hello friends today we're discussing our 8 signs that YOU might be settling in your relationship. as brown people, we rarely know our own worth in a relationship since it's tied to so many traits, and its so easy to settle for less than what you or anyone even deserves. in this episode, we talk bout the difference between setting in a relationship and being "realistic", becoming a fictional character, avoiding vulnerability, the olive theory, and how mashnun is a great wedding dancer. listen...

hello our risky difficulters this episode is all bout things we did in our 20s that literally SAVED OUR LIVES. as brown people its not easy to challenge societal norms and do things we see as scary or troubling but what if that risk pays off? whether is mou starting boxing and leaving her old friends, or mashnun getting a white ppl job and interviewing barefoot, we got so much to share with you guys in this one. please enjoiiiii keep tabs on us: our instagram:...

hey :) this episode is all about life advice we've been given by our parents, friends, bosses, and community that never really hit the mark for us. have you been told to always eat every grain of rice even when you're full? or to never choose violence and to kill them with kindness? or to respect your elders even when they out of pocket?? so have we, listen now to hear everything we get into and so much more, including horrible advice you guys have been given too! keep tabs on us: our...

is it possible to balance everything in life? do you get anxious when you go to work and school, and then you come home and try to figure out when to squeeze in your health and fitness, your social life and family time, and everything else? in this episode, we talk about all of the things that society tells us to balance perfectly, but truly how burnt out we get when we try to. so here are some of the practical ways to have a work/life balance while figuring out how to prioritize the right...

it's been a while since we've done an advice session, but we're back! y'all sent in questions about overcoming anxiety in new relationships, how to make friends in a big city, being okay with going against the status quo, how to be seen as more mature in your parents' eyes, and so much more!!! we've got a lot to say about these things and we hope our unprofessional, but very mighty wisdom helps some of u!! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ our...

how do you handle time management and productivity when you're neurodivergent? growing up when we didn't know about our OCD or ADHD, we would try EVERYTHING to try and be productive during school and work without any success. and on top of that, we grew up in immigrant households that also played a huge part on how we viewed work. now that we're older, we have some tips to be our most productive selves and you will really see how we function SO differently from another and that's ok. hope u...

welcoming our first guest of 2024, Miss Cynthia Victor AKA Shawtysin! Cynthia has over 2 million followers across all platforms and she's walked NYFW, gone on dozens of infamous brand trips, and has reached millions of people with her makeup and fashion content. in this TELL ALL conversation, we talk about imposter syndrome in a white dominated space, secrets to making it as an influencer, what positive south asian representation actually should look like, staying true to your roots and...

hello! we’ve traveled to many different places, and so that we means we have A LOT of stories that make up these trips that we’ve never shared before… we got a lot of good experiences, but also REALLY bad ones which include getting scammed, hostel malfunctions, traveling as a female solo traveler, foreign TSA lines, and so much more. you have to listen to this before you travel so you can avoid some of the mistakes that we made, but also have an idea on the beautiful things to also look...

hustle culture is prevalent in so many big cities, but have you ever experienced it in new york city? in this episode, we talk about the mental pressure of being in a city that emphasizes the grind and competing with one another, and with the added on layer of being from a south asian family that promotes the same hustle. we are both fasting so we're low energy in this one, but still hope u enjoy regardless!! :) keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ our...

when we were younger, we didn't understand or truly appreciate the unique parts of our cultures. we'd get annoyed if we had a dawat (gathering) to attend every weekend or if we were put into music or dance classes. but now that we're older, we have a newfound appreciation for these beautiful things that make our bangladeshi culture so unique. u guys also sent in your responses on what makes your background so different so we hope u enjoy :) keep...

welcome back to your favorite pod where today’s topic is something we hear about all the time, and we wanted to focus on this generation of south asians and whether we see us as too soft or as justified in the way we think. our trips to bangladesh have been weighing heavy on us, and after spending time in the villages, we can’t help but recognize all that we take for granted out here. we talk our parents will to leave home, mental health, gratitude, and so much more. listen for cooking...

dynamic duo is back😎 we JUST came back from our trips to bangladesh and we gots so much to share!! this episode is all about the culture shocks we faced being american-born bengalis, like the idolization of education, being scolded for wanting alone time, collectively washing hands in bowls, and a whole lot more. enjoy this one and the rest that we have to come!! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ our youtube:...

welcome to another solo episode, but from bangladesh!! have y'all ever traveled abroad to your mother country and your parents bring 10 huge luggages full of just gifts? in this week's story time episode, i talk about the whole process of getting your visa at the bangladesh embassy, buying souvenirs and gifts for your family back at home, and how to haggle like a pro. you're in for a ride with this episode so we hope u enjoy!! keep tabs on us: our instagram:...

inspired by my boxing coach violating me for my subpar boxing skills, this solo episode is on handling criticism :/ being criticized is something i've always had difficulty accepting, but as we all know is vital to our growth and development. south asians can struggle with it the most cus of the insufficient ways we've been critizied by our family/community growing up, so my story is not unique, but surely one we can all relate to. tap in and share thoughts! keep tabs on us: our instagram:...

we get it, it's hard to make friends as adults. especially as girls, we were taught to always compete with other girls and gossip where it feels impossible to find true girlfriends in your 20s. in this solo episode, mohuya talks about how to find and maintain those female friends when you move out of your hometown or outgrow old friendships. this episode is peak girlhood and i hope this video finds u in the algorithm if you're also on the same boat of trying to find ur people :) keep tabs on...

ever had a 'cringey' moment in high school that you could never say out loud? well us too, except we're gonna tell you because we can laugh about it now and so you don't feel as alone. we got stories ranging from doing 5 talent shows in one sitting just to look cool in front of our classmates to buying the same prom dress as someone else, and everything else in between. high school is such a small portion in our lives, so there's no point to delve on the past when there's so much more look...

hello it’s mashnun and it’s my first solo ep on 2024🫂 wanted to keep it calm and just talk bout something that’s been on my mind in celebration of finally moving to nyc this one’s all bout taking risks as a south asian, my thought process behind why i did some of the risky things i did, how i built my foresight, and just some words of advice for my familia who are feeling complacent in life. show me luv cus i luv you i hope you enjoy --- Support this podcast:...

growing up, we didn't have too much financial literacy and knowledge on credit cards, 401Ks, how to actually save up, healthy spending habits, and things related to money. we had to kinda learn about money the hard way by making mistakes and researching it on our own. in this episode, we're going to share some of our top lessons and advice about money so that you don't have to go through the same thing that we did. hope u enjoy!! keep tabs on us: our instagram:...

y'all LOVED part one of this, so we had to come back stronger with part two of relationship red flags that you have to be wary of. this includes avoiding extreme mama's boys, guys that pay for everything just so they can have control over you, girls who have unsupportive friends, and also people who use too much social media...????some of these are also quite common in traditional, south asian relationships so cue the hot takes in this episode...t y'all need to listen before you commit to any...

welcome to the first solo episode of 2024!! in this episode with mohuya, we're going to talk about what habits i'm bringing with me and what i am leaving behind in the new year!! comparing yourself to others? nope, haven't heard of her. holding celebrities to high standards? couldn't be me. so if you also need inspo on what wellness routines to focus on in 2024 and what to leave behind, listen along to this :) enjoy!! keep tabs on us: our instagram:...

we always hear about 'the american dream' and how our parents moved across the world and sacrificed their livelihoods for us to achieve this ideal life. but it wasn't until we got older where we realized that our versions of the american dream is completely different than what we saw on western media and also what our parents expected of us. it's not really about having a white picket fence and it's not really about becoming a doctor to help our parents' reputation, but something completely...

hot topic for the first of 2024!! why do brown people feel the need to always please white people, and have the desire the satisfy them? we were inspired by a tiktok by @azitatoprahman who spoke about witnessing a ton of brown influencers and creators who built their platforms on the basis of being brown but have now been silent about what’s happening in 🍉. in this episode, we talk about where we’ve fell victim trying to please white people, brown on brown hatred, and how advocating for...

last episode of the year!! a lot has been going on and a lot has been on our minds so we wanted to spend this episode sharing a bit bout things we find ourselves closely attached to, how we end up with so much on our shoulders, and learning the process of detachment. whether its detaching ourselves from being so result driven, from family expectations, or just any external source that has too much control over us, the art of detachment is powerful and one that all south asians should...

we made fun of our mom's routines and hated making our bed growing up, but like maybe.... our parents were onto something. now that we're older, we have small self care routines and habits that may seem 'annoying' to do, but make the world of a difference when you're having those rough mental health days. things like washing the dishes before bed so you don't have to worry about it in the morning or waking up an hour before your usual time to have "me time" can be so beneficial for your...