When you speak, do you want to be understood? The issue we discuss in this episode is: effective communication requires both assertive speaking and active listening. Many focus on improving listening skills but being able to clearly articulate your perspective is equally crucial. Passive, aggressive, or ambiguous speaking can derail understanding. Assertive speaking involves first clarifying your own desires and perspectives. Then it means expressing ideas directly yet respectfully, using "I" statements without accusation. Also, taking the time to explain why something matters helps deepen connection and vastly improves understanding. We also discuss why nonverbal cues like posture and facial expressions need to align with your speech. Benefits of assertive speech include self-confidence, self-respect, understanding of one's own emotions, earned respect from and for others, and improved relationships. It takes practice to learn how to speak assertively and we encourage starting practice in low-risk settings.  We encourage you to rehearse assertive statements about unclear communication issues you have had in the past. It is great to have a trusted friend listen and watch, evaluating if you tend to be too passive or aggressive and ask for feedback about clarity. Recalibrate as needed to directly communicate real desires and needs. Website: https://www.soulanchoring.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@soulanchoring Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soulanchoring Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SoulAnchoring Twitter: https://twitter.com/SoulAnchoring  Email: [email protected]