Episodes
In this episode, John talks about three ways you can treat yourself better after leaving a toxic relationship. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.  This episode is...
Published 12/02/22
Published 12/02/22
In this episode of The Trauma Tapes, a letter writer asks MC and Elizabeth how to make sense of a life that contains both success and trauma. They talk about her story, run through the disorganized attachment style and then hone in on Adverse Childhood Experience (ACEs) and their opposite – Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs). This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/code and get on your way to being your best self. Hosted on...
Published 11/30/22
In this episode, John answers one of the most asked listeners' question: how do I move on? Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.  This episode is sponsored by/brought to you...
Published 11/28/22
In this episode, John explains three ways you can be a better partner in your relationship. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.  This episode is sponsored by/brought to...
Published 11/25/22
In this episode, John talks about why he's grateful / thankful for certain things in his life, and challenges you to think about the "why" instead of "what" you are grateful / thankful for this Thanksgiving. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and...
Published 11/23/22
In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about three things that change their state, and dive into a fight they had last night. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.  This...
Published 11/21/22
In this episode, John asks listeners to look at their relationships and ask themselves how their relationships are making them grow as a human. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a...
Published 11/18/22
In this episode of The Trauma Tapes, MC and Elizabeth talk to a letter writer about how to peel back the shame she feels when she goes back to an abusive ex, so she can reconnect with herself and move on. They explain how this is in part a neurobiological issue, and what she can do about it in order to begin a new life. This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/code and get on your way to being your best self. Hosted on Acast. See...
Published 11/16/22
In this episode, John and Vanessa interview Eve Rodsky, New York Times best-selling author of Fair Play and National Bestseller, Find Your Unicorn Space. Eve Rodsky transformed a “blueberries breakdown” into a catalyst for social change when she applied her Harvard-trained background in organizational management to ask the simple yet profound question: What would happen if we treated our homes as our most important organizations? Her New York Times bestselling book and Reese’s Book Club Pick,...
Published 11/14/22
In this episode, John brings three random people in the room to ask them hard questions. They each get a turn to ask a hard question. This ends up creating a meaningful dialogue and wasting no time to get deep fast. There is no shallow end of the pool here. Hope you enjoy.  Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as...
Published 11/11/22
In this week's episode of The Trauma Tapes, MC and Elizabeth talk about an exercise called "punching back." In it, you take the negative beliefs that you’re carrying around and put them on paper. Then you punch back by asking what the flip side of the negative beliefs is. If you say “I’m needy” for example, you might punch back by saying, “I’m also very loving.” This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/code and get on your way to...
Published 11/09/22
In this episode, John convinces Vanessa to get on his Harley and do a free session in the park, helping a couple who emailed John from the internet (fell from the sky). They want to work on their relationship before they have their baby.  Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He...
Published 11/07/22
In this episode, John challenges and debunks a common quote: "you can't love someone until you find yourself." Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.  This episode is...
Published 11/04/22
In this episode of The Trauma Tapes, a letter writer is facing a difficult decision. Stay in her marriage when her husband wants to be polyamorous, or leave and lose him entirely. MC and Elizabeth talk about the trauma of a profound lack of a relational home. This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/code and get on your way to being your best self. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Published 11/02/22
In this episode, John talks about his three signs that you're in an emotionally safe relationship. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.  This episode is sponsored...
Published 10/31/22
In this episode, John answers listeners' questions such as: can long distance work, should I get back with my ex, can I heal from infidelity, and more. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly,...
Published 10/28/22
In today's episode of The Trauma Tapes, MC and Elizabeth talk to a letter writer about why trauma can pop up ten years later, and what to do about it. They revisit the definition of trauma that we use: unbearable emotional experience that lacks a relational home-- and talk about the difference between simple and complex trauma. This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/code and get on your way to being your best self. Hosted on...
Published 10/26/22
Melody Beattie is the best selling author of Codependent No More. Since its first publication 36 years ago, it has helped heal over seven million readers and continues to sell 100,000+ copies a year. Updated for the first time, with a new chapter on trauma and anxiety, and Melody’s personal story revealed for the first time, this modern classic holds the key to understanding codependency and unlocking its hold on your life. You can find her book here: https://melodybeattie.com/ This episode...
Published 10/24/22
In this episode, John talks about three things you can't get back in life. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.  This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp....
Published 10/21/22
In today's episode of The Trauma Tapes Series, MC and Elizabeth talk to a letter writer about letting go, radically accepting, and moving on. They also talk a bit more about the fight, flight, or freeze response to clarify a previous question. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Published 10/19/22
In this episode, John talks about what love really is and means in our relationships. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for...
Published 10/17/22
In this episode, John talks about three possible reasons why your partner might be pulling away. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.   Hosted on Acast. See...
Published 10/14/22
In the first episode of The Trauma Tapes Series with Dr. MC McDonald and Elizabeth Meadows, a letter writer asks how to deal with triggers in an intimate relationship. Both MC and Elizabeth unpack triggers - what they are, how they work, and how to work around them. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Published 10/12/22
In this episode, John talks with Paul Chamberlain about depression and suicidal ideation. Paul is also known as the Smart Funny Tortured Coach who has learned how to find the better part of our darker angels and shine a light on the unique gifts that make us powerful. Formerly a senior creative officer and serial entrepreneur for over 25 years, he contributed his award-winning expertise in branding, event/entertainment production, and pop culture to companies and industries that everyone...
Published 10/10/22