Jess and Caroline start out silly this week with some thoughts on oral talents (not what you think) and boobs as birthstones. In classic Not For Everyone style, this leads into deep conversations about knowing when difficult periods of life will end, how to achieve mindfulness, and the mania of babysitting your partner at social events. Plus, work dilemmas: what to do when you might be the micromanager, how to find your motivation at work, and dealing with the trap of unlimited PTO. Oh the...

This week, Jess and Caroline discuss all things couple culture, like when baby talk is appropriate, putting on non-sexual performances for your partner, and engaging in bits that, sincerely, only you and your person will understand. They also get into their couple culture with each other while recapping their recent trip to LA—which is full of general travel complaints and how they overcame them all.  Plus, they get deep on what it means to let people experience their own negative emotions....

This week Jess and Caroline sit down to record together live in LA, where they are joined in studio by a very special guest: Alexandra Anele! Alex is a talented makeup artist, content creator, dedicated NFE listener, and Caroline’s first YouTube friend – so it was a delight to have her on to share tips and hot takes on all things beauty and personal style.  But it’s not all makeup and beauty; the crew also ruminates together on if you can have a career in social media without losing your...

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone/⁠⁠⁠ to get 10% off your first month. __ Jess and Caroline are back together. 3 They jump right into some hot topics with some hot takes: how tracking your energy can work to your benefit, how our feelings tell the truth no matter the trigger, navigating different communication styles in relationships, and the danger of letting labels take all the responsibility for our actions.  Plus a couple...

In this special edition of Caroline's alleged "solo" episode, she is joined by her boyfriend, Justin. Justin chimes in to share a male perspective on all your questions - including what it’s like to date our resident hater, his perspective on dating apps, when it might make a little sense to “sell out” in your career, and so much more. They also debate various “dating crimes and misdemeanors” and can’t help but end it on…forearm strengthening tips? Don’t miss all the nasty boi phrases...

Sound the alarms: we’ve got a solo ep from Jess this week! She talks all about creative bursts, and how the past two weeks specifically have been glorious for her. But when the burst fades away...Jess reflects on what should happen next. She turns to Instagram DMs to learn how listeners conceptualize the idea of “being a creative” and how that looks in different career paths.  Later, she goes into some therapeutic practices for understanding yourself and your place in your family. As a child...

It’s the one we’ve all been waiting for…the milestone of the century…the 69th EPISODE. Join Jess and Caroline (and a special guest??) to talk all your kookiest sex fantasies, including respected older gentlemen, tears as foreplay, marketplace porn, pod sex, and…Catwoman?  And then one person’s fantasy gets Jess and Caroline in rumination mode: is your sex better if your relationship is better? Plus, they discuss how to work through sex insecurities, asking someone out in real life, and the...

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to ⁠⁠https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone/⁠⁠ to get 10% off your first month. __ Jess and Caroline are ready to jump right in, and they start with some important thoughts on starting a business that might be in direct competition with somebody else. Learn from these certified experts on what makes a business thrive or die and dive deep into the pros of winging it versus planning everything to a T.  But that’s not all: they discuss the...

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to ⁠https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone/⁠ to get 10% off your first month. --- Look, we’re all about a good segway here, and in this episode you’ll smoothly transition from looking cute at the gym to butt-cinching leggings to a childhood ass-slapping conundrum.  But that also gets Jess and Caroline in a deeper conversation about touching friends platonically. If you, too, are a person who finds hugging, cuddling—even laying your head on the...

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone/ to get 10% off your first month. --- This episode is for you, dawgs! Jess and Caroline set the stage with an Uber debacle and a few linguistic complaints and then move straight into this week’s theme: showing up for yourself. They dive deep into codependence, how we abandon ourselves, and how to generate real connection.  Plus, it wouldn’t be an episode about *self* without some inner child work!...

Anyone else feeling strangely… “baby” this week? Jess and Caroline coddle each other’s thoughts as they discuss imaginary friends, creepy children, and celebrities they can see themselves being friends with.  They grow up a little (sigh) to talk through how to quit a job where you genuinely love your coworkers, answer a haunting would-you-rather, and cry loving tears over the sweetest review known to man. Curl up in a blanket for this one and let Caroline’s imaginary nanny take care of you...

Is it getting hot in here? Jess and Caroline confront some hot takes with even spicier answers, but first: they talk the perils and plights of internet feedback—on YouTube and Instagram. Then, get ready to discuss the correct pronunciation of “espresso,” the unspoken meaning of “likes,” the one that got away, Venmoing friends after dinner, staying friends with your ex, and period sex.  You’ll also hear their thoughts on the smaller details of life, including toe socks, unscented candles,...

This week, adult friendships are back on Jess and Caroline’s minds. They talk through how to schedule a girl's trip, their qualms with hosting, people pleasing breakthroughs, and how they each put on a show in social situations. They get to the bottom of this realization: are you really an introvert—or are you draining your social battery by performing?  Plus, there’s still plenty of giggling about bell pepper dilemmas, horrific corporate lingo, and a new weekend hack that might change your...

Not For Everyone is basically a beauty podcast now. Jess and Caroline discuss venturing into the Botox world, witnessing the aging process, and parents' chaotic relationship to their children’s acne-ridden faces. They also consider life’s deepest questions, like how did we learn to do makeup without YouTube? Caroline is weirdly obsessed with smell this episode, so get ready for some sweaty takes that might involve snails. Plus, the kooks were correct: Caroline admits she may, in fact, look a...

In a solo recording, Caroline opens up about the big thing she has been avoiding talking about on the podcast - including the tips and tools for surviving the worst of your anxiety. She also responds to a listener WHATADO about what to do when you find yourself stuck in a one-sided friendship, with major boundary violations and messy complications. Various Trader Joes reflections included. Kisses! RESOURCES [Book] The Emotionally Exhausted Woman [Book] The Power of Off: The...

It’s everybody’s favorite time: when Jess and Caroline give non-expert advice on a wide array of topics. This time, listeners wrote in with a friends-with-benefits conundrum, workplace boundary issues, and the problem with an influx of wedding invitations. Plus, find out who has the softest butt around, if going to therapy equals enlightenment, and why the heck we wash our towels. Hope this helps guide you in your life—and if not, we can’t be held liable. Kisses! __ This episode was...

Another episode full of lukewarm takes, cyclical insights, and "that's so funny" reactions, this week Jess and Caroline show up with nothing to give but complaints and bad jokes. First, Jess is no impressionist - and also apparently no standup - as she *corporate gulps* her way through a series of failed jokes that forced her to quit her comedy class. Meanwhile, Caroline be lutin' (scientific term for in the luteal phase of her menstrual cycle), leaving little room for laughter but a lot of...

Jess and Caroline are just two sporty girls who are too busy collecting baby teeth and committing to unnecessary extracurriculars to keep a busy schedule. But here they gather on a Sunday morning ready to repeat to you exactly what their therapists said this week. First, Jess is thinking about quitting a hobby that no one told her to pick up. Who know that was even possible?! Caroline talks her through it and then offers deeper context and examples on a hard hitting truth shared in last...

Jess has been spiraling, and she has her ear acne to show for it. But with Caroline's help, she's coming out of her seasonal sadness live on the pod - and this episode has the giggles to prove it. The two talk about navigating conflict with their boyfriends, who both happen to be calm/cool/collected, while our co-hosts are emotional and reactive for a living. Fun! This conflict resolution breakdown turns into a tell-all of Jess and Caroline's first (and only) "fight" as partners on the pod....

The hater and lover are reunited after a month of doing absolutely nothing besides sending each other bedtime texts. Caroline does have one more thing to show for her break, though: a new sport she’s invented. Or at least a concept that will improve the sporting experience for her? The details aren’t important. The two move onto bigger topics as Caroline shares a Tony Robbins quote that stirred her into action recently: “the path of least resistance will never make you happy.” She’s happily...

Join a sick Jess on the couch as she cozies up to our first episode recorded in the new year. She kicks off with her list of ins and outs for 2024, which turns into an aspirational sort of roast that points blame at everyone except her. Next, she takes on a couple listener-submitted questions: first, Whatado when you feel like a mother to your partner, and then a question that only felt right to answer with a special guest - her boyfriend. This edition of Jess Thots ends with her best...

It’s Whatado time—and this time Jess and Caroline host an unexpected theme: all things dating. They discuss how to let him down easy, how to hook up when you’re living alone, and what to do when it seems like everyone except you is finding love.  Plus, a Hot Take turned Whatado: when should you burn it all down? Get a peak into what Jess and Caroline talk about off the pod, too, with a fun conversation about the perils and disappearances of beloved YouTubers, leading into a conversation...

Jess and Caroline are workin’ 9-5…kind of. They talk all things jobs and money in this episode, from redundant ads to savings accounts to burnout to applying to jobs you think you’re not qualified for. If bros at the golf course do it, you can too. Plus, Jess adds some of her world-famous thots to this episode: a new museum experience (!!), a complaint on couples, and how she’s not accepting new challenges, thank you very much. Looking for a happy story in the media these days? Not For...

This week, Jess and Caroline have a new take on parenting methods: what it might mean to let your child fail. They talk through some of their own experiences with bad parenting advice before heading into dating territory—specifically “Are We Dating the Same Person” FB groups and how those people’s experiences can actually get in the way of finding your person. Then, they’ve got some relationship hacks. Scheduling difficult and deep conversations with your partner, how to ACTUALLY spice up...

Jess and Caroline get absolutely HEATED about this week’s hot takes—but first, you know they had to add another scientific data point to their continuing conversation on dogs and sexuality. The research community may say that animals can be gay, but our Resident Scientists have more to say on the topic.  Then, get ready to get SO mad: J and C talk age gaps in relationships, when baby voices are appropriate, Apple watches ruining formal wear, a multitude of bathroom woes (hot girls have IBS),...