Forcing oneself to "accept things as they are" or asking others to, sets up conflict, invokes defensiveness and leads to stuck, judgmental feelings. Exploring awareness leads to a spaciousness where the present moment event is allowed to be what it is- good or bad. If an event has occurred, becoming aware opens a compassionate channel. Practicing awareness though regular  mindfulness meditation opens  compassionate awareness so that both wonderful and adverse events can be experienced with grace.