Sex Love and Soul is a place where we cut through the myths around relationships and intimacy, especially for the "nice guys" who struggle to connect deeply with women. I’m Mary Knight, your host, and today, we’re going to explore why being a nice guy doesn’t always get the results you want in your love life and how to shift from being stuck in your head to truly being present in your body. Women appreciate nice guys, but there's a disconnect that many don’t see: nice guys often live in...

Why She Put You in the Friendzone: What You're Missing About Female Attraction In this episode of Sex, Love, and Soul, I, Mary Knight, dive deep into a crucial topic for men—what female sex drive isn't. Many men unknowingly focus on the wrong things in dating, which can land them squarely in the friendzone. Do you think being respectful or walking on eggshells will make her see you as a romantic partner? You might be surprised to learn that respect, while essential in all relationships,...

Feeling confused when a woman suddenly needs space, stops responding to your texts, or seems less available? You're not alone. In this video, we'll get into what's really going on when a woman pulls away during the first few weeks of dating. Is it something you did? Or is it just part of how women rekindle their attraction? We’ll explore why even after an amazing date or great sex, a woman might instinctively create distance. You’ll learn why space can be a crucial part of a woman’s sex...

Understanding Female Sex Drive: A Guide for Men Welcome to the first video in a special series designed specifically for men, inspired by the questions I’ve received from my community. While my coaching, courses, and podcast primarily focus on women, I’ve noticed an increasing number of queries from men seeking to understand the fundamentals of female sex drive. This series aims to demystify this topic and provide you with valuable insights. In this video, we’re exploring the basics of what...

What if I told you there’s no such thing as self-sabotage? Would you believe me? There is no dark part of your psyche trying to mess up your life! This podcast explores the truth behind seemingly unproductive behaviors and what that critical voice inside your head is really trying to tell you. Your inner critic isn't trying to punish you - it's trying to keep you safe. Our brain’s primary function is to keep us alive, equating the unknown with danger and the familiar with safety, even if...

I’ll share actionable techniques you can use in the moment to quickly and effectively resolve triggers. I’ll guide you through practical steps to move through your emotions and manage triggers with grace and a sense of control. These steps aren’t just theoretical; they’re based on my journey and the methods I’ve honed over the past 20 years.  www.sexloveandsoul.com [email protected]

How women use cheating as a relationship strategy...you read that right! If you're one of 'em you're not alone. Listen in for a more empowered way to cope with relationship b.s. www.sexloveandsoul.com [email protected]

In today's episode, we're diving deep into a topic that's as complex as it is common: infidelity. Drawing from my personal experiences, we're going to explore cheating from both perspectives—being cheated on and being the cheater. My journey with infidelity started early, back when I was 19 and engaged to a man who was unfaithful throughout our relationship. But what shaped my understanding of infidelity more profoundly was my own history as a cheater. For many years, I struggled with...

Let's talk about sex and drugs! Today, I'm talking about the intricate relationship between dating, sex, and past experiences with drugs and alcohol. For many of us, the association between dating and intoxicants runs deep, stemming from our youth and popular culture. Even as mature, experienced women in our 50s, these associations can resurface unexpectedly, triggering feelings of anxiety and anticipation. We'll explore how these thoughts and feelings impact our dating experiences and...

Power struggle, anyone? Join me, Mary Knight, on a profound exploration of your personal journey towards freedom and connection. In this episode, we get into the transformative power of shedding the need to always be right. Through relatable anecdotes and introspective questions, discover how releasing the grip of righteousness can unlock authenticity and deeper relationships in your life. Whether you're navigating relationships, personal growth, or seeking greater self-awareness, this...

Manipulating men with sex and other lies You are invited to confront your fears, desires, and vulnerabilities. Through candid conversations and soul-stirring revelations, Mary illuminates the transformative power of honesty, openness, and self-acceptance. This journey towards understanding and acceptance promises to inspire hope and empower you to foster meaningful connections. Tune in to "Sex, Love & Soul" and embark on a journey towards authentic love, profound connection, and soulful...

Hello and welcome! Today's episode is announcing a podcast name change. Stop Dating Losers will now be Sex, Love & Soul!

Welcome to "Stop Dating Losers," where we reflect on our lives filled with proud accomplishments, beautiful children, and successful careers. Yet, when we delve into our romantic past, we're often met with regret. We've all been there—the inner voice echoing, "Why did I marry that guy?" or "What was I thinking?" We're left feeling guilty and ashamed, picking up the pieces of damaged relationships. It's easy to blame ourselves for choosing partners who weren't right for us. But self-blame...

Let's chat about self-trust vs. following strict rules in post-divorce dating. Of all things, I talk about "The Rules" and how sometimes we need to be rigid until we learn to trust ourselves. From setting strict guidelines to embracing flexibility, this episode offers practical advice for finding fulfilling connections in the dating world after divorce. Tune in and empower yourself to make the right decisions for your love life. xoxo Mary

Welcome to Stop Dating Losers! This is a bonus episode that is a sort of part 2 to episode 22, General Manager of the Universe. This topic hits close to home for many of you strong, independent women, over fifty who are reentering the dating scene after divorce. Finding yourself in the role of giver helper fixer, is no longer giving you what you need and now you feel drained and unfulfilled? Well, you're not alone. As a recovering people pleaser, I've been there too. Join me as I share my...

Embrace the profound shift from constantly helping and fixing to authentic connection. Yes, it's possible! Tune in for real insights that challenge conventional dating norms and pave the way for deeper emotional intimacy and satisfaction. If you're ready to break free from outdated patterns and embrace a more fulfilling approach to dating and relationships, this episode is for you! Don't miss out—subscribe now and start your journey towards love and self-discovery today! #DatingAfterDivorce...

"Praise the Lord and pass the ammunition," this timeless phrase echos the essence of human experience, emphasizing the delicate balance between faith and self-preservation. In this podcast, Mary Landgraf gets into the intricate dance of love and spirituality, exploring how to honor both divine guidance and personal boundaries in the realm of relationships. Join us as she unravels the complexities of dating in a spiritual context, empowering you to embrace your spiritual essence while...

Hey there, it's Mary Landgraf, and welcome back to "Stop Dating Losers!" Today's episode offers a dose of tough love, exploring how our past experiences and unexamined emotions influence our present relationships. Drawing insights from A Course in Miracles, I go through the subtle ways we project past hurts onto current situations, often thinking we're defending ourselves when we're actually lashing out. Through somatic meditation and introspective exercises, we unravel deep-seated wounds and...

Join me, Mary Landgraf, on another empowering episode of "Stop Dating Losers," where we dive deep into transforming negative thoughts and healing the relationships women have with men after divorce. In this guided meditation, I guide you through the powerful process of revisiting a time when you felt disappointed by a man. Discover how these past experiences might be influencing your present attitude and expectations towards men. As we explore the concept that our experiences are influenced...

Profound experiences with somatic healing...unraveling the layers of patterns that have lingered since childhood. As I reflect on past relationships and the impact of my fiercely independent nature, I explore the complexities of masculine and feminine energies. Don't miss this authentic and vulnerable exploration that promises healing, self-discovery, and the power to break free from ingrained patterns. If you're a woman navigating post-divorce dating, this episode is a must-listen. Subscribe...

This week, we're getting deeper into the mysteries behind 'Nice Guys' – exploring the fine line between niceness and kindness, the pitfalls of pedestals, and why women often find themselves exhausted in the pursuit of authentic connections. Join me for a candid discussion on objectification, boundaries, and the empowering journey of rediscovering what we truly desire in a partner. It's time to stop dating losers and start embracing the love we deserve! www.sexloveandsoul.com

Listen in and learn how matching energy destroys you and the men you date! In this episode, we'll explore matching energy in relationships, especially in dating after divorce. I know for years, I was losing myself in an attempt to dazzle and impress the men I dated. Along the way, I learned there is a fine line between holding space for others and compromising our authenticity. Tune in now for essential insights that resonate with every woman seeking genuine connections after divorce! xo -...

As someone raised in the New Age church, I share my experiences and how the emphasis on positivity had unintended consequences on my self-perception. The pressure to conform to the "good girl" narrative led to internal conflicts and stifled authentic expression. We explore the impact of unexamined thoughts on our relationships and the tendency to avoid labeling our partners as dishonest. Discover how unspoken beliefs influence our choices, shaping our lives in ways we may not fully...

Why are we attracted to wild, dangerous men who bring us nothing but chaos out of the bedroom? It's not about doing things right or wrong but understanding what truly sparks desire. This is an interesting and weirdly personal episode. I discuss what I thought of as sexual arousal was more a mental construct than an authentic embodied experience. #johndemartini #jimrohn