Jai The Gentleman posted this reel about dating trans men and the part that got the most commentary was when I said “f*ck people not parts”. As much as I know this applies to dating people of trans experience, I think the rest of Black gay culture still can use the memo. This is how Jai The Gentleman learned about the fetishization of men in Black gay culture, and what the culture must do about it. The Unlikely Throuple DC: https://posh.vip/e/the-unlikely-throuple-dc-2 For more...

Jai The Gentleman posted this reel about dating trans men and the part that got the most commentary was when I said “f*ck people not parts”.  As much as I know this applies to dating people of trans experience, I think the rest of Black gay culture still can use the memo. This is how Jai The Gentleman learned about the fetishization of men in Black gay culture, and what the culture must do about it. ➡️ Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop  ➡️ Become an Insider:...

This epsiode Jai The Gentleman does a deep dive into the dating pool: why can't we find a man. Team DBGM gets emails, DMs, mentions/tags from listeners wondering why the dating pool hasn't yielded a relationship. Jai is going through some similar woes, but has finally uncovered that it might not be the dating pool; it's actuall him. New uploads TUESDAYS, WEDNESDAYS & THURSDAYS Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9 Listen to the...

This episode Jai The Gentleman dives deep into a challenge a lot of Black gay men (and people) in the dating pool deal with: why can't he just do what I want him to? Jai unpacks how a celebration for a friend's new job turned into an internal dialogue that, he says, has held him back from a relationship. New uploads TUESDAYS, WEDNESDAYS & THURSDAYS Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️Shop DBGM...

In this episode, Jai The Gentleman discusses a recent break-up he went through. The topic came up on a previous episode of Dear Black Gay Men where Jai talked through sexual incompatibility. Today, Jai goes a little deeper on some lessons that he uncovered after a couple months distance. The big question is, should Jai go back. Screenshot this episode, share it to your IG and let us know what you think. New uploads TUESDAYS, WEDNESDAYS & THURSDAYS Support the...

Judge me later, but I was at a sex club the other week. Guy walks up to me and said the weirdest things in an effort to avoid saying what he actually wanted to share. New uploads Tuesdays, Wednesdays & Thursdays on YouTube: youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️ Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop  ➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️...

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: The guy at the gym and why he could never Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: Why I need a man, and exactly what kind of man he needs to be. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: Why "wyd" is never wyd. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: How I stumbled into interviewing my #1 dream guest and why my vision just got a whole lot bigger. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts:...

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: The "what's your type" question and why a date was so surprised by my answer. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts:...

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: How I gave two dudes d*ck they didn't deserve and taught me a very valuable lesson about dating. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts:...

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: This virgin who slid in my DMs, why that would have never worked, and the root of what's killing our dating lives. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts:...

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: Why the dating pool is trash and what exactly you can do about it. Conversation with Dwayne: https://youtube.com/live/hR-O0g_1nyc?feature=share Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts:...

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: How I stood a guy up twice and why we don't put enough effort into finding value in dating. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts:...

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: What does it mean to be "low key" and why the gworls secretly hate being bottoms. HIV Vaccine Trials Network: helpendhiv.org Strong Bottoms: https://youtube.com/live/1N1izj92yC4?feature=share Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify:...

When's the last time you listened to the music they were playing during an entanglement? It's trying to tell you something. Merch: dearblackgaymen.shop YouTube: youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen Support: patreon.com/dearblackgaymen

Question for the comments: do you wait to have sex or let it happen whenever the vibe is right Screenshot this episode. Tag @DearBlackGayMen in your story. Watch on YT: https://youtu.be/tXwT3Am06DM New uploads WEDNESDAYS & THURSDAYS Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️ Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop  ➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️ Join the...

Question for the comments: how do you define "submissive"? DBGM Live in Atlanta: https://posh.vip/e/dgbm-live-podcast-atl Shop DBGM Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Connect with Jai The Gentleman: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentleman

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Question for the comments: what's the last dating mistake you learned from? Shop: https://dearblackgaymen.com/ Tickets: https//dearblackgaymen.com/events/atlanta

Question for the comments: how long do you wait for s*x? Single Series Pt. 1: https://youtu.be/7SgeWwDGScQ Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.com Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/3OysErB Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/... ➡️ Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to...

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Question for the comments: who was the last person you had to say the words "I'm gay" to? Screenshot the episode, tag me in your story @JaiTheGentleman on IG with your response ➡️ Shop Dear Black Gay Men merch: dearblackgaymen.com ➡️ Become an Insider: http://www.dearblackgaymen/subscribe ➡️ Join the newsletter: http://substack.dearblackgaymen.com