Dr. Alexandra is joined by therapist and author Julia Samuel for a wide-spanning conversation about family systems, intergenerational healing, grief, and money. Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530 Every Family Has a Story: How We Inherit Love and Loss by Julia...

Dr. Devorah Heitner, an author and digital wellness expert, joins Dr. Solomon for a conversation about parenting, technology, and the internet. As our world become more and more complex for kids of all ages, Dr. Heitner empowers parents to have conversations with their kids at all ages and stages, model healthy tech usage, and more. Order Dr. Solomon's new book, Love Every...

If you and your partner have a desire difference between you, you're not alone. In this episode, Dr. Solomon is joined by guests Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy and Dr. Jennifer Vencill for an honest and compassionate conversation about mismatched libidos and how partners can navigate this challenge as a team. Order Dr. Solomon's new book, Love Every...

Dr. Solomon is joined by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish for a rich discussion about both of their new books, as well as the growth potential for couples when they engage in therapy and Relational Self-awareness. Order Dr. Tracy's new book, I Didn't Sign Up For This: https://bookshop.org/p/books/i-didn-t-sign-up-for-this-a-couples-therapist-shares-real-life-stories-of-breaking-patterns-and-finding-joy-in-relationships-including-her-o-tracy-dal/20082816?ean=9781683736622 Order Dr. Solomon's new book, Love...

Resentment is one of the most common yet debilitating emotional states we can find ourselves stuck in. In this solo episode, Dr. Solomon normalizes the feeling of resentment and offers nine strategies that can help us get unstuck and begin to honor our own feelings and offer compassion to the people we love. Order Dr. Solomon's new book, Love Every Day, available...

[CW: this episode contains mentions of suicidal ideation.] Intentional boundaries and thoughtful agreements help us ensure that our intimate partnerships are vehicles for growth, mutual support, and healing, especially for individuals and couples who are looking to create relationship agreements beyond monogamy to deepen their understanding of relationship dynamics. Today Dr Solomon is joined by Jessica Fern and David Cooley. They are are life partners, coparents, and coauthors of the new...

Blending families is messy. There are no hard and fast rules. Today's solo episode is devoted to one listener question about dating and motherhood. The question's theme of intentionality, about modelling relationships with the kids and her healing journey is far from an isolated experience. There will be nuggets in this episode to savour and work with for separate conversations between the ex, the boyfriend, and the kids. Pre-order Dr. Solomon's new book, Love Every Day, and register to...

A phrase we've been hearing a lot lately, especially in the dating world, and I’m sure you have as well is “If they wanted to, they would.” In today's episode, Dr Solomon will look at the kinds of fears and beliefs that lead people to stick the “if they wanted to they would” label on a relationship dynamic. You'll also lean into what might be happening in a dynamic that would lead you to declare “if they wanted to, they would” and what else you might do besides stick this label on and walk...

We generally assume that long-term partners sleep in the same bed together. But for some couples, sleep issues or other concerns make it hard for two people to get a good night's rest. "Sleep divorces" are more common than you might think, but the stigma about them remains. In this episode, Dr. Solomon shares tips for how to discuss sleeping arrangements with your partner. Pre-order Dr. Solomon's new book, Love Every Day, and register to receive free gifts after you...

Gina Gutierrez, co-founder of the audio platform Dipsea, joins Dr. Solomon for a conversation about sexuality, imagination, and empowerment. They discuss how audio erotica can help people— particularly women—reconnect with their pleasure and create a safe space for exploration with storytelling. Pre-order Dr. Solomon's new book, Love Every Day, and register to receive free gifts after you order: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/loveeverydaybook/ Use code LOVEPOD for a free month of Dipsea Audio...

Life transitions are inevitable. For couples and families, these chapters offer unique challenges and opportunities. This fall, Dr. Solomon and her husband, Todd, are experiencing a major change of their own, as they launch their youngest off to college and become "empty-nesters." They sat down together in the studio for a candid conversation about what this time is bringing up for them and how they plan to process and celebrate the beginning of this new chapter together. Pre-order Dr....

Has someone every said this phrase to you? Have you ever said it to someone else? In this re-release of a foundational episode, Dr. Solomon explores why the statement "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" is so complicated and what might actually be lying beneath these words in the context of an intimate relationship. Pre-order Dr. Solomon's new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices To Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and...

Working to improve your relationship is hard enough, and when your partner is resistant to the idea of reflecting together, it can feel like you're doomed. In this re-release of a foundational episode, Dr. Solomon explores this common conundrum and shares reminders for the enthusiastic partner who is ready to dive into Relational Self-Awareness work, as well as for the partner who may be feeling more reluctant for a number of reasons. A note: The podcast will be taking a break for the next...

Lane Moore, the Author of "You Will Find Your People," joins Dr. Solomon for a discussion about the joys and heartbreaks of friendship. Lane shares her impetus to write this thoughtful book, and the two discuss why some people might struggle more with friendship due to their upbringing or past experiences, and how they can create a community of people they love as adults. You Will Find Your People: How to Make Meaningful Friendships As an Adult by Lane...

When a relationship comes to a close, how do we decide for ourselves what kind of connection, if any, should remain between us and our former partner? In this episode, Dr. Solomon explores the topic of friendship with exes and shares some helpful musings and questions for anyone who is hoping to gain clarity about what might serve them and their former partner best in this new uncharted chapter. Pre-order Dr. Solomon's brand-new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices To...

Long-distance relationships are no walk in the park, but that doesn't mean they can't thrive. In this episode, Dr. Solomon tackles this topic, sharing tools and tips for couples. If you and your partner live in different time zones, are pros at FaceTime dates, and are constantly asking, "when's our next visit?", this episode is for you. Pre-order Dr. Solomon's brand-new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices To Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and...

Dr. Solomon sits down with Audrey Grunst, a therapist and crisis response expert, to honor the memory of the victims and survivors of the Highland Park Shooting, and to paint a picture of the circles of impact that devastating tragedies such as this one have on communities. Content warning: this episode contains discussions about gun violence, mass shootings, trauma, and recovery. If you're looking for ways to take action, please refer to the resources below as places to start: Moms Demand...

Susan Cain, author of the world-renowned bestsellers "Bittersweet" and "Quiet," joins Dr. Solomon for a conversation about how to honor the poignancy found in the transitional periods of our lives, whether we're launching our kids off into the world, grieving the end of a relationship, or growing old. They also discuss the ways in which the bittersweet impacts and enhances our intimate relationships. Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole by Susan...

Britt Frank joins Dr. Solomon for a conversation about "stuckness" in all its forms. We're all familiar with this feeling in some way or another, and in this episode, Britt offers listeners tools and takeaways to confront stuckness head on, so that we can face ourselves with honesty and learn the skills to carve healthier paths for ourselves in the future. The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward by Britt...

Cycles of rumination and overthinking can be hard to break free from, and they can negatively impact us and our relationships. In this episode, therapist Alicia Muñoz joins Dr. Solomon to address this common thought pattern and shares tools for how to slow down and release ourselves from this headspace. Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partner by Alicia...

Dr. Solomon is joined by the visionary writer and poet Cole Arthur Riley on this episode. They discuss Cole's book, "This Here Flesh: Spirituality, Liberation, and the Stories That Make Us," and explore topics of wonder, contemplation, disability, childhood, and much more. This Here Flesh: Spirituality, Liberation, and the Stories That Make Us by Cole Arthur...

Dr. Solomon is joined by psychologist and author Dr. Yael Schonbrun for a hopeful and inspiring conversation about working parenthood. They discuss the challenges of balancing family and work life as well as strategies to help busy parents structure their lives in a way that works for their family and aligns with their values. Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection by Dr. Yael...

Dr. Laurie Mintz joins Dr. Solomon for a conversation about all things pleasure, from the orgasm gap to sexual myths to vibrators, offering inspiration and encouragement to both individuals and couples as they seek to reignite and reconnect with their desire and sexual identity. Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get It by Dr. Laurie...

Whether you've been on dozens of first dates or are brand new to the experience, this episode will provide tools and tips to help you approach the daunting and exciting task of meeting someone new with Relational Self-Awareness. You can find the First Date Data worksheet in your inbox today if you're a newsletter subscriber. If you're not, click the link below to be added to the mailing list, and you'll receive the worksheet next week. Subscribe to the newsletter to get the "First Date Data"...

In this episode, Dr. Solomon offers 12 practical strategies for navigating dating apps with self-compassion and success. These strategies will help you tune into the emotions that are coming up inside you as you swipe so you can bring more Relational Self-Awareness to your dating journey. Get the brand new REIMAGINING LOVE WORKBOOK: https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/reimagining-love-workbook-0c34cba5-a457-4253-b7d7-9ca051dc0326 Subscribe to Dr. Solomon’s...