“As a two time, Canadian born, adoptee having moved to the United States at age 7with my first adoptive family, my family origins have always been at the forefront of my mind, as they would be to most any human.
When I was 21, I located my bio-mother in Canada. I did this the old fashion way, through telephone books, and the Internet. We had a 14-year relationship which she chose to end in 2004.
Three months after the end of my bio-mother’s relationship with me, I located my bio-father in Québec whom, I was previously told by my bio-mother had, “date rated“ my bio-mother which ultimately resulted in me being conceived.
However, the story my bio-mother told me did not ring true in many ways due to contradictory statements she would make later.
Once she left my life, and a few years after I first made contact with my bio-father, who knew nothing about me until I called him the very first time in July 2004, I decided to take a 23 and Me test to see what results it would yield. The test connected me with a second cousin, or the first cousin of my bio- father. This conclusively told me that my bio-father was authentic, which many on that side of the family had no doubt.
Later, I also took the Ancestry.com, and My Heritage DNA tests, which also connected me with cousins further down the line on both my mothers side, and my father side.
So, as one might understand, identity is an extremely important facet of our lives. In fact, for many of us, it may be the most important facet of our lives.
Through commercial DNA testing, I now officially know who my biological family is, where they come from, and I maintain a relationship, ironically enough, with many on my bio-father’s side, and with only one uncle on my bio-mothers side, ironically, even though her side of the family is who I had relationships with for 14 years starting in 1990. My bio-father died of cancer in 2011, nine months after I first met him in person, and nearly seven years after I first called him to inform him of my existence. My bio-mother and I haven’t spoken since early 2004, by her choice.
I have since purchased this podcast so I can hear the Behind the Scenes and bonus episodes. This has reignited a spark within me about my own family, the journey I have come through in finding them, and the possibilities of what is next. Please keep the fascinating stories coming!”
mhayslip via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/18/22