Family freeloading on your unpaid labour is REAL. So what is service, and what is enabling/over-functioning? It requires you to hold high expectations and a level of self-worth on your minimum standards for how others treat you, and how you treat yourself. In this episode we discuss:- It’s overfunctioning when you’re running from a threat- It’s service when you’re connected to your heart- It’s enabling when you limit their potential for growth - The paradox of holding ‘not being liked’ and ma...

Firstly, ouch. That’s a hard place to be. How do you get out of the burnout and resentment cycles and into a parenting relationship that feels more equitable? First, you’ve got to look at why you’re overfunctioning, what your emotional set point is, and how you can step out of the way. So let’s get on the co-parenting train!In this episode we discuss:- Our motherhood can be shaped by how supported or unsupported we feel- Feeling trapped and alone- Trauma responses of self-sufficiency and peop...

When you put a ring on it, the work is not done. But we can tend to find ourselves working our current relationship off an old program and set of agreements. There’s only freedom if you’re choosing it, so let’s talk about how to get out of feeling trapped.In this episode we discuss:- Your own confirmation bias - Whatever you look for, you find- Limiting beliefs that cap what you want and ask for - The discontent of relationship pushing you into choosing yourself - Dedicating years to underval...

What is it with the “mid-life crisis”? And why do relationship break-downs often bear the brunt of it? When your shut-down becomes apathetic, and you’ve given up on bringing your needs into the relationship…and then the relationship ends, often, he’s blindsided. Typically, when you blow up a relationship, you’re seeking a release from an overburdened, over-stressed life. What would it be like, if you considered these things first, before you make a big decision…?To explore feminine ...

We all hope on a wing and a prayer that it will all turn out okay. That all our agonising over conscious parenting, pays off. In the euphoric aftermath of Julie’s son’s 18th, she shares the lead-up, the hot tips, and the unexpected jelly shots that brought family together. Check out Julie’s kids business, Inflatable Nights here: http://www.inflatablenights.au (http://www.inflatablenights.au)To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julie...

When we’re trying so hard to mother in ways that we were not mothered, we can find we exhaust ourselves at the altar of ‘perfection’. What would it look like to stop parenting from a place of lack or fear, and start parenting from a place of love and wellbeing. Let’s find out… In this episode we discuss: - The need to overperform to feel okay - Parenting from a place of lack, fear and anxiety - Being socialised into intensive mothering, with an endless capacity - Ve...

In deciding the type of mother that we want to be, often that’s informed by our experience with our own mother. The view we have of our mother will shape the view we have of ourselves, and therefore, the fuel we draw on in our own mothering, can be created by what was missing or not met by our own mother. In this episode we discuss: - Constantly ‘conscious’ and centering your child is outside the realms of what’s possible for any single human - The deep shame we feel w...

It’s held up as the pinnacle of perfect mothering in our culture, but is it really? Often, what you’re over functioning on, is related to what is intolerable for you to be. The more practiced we can be at examining our subconscious motives ahead of time, the less shock we feel when we get angry. So let’s go on a self-examining journey into the shadow side of the selfless mother. In this episode, we discuss: - Nothing is ever completely selfless or altruistic&nb...

We all want our children to be pleasant, kind, repair well…and so it’s shocking when we see them as inconsiderate, rude, harsh, or on the receiving end of any of these things. As a parent, when do you step in, and when don’t you? In this episode we discuss: - When you feel like you need to get involved with your child’s social dynamics - When your kid’s social situations are normal, vs a problem - Remembering as parents we’re blinded by our lens on our children - Building resilience and...

The longer you “go without”, the harder it is to get it back. To bring back your intimate vibrancy, and chuck out the ‘roommate vibes’, you need to know what’s blocking you, and why, and what you’re going to do about it. So let’s move beyond obligation, complacency, resentment and neglect, and let’s centre the wellbeing of the self, the relationship and the family unit, to bring back sexual connection. To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit...

How do you as a mother embrace the change as your child grows up, but navigate the grief you feel, with grace? This podcast gives you three clear tools and processes to avoid getting stuck when you cling on to particular ages and stages of your child’s development. In this episode we discuss: Shifting your focus on keeping them closeA loss of control can feel like a loss of safetyThe acute awareness of separateLooking back and our tendency to either catastrophise or wear rose-coloured...

The struggles are different, but are they harder? In the generations gone by, where women were relegated to ‘home duties’, there was a confinement, but also a simplicity. Today, there’s privilege, and also struggle as a result of that privilege. In this conversation we open up some key points for you to consider as you wrestle with this question. In this episode we discuss: Was the intense overwhelm always the case? Or are we becoming ‘too soft’?There’s a burden of responsibility when we know...

As we grow in our adulthood and authenticity, inevitably, what also grows is not being liked. Our level of comfort or discomfort involved in not being liked, will determine the level of fulfilment and freedom, or disconnection and futility we feel. So let’s talk about: Your magnetism and what’s working for youChoosing yourself over others versus focusing on being the peacekeeperBalancing your self-infatuation with your light sideLearning how to like the pieces of you that you’ve cast in...

Do you ever think “If I can just get this done…I’ll feel worthy” only you never quite feel enough? What would it be like to separate your list, from your worth? Let’s go there in this conversation. In this episode we discuss: When we look outside for our value, we devalue our workYou can make not getting to your list mean something negative, or you can make it mean an investment in your valuesMotherhood invariably holds the paradox of one foot in ‘fun’ and one foot in ‘responsibility’Where...

Let’s talk about the swing of resentment and infatuation with our children - which is completely normal! Let this conversation and tools unlock you so you can gain capacity, gratitude and heart-bursting love back again. In this episode we discuss: - What spacious, attuned and respectful communication with our children really looks like - Denying the value of your authentic expression - Acknowledging your anger where it’s authentic - The power of self-acknowledgment for the impact that...

Let us walk you through a practical process of connecting and holding your power physically, mentally and spiritually so that you can feel deeply connected, authentic and powerful in your own life, irrespective of outside circumstances or people. In this episode we discuss: - How to stay connected with yourself within the pressure of motherhood - The governance you have over your body, rather than shutting down - Your perceived responsibility to ‘hold it all’ creates a stress response -...

Most of our listeners are fairly in touch with their own experience of being mothered, and based on that, will lead themselves with one of two choices: 1. Replicate the experience. 2. Do the opposite. Through heartfelt story and potent wisdom, in this episode we give you the insights to lead yourself in heart-connected mothering and grand parenting by opening yourself up to different experiences so you can create a mothering experience that is aligned and inspired, not obligated or in...

In this episode we give you 10 easily accessible, easy-to-do ideas on how to break the BS cycles of disconnection and resentment and get back on the connection train that’s taking you to destination ‘the relationship’ you want to live. In this episode we discuss: - What are you an energetic match for? - What do you feel worthy of? - What are you available for? - Asking for what you want - Halting disappointment cycles - Growing who you are to grow your relationship - It takes way more...

The point of this podcast is to leap before you’re ready, and do the thing that makes no sense, even though it’s hard. We want you to have the courage to back your dreams instead of staying in the excruciating agony that is ‘the waiting place’. Don’t focus on perfect, and move forwards with us, through our lessons and learnings that you can implement straight away. In this episode we discuss: - Just f*****g starting! - Embracing the peaks of the experience, and the valleys when it all feels...

How do you allow for more choice and more freedom, whilst also balancing family rules and boundaries? From sleepovers to language use, to the individual freedoms kids want as they grow, how do you hand over responsibility to your children, whilst navigating with a compass that feels safe and nurturing for you. In this episode we discuss: Holding on or handing over responsilbity to your children as they growParenting the same or the opposite of your own personal experienceBringing clarity to...

You’ve learnt into acceptance through part 1, which creates more spaciousness, so let’s go deeper into how *not* to burn your energy through fighting or collapsing into your current shitshow. In this episode we explore: Acceptance is a mindset shiftAcceptance is a perception shiftHow to shift your perception and mindsetThe fruits of abundance are often heralded by intensityHow to shift your perception to find nervous system safetyFinding small gifts within the struggleAsking yourself what you...

Whether you’re 3 months postpartum and your world is upside down, or you don’t know how you’ll do more intensity with more children, ‘life’ just feels hard and chaotic alongside self-growth, relationship, work and kids…this episode is for you! Fighting or collapsing in a period of intensity just burns your energy - so how do you move towards acceptance so you can find moments of peace and pockets of spaciousness? In this episode we explore: This is not bigger than you…tapping into your...

What do our kids need to feel connected to themselves, and easeful in different environment…and what do we need? We have to reconcile that we are inaccurate interpreters of our child, and the situation we find tricky, due to our own wounds. So how do we cultivate flexibility in our parenting, build connection with caregivers and foster secure attachment? Let’s explore together. In this episode we discuss: Don’t label your kids…look for where they’re the oppositeGet curious about your...

We want you to enjoy your January, versus having a consistent, low-level activation & focus on what’s looming. It’s possible to set yourself up for back to school not to feel ‘too much’ and like you’ve confidently got this. You’re just a few steps away, so let’s get started. In this episode we discuss: Identifying where your anxiety is coming fromAuditing where you got flustered this year, and it didn’t work for anyoneGetting specific so you can get solution-focussedKnowing what you need...

The sting, stings, when there’s something in it for you, but gosh it hurts, doesn’t it?! How do we hold our space bubble as our children’s vocabulary grows and their complaints feel deeply personal? Let’s kit you up through practical steps and personal story. In this episode we discuss: - The sting doesn’t leave unless we enter it - Recognising when your ego is in a bruised state - Our triggers are personal and entangled with our inner child/teen - Our children as potent mirrors -...