Have you ever felt that intimacy in your relationship brings both comfort and discomfort? Why do we feel pressured to conform or seek space when getting too close to someone? In this episode, we delve into these intriguing dynamics of human connection. We explore the pressures of seeking complete unity in relationships and the concept of the 'fusion mindset.' Hear how technology's impact on our interactions can lead to pseudo-connections, affecting the delicate balance between intimacy and loneliness. Gain practical insights on recognizing and communicating your needs, and understand how personal growth often comes through navigating discomfort and anxiety. Learn how to confront and manage relationship tensions, bringing curiosity and openness to the table, especially in sexual intimacy. Dr. Corey Allan is a husband, father, author, speaker, and a Marriage and Family Therapist with a Ph.D. in Family Therapy. He and his wife Pam host a weekly podcast, Sexy Marriage Radio, where they help frame conversations and actions that help couples create a marriage fully alive. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 06:30 Dr. Corey Allen's journey to helping marriages thrive. 09:58 How sexual intimacy mirrors life and relationships. 16:07 Understanding the elicitation window: Unpacking sexual intimacy and relationship dynamics. 21:02 How past reactions shape present interactions. 25:57 Balancing separateness and togetherness in relationships. 36:27 The importance of tolerating discomfort and anxiety as a pathway to personal and relational growth. 44:15 The importance of identifying and challenging habitual behaviors that may inhibit deeper connection. Mentioned Intimacy & Desire: Awaken The Passion In Your Relationship (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Resurrecting Sex (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Passionate Marriage (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Crucible Institute Dr. David Schnarch Turn Criticism Into Connection | Dr Jessica Higgins #678 https://drjessicahiggins.com/erp-027-asking-for-what-you-want-getting-it-with-dr-corey-allen/ ERP 238: How to Find Your Emotional Balance in Relationship ERP 110: How to Manage Two Majorly Conflicting Needs in Relationship Connect with Dr. Corey Allan Websites: smr.fm Facebook: facebook.com/sexymarriageradio YouTube: youtube.com/@sexymarriageradio Instagram: instagram.com/sexymarriageradio TikTok: tiktok.com/@sexymarriageradio Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-marriage-radio/id472302597 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.