This is for breaking out of cycles caused by vulnerability and anxiety – whether that’s your own mind or a common interaction with a loved one. What I am talking about are moments when you take another person’s feelings, personally. When we get triggered by their emotional response, we get defensive which creates distance and or hurt. That sequence is what I am creating an intervention around with this episode. This is also about reseating yourself in what I would call neutrality and openness: restoring faith in what is possible for you especially in the face of negative thoughts about yourself and your life. It’s really about redirection after you have what I would call an old record that gets put on the record player that is your mind. What we tend to do is that old dance of pain that takes us to this next emotion, and this next belief, and this next one. Like being in a haunted waltz with a zombie who won’t let go.   So if you have a predictable set of hopeless conversations with a spouse – OR you have a predictable rut of a thought process, yourself – this is for you. This is about wading through the mud of your engrained physical response, because with attention– there is change on the other side. Sending love!   Support this week’s sponsors!   Chewy Right now you can save $20 on your first order and get free shipping by going to Chewy.com/podhelpmebeme Minimum purchase required. New customers only. Terms and conditions apply. See site for complete details.   Gabb is offering $25 off any Gabb smartphone or smart watch to new customers—with no contract required! That’s $25 off any. Just go to GABB.com/HELPMEBEME   Better Help Visit BetterHelp.com/helpmebeme today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices