Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: How I stood a guy up twice and why we don't put enough effort into finding value in dating. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts:...

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: What does it mean to be "low key" and why the gworls secretly hate being bottoms. HIV Vaccine Trials Network: helpendhiv.org Strong Bottoms: https://youtube.com/live/1N1izj92yC4?feature=share Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify:...

When's the last time you listened to the music they were playing during an entanglement? It's trying to tell you something. Merch: dearblackgaymen.shop YouTube: youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen Support: patreon.com/dearblackgaymen

Question for the comments: do you wait to have sex or let it happen whenever the vibe is right Screenshot this episode. Tag @DearBlackGayMen in your story. Watch on YT: https://youtu.be/tXwT3Am06DM New uploads WEDNESDAYS & THURSDAYS Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️ Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop  ➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️ Join the...

Question for the comments: how do you define "submissive"? DBGM Live in Atlanta: https://posh.vip/e/dgbm-live-podcast-atl Shop DBGM Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Connect with Jai The Gentleman: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentleman

Question for the comments: what's your most dominant trait? Screenshot this episode, add it to your story and tag me in your answer. DBGM LIVE in Atlanta: dearblackgaymen.com/events/atlanta DBGM Merch: dearblackgaymen.com Connect with Jai: instagram.com/jaithegentleman Connect with Dear Black Gay Men: instagram.com/DearBlackGayMen

Question for the comments: what's the last dating mistake you learned from? Shop: https://dearblackgaymen.com/ Tickets: https//dearblackgaymen.com/events/atlanta

Question for the comments: how long do you wait for s*x? Single Series Pt. 1: https://youtu.be/7SgeWwDGScQ Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.com Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/3OysErB Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/... ➡️ Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to...

Question for the comments: how long have you been single? dearblackgaymen.substack.com dearblackgaymen.com

Question for the comments: who was the last person you had to say the words "I'm gay" to? Screenshot the episode, tag me in your story @JaiTheGentleman on IG with your response ➡️ Shop Dear Black Gay Men merch: dearblackgaymen.com ➡️ Become an Insider: http://www.dearblackgaymen/subscribe ➡️ Join the newsletter: http://substack.dearblackgaymen.com

Thank GOD I didn't f*ck this man... ➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️ Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways...

While I was cruising on the apps one day, this guy's profile really rubbed me the wrong way. I realized that I don't like condoms, but not for the reason you'd think. This episode is dedicated to overcoming condoms so we can get free. Condoms: Explained on Dear Black Gay Men LIVE Follow @JaiTheGentleman on IG, @DearBlackGayMen on IG. Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men on YouTube

It's been a while since I've uploaded to this platform and explanations are in order. I did take a little while to sort through some personal things. Nothing major, but this episode is dedicated to one of the big lessons that I uncovered during my time away from the mic. Follow @JaiTheGentleman on IG, @dearblackgaymen on IG. Tune in to the live show every Thursday at 8pm Eastern on YouTube

Noah's Arc was mym 2005 dating goals before dating goals were even a thing. I remember going to Best Buy to buy the box set so I could dream about outing a piece of trade and living happily ever after. Now, nearly 20 years later, I can watch Noah's Arc with a different set of dating eyes. I can see where they went wrong, what dating lessons should I have left on TV, and which ones can I learn from this fictitious love story and apply to my very real dating life. Join this channel:...

This one is pretty vulnerable for me, but I'll admit it boldly: I'm a gaslighter. My last relationship had to end because I did some dirty stuff while we were together. Ralph Pittman is the human gaslight and I only know that because the way he messed up Drew is exactly how I acted in my last serious dating situation. But so many of our listeners/viewers are still up-in-the-air about what gaslighting is and how to spot it. So this video is dedicated to uncovering gaslighting and how we...

Sl*t shaming aside, Ali Adamos is good at doing many things. He can get countless men to give him exactly what he wants---usually exactly HOW he wants it. Isn't that our dating dream? Getting a guy to date us, be with us, love us HOW we want to be loved? After I 💦 and I could think clearly, I looked at Ali, what he says, how he moves through life to attract so many men and there was one BIG lesson in there. This is how we can take a 💦 dump's secret weapon and use it in our dating...

 @OpenRelationshipPodcast  is one of our faves here on the channel. The hosts give different perspectives on gay dating, Black LGBTQ social issues and everything A to Z about Black gay culture. But this particular story rubbed me the wrong way and I think Rodney may have it wrong. I am not trans, nor am I a parent, so most may take my perspectives with a grain of salt, but Neyo story has us questioning everything about communication, parenting, and what we would do if our future child...

I know it’s Leo season, but this lesson in Gemini dating hit me so hard this week. I went on a date, asked the guy “what are you looking for?’ Of course, in true gay fashion, he responded “I’m not really looking.” For some reason, we’ll go looking for EVERYTHING in the world except a date. We’ll look for money, cars, degrees, jobs, customers, but love is something we expect to fall in our lap. This episode is dedicated to righting a wrong that has Black gay culture in a chokehold. Hopefully...

 @BishopOCAllen  renewed his vows to his husband of 20 years, Rashad Burgess. Allen, who I call “B”, said he hates folding clothes. To the untrained ear, that sounds like something you discover over a 20 year marriage. But to me, I thought how dope it is that he’s self-aware enough to know that about himself and to say it publicly. This episode is dedicated to helping each of us single people grow a level of self-awareness that helps us date better, find better men, and connect with guys...

Have you ever met a guy, got a number, texted for a while, a couple dates, but just can't make it over the 90-day hump? After so many failed dating attempts, it's easy to think it's either all men...or it's got to be me. This episode of the podcast is here to show us that it's a little of column A, a little of column B. A whole lot of luck and the right kind of work. What kind of work should we be putting into our dating situations? And how to ensure that work pays off? Special thanks...

I don't want to say EVERYONE has cheated, but have a relationship or dating commitment violated is an experience way too many gay guys have in common. I'm a cheater. I had a wonderful relationship that fell apart because of a lot of issues I brought into the dating situation. Now that I've worked through my ish (I am a single guru after all - https://youtu.be/sY4ubstbX-c) and I've dealt with my issues (as best I can), I'm sharing some of the lessons I've learned on why we cheat and how to...

New uploads WEDNESDAYS & THURSDAYS Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 I really don’t think Black gay men are singling right. When it comes to dating, there is some intention we have to put behind who we allow into our lives. This post is a must see for any Black gay guy who is looking to get back into the dating pool. What should you be looking out for and how can we navigate dating better? “Single is Your Super...

When's the last time somebody asked you if you're a top or bottom? For me it was a couple days ago just before a first date. He was more interested in my position than he was in the date. Then I got the lesson. ➡️ Become an Insider: http://www.dearblackgaymen/subscribe 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is...

Gee Smalls is the Jai-appointed king of nudism in Atlanta. I'm worried about what to wear on an upcoming cabin trip, meanwhile he's naked on the gram. Then I got the lesson. ➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive content FB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be...