On today's episode, Luis is joined by Dr. Nicole LePera, better known as @The.Holistic.Psychologist. Dr. Nicole is a therapist who created the SelfHealers Circle to allow people to go on their own journey and create who they want to become. Dr. Nicole shares with us her new book, How to be the Love You Seek, as well how her approach to relationships has evolved over time. Luis and Nicole discuss: How to interrupt reflexive patternsDistinguishing between "This relationship is not for me" vs "I don't have the capacity for this relationship [right now]."Why trauma doesn't like unpredictability and how we can mistake familiarity for comfort or safetyWhy "true love" isn't undying loyalty; we can accept people exactly as they are AND maintain boundariesComing to distinguish the difference between peace and contentment vs being tired or bored in the bodyHow "immaturity" is an entitlement of regulation from our partner which is carried over from childhood when attachment and co-regulation needs were unmetNontraditional relationships, expanded relationship & throuplesHer personal evolution of her relationship with herself and her partnersYou can learn more about Nicoles's work at: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ You can read more about, and register, for the upcoming retreat here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/menla-retreat