Thank GOD I didn't f*ck this man... ➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️ Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways...

While I was cruising on the apps one day, this guy's profile really rubbed me the wrong way. I realized that I don't like condoms, but not for the reason you'd think. This episode is dedicated to overcoming condoms so we can get free. Condoms: Explained on Dear Black Gay Men LIVE Follow @JaiTheGentleman on IG, @DearBlackGayMen on IG. Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men on YouTube

It's been a while since I've uploaded to this platform and explanations are in order. I did take a little while to sort through some personal things. Nothing major, but this episode is dedicated to one of the big lessons that I uncovered during my time away from the mic. Follow @JaiTheGentleman on IG, @dearblackgaymen on IG. Tune in to the live show every Thursday at 8pm Eastern on YouTube

Noah's Arc was mym 2005 dating goals before dating goals were even a thing. I remember going to Best Buy to buy the box set so I could dream about outing a piece of trade and living happily ever after. Now, nearly 20 years later, I can watch Noah's Arc with a different set of dating eyes. I can see where they went wrong, what dating lessons should I have left on TV, and which ones can I learn from this fictitious love story and apply to my very real dating life. Join this channel:...

This one is pretty vulnerable for me, but I'll admit it boldly: I'm a gaslighter. My last relationship had to end because I did some dirty stuff while we were together. Ralph Pittman is the human gaslight and I only know that because the way he messed up Drew is exactly how I acted in my last serious dating situation. But so many of our listeners/viewers are still up-in-the-air about what gaslighting is and how to spot it. So this video is dedicated to uncovering gaslighting and how we...

Sl*t shaming aside, Ali Adamos is good at doing many things. He can get countless men to give him exactly what he wants---usually exactly HOW he wants it. Isn't that our dating dream? Getting a guy to date us, be with us, love us HOW we want to be loved? After I 💦 and I could think clearly, I looked at Ali, what he says, how he moves through life to attract so many men and there was one BIG lesson in there. This is how we can take a 💦 dump's secret weapon and use it in our dating...

 @OpenRelationshipPodcast  is one of our faves here on the channel. The hosts give different perspectives on gay dating, Black LGBTQ social issues and everything A to Z about Black gay culture. But this particular story rubbed me the wrong way and I think Rodney may have it wrong. I am not trans, nor am I a parent, so most may take my perspectives with a grain of salt, but Neyo story has us questioning everything about communication, parenting, and what we would do if our future child...

I know it’s Leo season, but this lesson in Gemini dating hit me so hard this week. I went on a date, asked the guy “what are you looking for?’ Of course, in true gay fashion, he responded “I’m not really looking.” For some reason, we’ll go looking for EVERYTHING in the world except a date. We’ll look for money, cars, degrees, jobs, customers, but love is something we expect to fall in our lap. This episode is dedicated to righting a wrong that has Black gay culture in a chokehold. Hopefully...

 @BishopOCAllen  renewed his vows to his husband of 20 years, Rashad Burgess. Allen, who I call “B”, said he hates folding clothes. To the untrained ear, that sounds like something you discover over a 20 year marriage. But to me, I thought how dope it is that he’s self-aware enough to know that about himself and to say it publicly. This episode is dedicated to helping each of us single people grow a level of self-awareness that helps us date better, find better men, and connect with guys...

Have you ever met a guy, got a number, texted for a while, a couple dates, but just can't make it over the 90-day hump? After so many failed dating attempts, it's easy to think it's either all men...or it's got to be me. This episode of the podcast is here to show us that it's a little of column A, a little of column B. A whole lot of luck and the right kind of work. What kind of work should we be putting into our dating situations? And how to ensure that work pays off? Special thanks...

I don't want to say EVERYONE has cheated, but have a relationship or dating commitment violated is an experience way too many gay guys have in common. I'm a cheater. I had a wonderful relationship that fell apart because of a lot of issues I brought into the dating situation. Now that I've worked through my ish (I am a single guru after all - https://youtu.be/sY4ubstbX-c) and I've dealt with my issues (as best I can), I'm sharing some of the lessons I've learned on why we cheat and how to...

New uploads WEDNESDAYS & THURSDAYS Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 I really don’t think Black gay men are singling right. When it comes to dating, there is some intention we have to put behind who we allow into our lives. This post is a must see for any Black gay guy who is looking to get back into the dating pool. What should you be looking out for and how can we navigate dating better? “Single is Your Super...

When's the last time somebody asked you if you're a top or bottom? For me it was a couple days ago just before a first date. He was more interested in my position than he was in the date. Then I got the lesson. ➡️ Become an Insider: http://www.dearblackgaymen/subscribe 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is...

Gee Smalls is the Jai-appointed king of nudism in Atlanta. I'm worried about what to wear on an upcoming cabin trip, meanwhile he's naked on the gram. Then I got the lesson. ➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive content FB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be...

I was traveling for an entanglement--not a date, not a relationship--a purely physical exchange when I got a big lesson about hook-up culture and how it's an analogy for Black gay culture at large. ➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive content FB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme music by The Passion...

I remember when I used to watch older guys in the club thinking, "where yo man at?" I swore that I'd have me a husband before I end up 40 in the club... ➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive content FB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our...

We go live Thursdays at 8pm EST! Join the group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Knowing what we want in a relationship sounds good on its face, but some of us have taken "knowing" to an unhealthy extent. This week's episode of Dear Black Gay Men Podcast is focused on a date I went on with "Victor" and some of the pitfalls that come with being a single man over 30 trying to date in these streets. I learned a valuable lesson that comes up...

Talking to a new guy is the part of dating that is the most exciting because you get to figure out the guy and dream about your future together. But with that can come some tense discussions. This week's episode is dedicated to understanding where those arguments come from when you're dating, how to get out of them, and the self-work Black gay guys have to do to avoid them altogether. #dating #relationshipadvice #singlelife Welcome to Dear Black Gay Men on YouTube. 📲 Subscribe...

Asking someone on a date seems pretty simple, but so many Black gay guys fail (or suck) at it, even in 2023. In this episode,  @jaithegentleman  gives his short, 3 step process to asking anyone on date and getting them to say yes. If you want to get the date with the guy you've been eyeing across the bar, gym, supermarket, or app, this episode was made specifically for you. #dating #relationshipadvice #singlelife Full episode with  @thegaydatingcoach  :...

We go live Thursdays at 9pm EST! Join the group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 The best part about talking to so many gay guys about dating is that I can start to see the patterns. Every time the conversation of prominent interracial couples comes up, I see a patter. I could be biased, but there is an equation that makes interracial dating work for some people. Watch the full episodes: Kinks:...

This episode was therapy for me. It took actual therapy, a failed Jack'd encounter, and some introspection for me to see one of my deepest issues in dating. Enjoy. New uploads THURSDAYS Join the group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive content FB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify:...

Saturday night at a sex party-->Sunday morning at church-->Monday afternoon epiphany moments. New uploads THURSDAYS Join the group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive content FB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme...

It's crazy that a trip to the mall, ten years ago, with my ex-boyfriend Thomas would lead me to this aha moment at my big-big-age. New episodes WEDNESDAYS Join the group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive content FB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT:...

I had horrible s*x with two people that taught me some huge lessons. New episodes WEDNESDAYS Join the group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive content FB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNj 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our...

I asked a simple question about sex in the group and we jumped in the comments to give our pair of pennies. But what came up was a discussion about self, connection and relationship that I didn't expect. This episode is particularly significant for me because it marks our 50th episode of the podcast. As you can tell, I record these days--sometimes, weeks--in advance. But my gratitude to you all for rocking with me and my crazy thoughts gets deeper each week. --JTG ➡️ Join Dear Black...