This week, Jai and Deb continue to explore the work of Carl Rogers, diving even deeper into the topic of helping relationships, which Rogers defines as relationships that "other people can use for their own personal growth."In this episode we discuss the second five out of ten characteristics that Rogers identifies as essential to supporting personal growth in others. These five characteristics are:6) Understanding7) Acceptance8) Safety9) Non-evaluation10) ConfirmationJoin us as we discover...

This week, Jai and Deb continue to explore the work of Carl Rogers, diving even deeper into the topic of helping relationships, which Rogers defines as relationships that "other people can use for their own personal growth."In this episode we discuss the first five out of ten characteristics that Rogers identifies as essential to supporting personal growth in another person. The first five characteristics are:1) Dependability2) Congruence3) Positive Regard4) Healthy Separateness for Oneself5)...

This week, Jai and Deb discuss how to support the process of Self-Actualization in our kids. Using the groundbreaking work of psychologist Carl Rogers as a framework, we explore topics such as authenticity, unconditional love and the power of understanding.We also explore how to form what Rogers calls helping relationships, which he defines as those relationships that "another person can use for his or her own personal growth." Rogers' three key insights into helping relationships are as...

This week, Deb and Jai try something new where they respond to a question from a listener. The topic is separation anxiety and they use attachment theory as the basis for their answer. This was recorded using Zoom video conferencing and will be posted on YouTube too! We'd love to know what you think about this format, and if you have a question for us - please reach out. You can email us at [email protected] or [email protected]. Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:Do...

This week, Jai and Deb finish mapping out the Motivation Continuum that we started discussing in Part 3 of this series, focusing on the four types of extrinsic motivation. Downloading the PDF of this continuum may be helpful. Join us as we explore the hidden costs of using rewards and punishments and what it looks like to move beyond that to more integrated forms of extrinsic motivation. Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:The Motivation ContinuumNY Times Article: Which is...

This week, Jai and Deb look at laziness through the lens of Self-determination Theory, revealing that it is often actually a form of amotivation - an inability to motivate - not a willful choice to remain inactive. Amotivation falls on the far end of the powerful Motivation Continuum offered by SDT, which we begin to explain. Other Links:Edward Deci - On Self-Determination TheoryJessica Lahey - Teaching the Gift of FailureArticle - Laziness Does Not Exist STAY CONNECTED WITH DEB &...

This week, Jai and Deb explore motivation, starting with the search for a "silver bullet" strategy for motivating oneself to go to the gym. During this episode, we also explore the relationship between autonomy and self-actualization, and how both concepts are intimately related to motivation in general.   

This week, Jai and Deb explore three fundamental human needs that, when met, lead to greater vitality, motivation and well-being and, when unmet, contribute to anxiety, depression and lowered of self-esteem. These needs, as articulated by Self-determination Theory, are: relatedness, autonomy and competence. Join us as we discuss how to increase our own well-being and the well-being of our children.

Jai and Deb talk about how to better understand so-called "bad" behavior so we can more skillfully deal with the triggers that inevitably accompany the challenge of parenting.Among the many topics that they explore, Jai and Deb show how inquiring into the stories we tell ourselves about the ways our children behave can help us be both more effective and more peaceful.In addition, they discuss the importance of understanding and working with our own nervous systems as well as how, by...

This week, Jai and Deb conclude their exploration of Attachment Theory, focusing this time on the Loving Alpha. What's the Loving Alpha? Well, it's not authoritarian or dominant style parenting and it's also not permissive. Think of it as something that is aligned with who we are and how we're meant to parent our children. Tune in to better understand what the alpha is and what it's not.We also get into why adolescents seem so rebellious and how the Alpha can best relate to the more...

The Parenting 3.0 Show is a weekly long-form discussion aimed at helping to make parenting more effective and enjoyable for parents and more beneficial for kids.This week, Jai and Deb continue their exploration of Attachment Theory, shining a light on the six ways that attachment bonds develop over time:(1)    Physical Closeness (connection via the senses)(2)    Sameness (mirroring, monkey-see-monkey-do)(3)    Belonging / Loyalty (group identity)(4)    Significance (cherished for who they...

The Parenting 3.0 Show is a weekly long-form discussion aimed at helping to make parenting more effective and enjoyable for parents and more beneficial for kids. This week, Jai and Deb continue their exploration of Attachment Theory, beginning with a deep dive into the now famous set of experiments known as the Strange Situation in which early attachment researchers observed what happens when mothers and their babies are introduced to strangers. This research is where the idea that people...

The Parenting 3.0 Show is a weekly long-form discussion aimed at helping to make parenting more effective and more enjoyable for parents, as well as more beneficial for kids. This week, Jai and Deb begin to explore Attachment Theory. In this first installment, they discuss the importance of shifting from seeing parenting as a role to fulfill to seeing it as a dynamic relationship to inhabit. They also talk about the important distinction between Attachment Theory, which a developmental...

The Parenting 3.0 Show is a weekly long-form discussion about parenting aimed at helping make parenting more effective and more enjoyable for parents, and more beneficial for kids. In this week’s episode, Jai and Deb answer the question: What is Parenting 3.0? We start by describing Parenting 1.0 and when and how we evolved into Parenting 2.0. Along the way, we describe both the benefits and pitfalls of each stage and then discuss how Parenting 3.0 incorporates the best of both previous...

In this introductory episode, Jai and Deb share some background about themselves and talk about what motivated them to create The Parenting 3.0 Show.