Do you long for "normal" in your relationships or do you embrace the quirk?  In this week's episode, we’re wrapping up our seven-part series on relationship patterns that build strong couples. We dive into the fourth pattern that helps couples “make it”... Pattern 7: They made light of each other's quirks. They appreciated and acknowledged the quirks in each other. Even if they were at times annoying they made light of them and were never hypercritical. (From Dr. Nicole LePera –...

What if fighting in your relationship could actually bring you closer together? In this week's episode, we’re continuing our seven-part series on relationship patterns that build strong couples. We dive into the fourth pattern that helps couples “make it”... Pattern 6: They fought. They got on each other's nerves, they fought, and were frustrated with each other at times. But they knew how to navigate conflict, bounce back, and move forward. (From Dr. Nicole LePera –...

True or False? Avoiding difficult conversations will make your relationships better. FALSE! In this week's episode, we’re continuing our seven-part series on relationship patterns that build strong couples. We dive into the fourth pattern that helps couples “make it”... Pattern 5: They had difficult conversations. They communicated regularly and were open to each other's perspectives. They didn't cope or avoid or deny. Emotional regulation was present so conversations rarely became...

Ever feel tempted to “fix” a person you’re in relationship with? In this week's episode, we’re continuing our seven-part series on relationship patterns that build strong couples. We dive into the fourth pattern that helps couples “make it”... Pattern 4: They let each other be themselves. There was a base level of respect and admiration for each other rather than a desire to change each other. This Freedom brought out the best parts of each of them. (From Dr. Nicole LePera –...

Every couple faces difficult seasons—but how do some come out stronger while others fall apart? In this week's episode, we’re continuing our seven-part series on relationship patterns that build strong couples. We dive into the third pattern that helps couples “make it”... Pattern 3: They had been through really dark times. They had all been through really difficult periods where they were at a Crossroads and even had second thoughts, but they chose to stay together and work through it....

What happens to a relationship when friendship is missing? In this week's episode, we’re continuing our seven-part series on relationship patterns that build strong couples. This time, we’re talking all about friendship—because couples who “make it” don’t just love each other; they genuinely like each other, too!  Pattern 2: They're friends. They genuinely enjoyed spending time with each other. They were excited to come home and catch up after a long day. Friendship was the basis of their...

What’s more important: keeping family happy or building a strong, God-centered relationship? In this episode, we kick off a seven-part series on relationship patterns that help Christian couples build healthy, God-centered relationships. These patterns came from Dr. Nicole LePera (@the.holistic.psychologist) who identified these seven patterns in couples who "made it." Pattern 1: They had family boundaries. They put the relationship first and had clear boundaries with family. They didn't...

What if resilience in your relationships could mirror the endurance of an elite athlete? In this episode, we reflect on a powerful lesson from the world of elite sports and how it applies to our walk with God and our relationships. We begin by diving into an inspiring Instagram reel shared by Coach Dan Casey (@CoachDanCasey), featuring tennis legend Roger Federer. His message reminds us that even the top players in the world lose nearly half the points they play—but it's their ability to let...

Do you feel frustrated that things could be better? If so, congratulations on having high standards! 😅 In this episode, we dive into an insightful reel from Donald Miller (@donaldmiller) and unpack his thoughts on having high standards in life. Whether you're facing challenges in your marriage, career, or personal goals, this conversation encourages you to embrace those frustrations as a sign of your desire for excellence. We get real about the tension between healthy expectations and the...

Can I accept (and embrace) that suffering can be for my good and my transformation into Christ-likeness?  This conversation dives deep into the purpose and presence of suffering in our lives, particularly through a Christian lens. Darren Mulligan, the lead singer of We Are Messengers (@wearemessengers), shares an insightful perspective on how suffering is a gateway to abundant life, not something to be avoided or resented. His point is that while the Gospel promises life, that life comes...

Ever feel like you're just not being seen in your relationship? We’ve got a special treat for you today! We recently stumbled upon an amazing reel by Morgan Birch, also known as @GoodMorganTherapy on Instagram. Morgan is not only a relationship coach with a fun and bubbly personality, but she also has some seriously impactful advice for couples. In this reel, she shares in her unique "S-E-E-N" method: S - What am I scared of right now?  E - What am I embarrassed about?  E - What am I...

What's more important to success: technique or attitude? In this week's episode of the "I Feel Loved When..." Podcast, Cosmo and Suzi dive into a fascinating conversation that unpacks the importance of attitude over technique, inspired by a motivational reel from @arcstrive. Listen in as we dissect a thought-provoking exchange between a coach and a young student, and uncover deep truths that apply to our everyday relationships—whether it's in marriage, friendships, or even our work...

Are your compliments surface-level flattery, or a call-out of a person's attributes and efforts? In this episode, we're diving into the art of giving meaningful compliments, inspired by a powerful Instagram reel from Mel Robbins (@melrobbins). We often toss around compliments like "You're so smart" or "You look great," but how much do these words really impact the person receiving them? In this episode, we explore how to move beyond surface-level flattery and into the realm of truly edifying...

Are you feeling invisible or unvalued in your relationships? Or perhaps, without realizing it, are you creating an environment where others feel unseen? In this episode of the "I Feel Loved When..." @soulanchoring podcast, we reflect on a powerful lesson from a social experiment involving world-renowned violinist Joshua Bell (as shared by No One Knows What They’re Doing (@nooneknows.show) with Erin McGoff (@advicewitherin) interviewing Ryan Stygar (@attorneyryan)).  When Bell played in a...

Did you know that sometimes nervousness is just excitement in disguise?  In this episode of the "I Feel Loved When..." podcast @soulanchoring, we listen to a great clip from Simon Sinek (@simonsinek) about how all it takes move from being nervous to being excited is a mindset shift. We explore how to make this powerful shift, especially when it comes to sharing what God has given us. 💖 We share how being prepared and focused can transform nervous energy into excitement. Whether it’s in...

Do you long for acceptance or love?  In this @soulanchoring podcast episode, we're diving into the true meaning of love and acceptance. We listen to an Instagram reel where Jimmy Rex (@mrjimmyrex) and Ed Mylett (@edmylett) contend that what we really want is love, not acceptance.  Do you want your friends to accept you just as you are, or do you want them to love you deeply enough to challenge you to grow? We'll explore the difference and why it's crucial to surround ourselves with people...

When was the last time you had nothing to do and did NOT reach for your phone?  On this week’s podcast episode @soulanchoring, we listen to a reel from Mel Robbins (@melrobbins) where she interviews Dr. Alok Kanojia (@healthygamer_GG). Dr. Kanojia suggests embracing boredom to break free from the constant pull of our devices.  We like the idea of breaking free from that pull, but suggest that instead of just sitting and being “bored,” learn how to use that downtime to connect with God,...

Do you see yourself as a victim of God? In this transformative episode, Suzi shares a talk she delivered at a women's conference at her church. We explore the profound message of John 10:17-18, where Jesus declares His authority to lay down His life and take it up again. Jesus was not a victim, and by understanding this, we can shift our perspective from a victim mentality to one of faith and trust in God's sovereignty and love. Join us as we delve into how God uses challenging and even...

Do you embrace challenges or do you curse them? In this week's podcast episode, we listen to a clip from Ben Stuart (@ben_stuart_) of Passion City DC (@passioncitydc) where he talks about introducing his kids to the movie Karate Kid and the mind blowing realization they had during the movie. He is a great storyteller and we found so much depth to his analogy! In this compelling episode, we dive into the profound truth that Jesus tests us not to break us but to build us. In Romans 5:3-5, we...

Do you see friends as disposable? In this week's podcast episode, we listen to clips from a podcast with Simon Sinek (@simonsinek) on The Diary of a CEO Podcast (@thediaryofaceopodcast). Simon says that having good friends around you makes life worth living - it makes you more resilient to the struggles of life. We agree and discuss the nuances of being a good friend.  But sadly, we also found that two things are true:  We’re not good at making friends Our culture tells us that family is...

What's up with the IFLoW Weekend Workshop? Cosmo and I have had some questions about the IFLoW Weekend Workshop, so we decided to make a quick video answering some of them!  Why should I come? What's the benefit for me?  What's your reason for having this workshop? (Hint: We hate loneliness!) What should I expect?  I've done weekend things before and after a brief "high," things just go back to normal. How is your weekend any different?  You can listen to us talk through these things...

People are like puzzles - we can't understand the whole person by knowing just one piece.  In this week's podcast episode, we hear Denzel Washington give a concise synopsis of what it means to have a dream versus to have a goal. We, of course, applied this to relationships! If you want healthy, God-honoring relationships, you must put in the effort to see the whole person and that means you can't just dream about having great relationships, you have to plan for them. We all have dreams and...

You can't do any of the awesome things we talk about on this podcast... unless you have the Holy Spirit empowering you!  In this week's podcast episode, we listen to a recording of Corrie Ten Boom on @biblicalrestorationministries as she talks about a simple glove being empowered to do all kinds of things once there is a capable hand inside it.  ALL the things we talk about here – having an anchored soul, being able to express what makes you feel loved, forgiving others, handling conflict...

It’s ok to take a break in the midst of conflict.  HOWEVER, you must also come back together to repair, reconnect, and resolve the conflict to figure out how to move forward. This week we're listening to Jimmy Knowles (@jimmy_on_relationships) talk about shutting down during conflict in this Instagram reel. We had very different – basically opposite – styles of dealing with conflict that we had to sort through in order to resolve conflict in a healthy way. The goal of conflict is mutual...