmo - @bighormonecashapp - $bighormone Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com Master the basics with John and Josh’s new foundational enneagram school. Sign up for their 6-part class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray Call the Loveline with your comments at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email [email protected] or DM us with a pre-recorded voice message