You've likely heard that confidence comes from thinking positive thoughts about yourself - which can help give us confidence sometimes, although other times it can backfire because those thoughts might not feel believable or we get us so focused on ourselves that we get in our own way and stops us from taking action on our goals. So in this episode I teach you the most powerful shift in mindset I've made to help me build my confidence that isn't thinking more of myself - but actually less. I know that sounds counterintuitive, so tune into the episode to find out why this is true & how to put it into practice in your life. 🙌 CLICK HERE to ORDER Kate's book "Okay. Now What?" - How to Be Resilient When Life Gets Tough. Want to Kate to speak at your event or workplace? Visit https:https://www.kategladdin.com/ Check out Kate's personalised life coaching programs: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching  Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Kate Gladdin welcomes listeners to episode 14 of "Okay Now Watch" and sets the stage for the discussion. Book Announcement (00:00:19) Kate shares excitement about her upcoming book "Okay Now What?" focused on resilience, launching in six days. Journey of Writing the Book (00:01:07) She reflects on her two-year journey writing the book across various countries and challenges faced during the process. Shifting Focus from Self-Doubt (00:02:05) Kate discusses the importance of moving beyond self-doubt to cultivate confidence and embrace discomfort. Redefining Confidence (00:04:04) She challenges conventional views on confidence, emphasizing action and courage over self-centered thoughts. Contribution Over Self-Interest (00:06:11) Kate explains that true confidence comes from focusing on contributing to others rather than obsessing over self-worth. The Question of "Am I Good Enough?" (00:07:05) She argues that instead of asking if one is good enough, it’s more beneficial to consider how to contribute. Embracing Discomfort (00:09:03) Kate highlights the value of embracing discomfort to grow and take meaningful actions in life. The Importance of Self-Expression (00:10:43) She encourages listeners to express themselves freely, using personal choices to inspire others. The Selfishness of Self-Doubt (00:11:33) Kate asserts that dwelling on self-doubt is ultimately selfish, preventing meaningful contributions to the world. Final Thoughts on Contribution (00:12:29) She concludes with a message about the importance of contributing value to the world rather than questioning self-worth.