Sometimes you get derailed in big and small ways and you need to have a toolkit to help you restore your mindset and focus. To trip or fall is human. Wisdom is buying an umbrella when the weather is sunny knowing the rain is inevitable from time to time. This speech from Shonda Rhimes given at Dartmouth in 2014 is one of my go-tos. Like she says, while the dreamers dream, the world belongs to the doers. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers...

My subconscious decided to fire shots at me. This is my first experience with a personal attack from myself to me. So you were wronged… are you going to play victim for the rest of eternity? Stop it. Don’t @ me when I say I’m never getting married again tomorrow. I told you I’m personally attacking myself… and you. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

Picking up from Pt 1 last week, here is Pt 2 of what my mother taught me unintentionally, informed by the idea that we become what we see, not what we are told to be, unless we put mental interventions in place like therapy, consciousness, knowledge, learning, and unlearning. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

Inspired by the short film “Legacy” in which Dove uses an experiment to demonstrate that children copy their parents’ insecurities, I am sharing some of the things (good, bad, and maybe even funny) my mother unintentionally taught me. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

Is year-end fatigue setting in? Yeah, me too. I’m also a little jet-lagged. That’s probably why a refresher on the little things that build big results seemed like such a good idea. Here is a collection of thoughts and ideas to help with the refresh from the book, The 12 Week Year by Brian Moran and Michael Lemmington. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

Let’s discuss “Father Forgets,” a poem by William Livingston Larned. I came across it while reading Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

Disclaimer: I have a tenacious chest infection that causes my voice to dip in order to minimise the sudden and unavoidable coughing fit that results from speaking too animatedly. Welcome to our coffee date. Today I tell you stories from different books and what they have driven me to consider as I begin re-reading some of my favourite books. Featured books and resources are: How the One-Armed Sister Sweeps her House; The Secret Lives of Baba Segi’s wives; Steve Harvey, Adam Grant & Trevor...

Hello hi. Welcome to this week’s coffee date. This week’s installment is a full summary of Robert Greene’s 48 Laws of Power. A link to the source is below. I sound a little apologetic and give a lot of disclaimers because Robert Greene’s work is controversial because it is Machiavellian. Be that as it may, it is not my part of my purpose to be the information police. I share books and this is a book. A bestseller at that. Comments on the subject are usually about people grappling with the...

Hello hi. Welcome to this week’s coffee date. This week’s installment is special because I am a huge fan of Esther Perel’s work and I am deliberately stepping more fully into the “holistic” part of the holistic success I like to talk about so much. Esther Perel’s talk on relational intelligence will have you rethinking what you think you know. A link to the source is below. Enjoy! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus...

Hello hi. Welcome to our coffee date. I probably needed this episode more than you did. Robert Greene’s thoughts on the Charles Darwin story and the window between graduation and recognition is everything we each need to remember when facing a new opportunity. What have masters gone by filled that space with? This should have been part of the make yourself unforgettable series. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus...

source: Simon Sinek & Trevor Noah on Friendship, Loneliness, Vulnerability, and More. In short, why friendship is the hero ingredient to a holistically successful life. Available on Simon Sinek’s Youtube channel or via the link below. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

Imagine this: You’re sitting at a dinner party, and the conversation drifts to relationships. One guest says, "I’d never divorce a woman who cooks like this." Laughter ensues, but underneath that joke lies a troubling assumption—one that equates a happy marriage with culinary skills. Now, think about how often we use similar, oversimplified metrics in other areas of our lives. I am a little tired and my mouth is dry but please indulge me and let’s talk about it. Just when you think the...

In this week’s coffee date, we go to the deep places to talk about why som experts say that the life partner you select is the most important career decision of your life. What exactly happens when you get it wrong? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

In today’s express coffee date I share a train of thought kick-started by Tom Sharpe’s The Gropes. Have you, in an unfortunate fit of cleverness, ever hidden something from others and planned to come back for it only to find that you were so clever that even you can’t find it again? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

In this week’s coffee date we discuss thoughts from unrelated sources all inspired by Whitney Houston that come together to teach and inspire thoughts around inspiration versus imitation. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

The world’s most successful YouTuber and Malcolm Gladwell in Outliers have very different ways of sharing similar sentiments on how to succeed. This week’s Thursday express episode is here with the usual 10-minute idea that’s just food for thought as you go into the weekend. Enjoy it. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

Why have so many lotto winners gone bankrupt? Would you go bankrupt too? Let’s talk about it on this week’s coffee date. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

A thought for the week in 10 short minutes inspired by @tonfifi on Instagram. Let’s talk about “a surge of audacity.” This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

On today’s coffee date, we discuss 3 ideas that are worth fully grasping because people often confuse them with different concepts that mean something else entirely: humility is self-deprecation, patience is not sitting and waiting, and knowing your “enough” is not putting a cap on your ambition or dreams. Let’s talk about it. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

Spoiler alert: one is healthy. The other is not. Yet, one is routinely confused with the other. Let’s end that confusion in this express episode's little corner of the internet. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chioneso.substack.com

In this episode, we dive into Brené Brown's powerful "Lake Travis Story," where she unpacks exactly why the phrase "the story I’m telling myself is" is so powerful that it is used both by fortune 500 CEOs and successfully married couples. This concept helps us engage more deeply with our emotions and assumptions, leading to more honest and vulnerable conversations. Brené uses a personal story involving her husband to illustrate how this simple phrase can shift our perspective and improve...

Guess who’s back? Back again? We are back!!! Tell a friend. I figured I would rest and rethink the podcast. I really imagined I would be thinking about scaling back. Turns out my intellectual brain and my creative brain don’t have the same ideas. The creative brain won so, now, the podcast will be coming to you in long form on Tuesdays and in short form on Thursdays. Meet Thursday’s Express Chai! It’s an episode about 10 minutes long and it…. well, I tell you about it in this episode. See you...

The Podcast is one year old this Tuesday. Remember the days of #CareerTuesday? Me too! It's a little unbelievable that a year has passed since my first shaky episode of the pod. I guess it really is true that you should just start that thing. To mark the occasion, this week's coffee date is a heart-to-heart. I don't have any major regrets in life but some lessons could have done me a favour by showing up a little sooner. Let's talk about those. This is a public episode. If you would like...

Welcome to our coffee date. Today we continue the Crafting an Unforgettable Presence series inspired by the book "Make Yourself Unforgettable" by Dale Carnegie. In this series, we feature little-known stories about little-known folks (by popular culture standards at least) who have an incredible amount to teach us. People like today's subject: Sir Arthur Lewis, the first black Nobel Prize winner. He was also the first black many things as you will hear. I hope he inspires you as he did me....