RESOURCES: Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-GET-SAFE (1-800-799-7233)Leslie's Quick Start Guide: www.leslievernick.com/start The Hidden Depths of Addiction Discovery of her husband's addiction Struggles with expectations of respect and family values, especially within the church setting Facing Anger and Abuse Anger and threats escalate Irrational anger Psychological and physical toll of the marriage The Impact on Children Tansil's fear and realization of the impact on her children Protective actions taken to shield her children from the abuse Recognizing Red Flags Reflection on early warning signs before and soon after marriage Importance of identifying and not ignoring red flags in relationships The Turning Point: Seeking Safety Seeing the truth Initial steps towards seeking help and legal separation Legal Separation and Its Aftermath Hiring an attorney and filing for legal separation Emotional and practical challenges of separating from an abusive spouse Experiences with victim services and legal protection Support Systems and Conquer Community Participation in Conquer and the support gained from the community Key lessons and validations received from fellow survivors Importance of staying anchored in reality and implementing safety plans The Role of Faith and Church Challenges with pastoral support and their often inadequate response to abuse Importance of faith and prayer in Tansil's journey Positive and negative experiences with church leadership Final Thoughts and Advice Encouragement to listeners to trust their gut instincts and prioritize safety Advice on not dismissing red flags and recognizing one's own worth Final reflections and call to action for women in similar situations to seek help and support