This episode Jai The Gentleman dives deep into a challenge a lot of Black gay men (and people) in the dating pool deal with: why can't he just do what I want him to? Jai unpacks how a celebration for a friend's new job turned into an internal dialogue that, he says, has held him back from a relationship. New uploads TUESDAYS, WEDNESDAYS & THURSDAYS Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop  ➡️Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com 📲Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎹Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward. ➡️Connect with Jai The Gentleman IG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentleman http://www.dearblackgaymen.com