In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about recovering from codependency. They talk about the steps you need to take, such as having awareness and setting boundaries, what recovering from codependency really looks like in your life and relationships, and how recovery doesn't happen overnight.

In this episode, John focuses on cheating and infidelity. He discusses common reasons why people cheat, including anger or revenge, falling out of love, feeling unappreciated, lack of commitment, sexual desire, and situational opportunity. He emphasizes the importance of taking ownership, processing emotions, drawing boundaries, seeking therapy, and ultimately growing from the experience.

In this episode, John does a deep dive on three different ways you can elevate your partner and relationship by being curious about your partner and their experiences, championing their story, and asking them how you can work on fulfilling their needs.

In the final episode of the Red & Green Flags in Dating series, John talks about how important having capacity for yourself and others is in your relationships. He defines what capacity is, gives examples and what it looks like in action, and explains the difference between having a healthy vs an unhealthy amount of capacity in dating and relationships.

In this episode, John does a deep dive on the second C of Red & Green Flags in Dating, communication. John discusses what healthy and unhealthy communication looks like in relationships, and what red flags you should look for that shows someone does not communicate well in the early stages of dating.

In the first episode of a three part series, Red & Green Flags in Dating, John breaks down the three most important C's in dating: connection, communication, and capacity. He defines what connection is, gives examples of what healthy and unhealthy forms of connection are, and discusses red and green flags to look for in connection when you're first dating someone.

In this episode, John talks about how to be open to love after your heart has been broken. He dives into how practicing opening your heart up in your relationships is an exercise you need to practice daily in order to create the opportunity to heal and grow from your break up. He also talks about forgiveness, treating yourself, closure, finding people who understand you, and much more.

In this episode, John reflects on his 51st birthday and shares his revelations and insights about life. He discusses the importance of self-reflection, accepting oneself as a 'B-side', the value of movement and fitness, the power of asking for what you want, the significance of friendships, the importance of finding peace, the process of closure, the cumulative nature of life, and the need to let go of what no longer serves us.

In this episode, John answers a listener's question, and discusses the reasons why people cheat, including emotional disconnection, curiosity, and unhappiness within oneself. He also addresses the issue of ghosting, the fear of having difficult conversations, the importance of exploring patterns in relationships and understanding one's contribution to them, and provides insights on creating a safe space for partners to work through infidelity and rebuilding trust.

In this episode, John explores the different dimensions of intimacy, including emotional, spiritual, mental, passionate, physical, and energy intimacy. He emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for emotional vulnerability, engaging in meaningful conversations, and practicing empathy and compassion. He also highlights the significance of continuous self-examination and personal growth in building deep, true intimacy, and provides practical suggestions for cultivating a deeper level...

In this episode, John brings on Mark Groves to discuss his book 'Liberated Love' and the journey of relationships. Mark shares his personal experience of going through Relationship 1.0 and 2.0 with his partner. They discuss codependency, the importance of self-erasure in relationships, the role of the nervous system in relationships, and the signs of losing oneself in a relationship. They also touch on the considerations in deciding whether to stay or go in a relationship, the hierarchy of...

In this episode, John gives us a list of unhealthy behaviors we mistake for love in dating and our relationships. He talks about why we're attracted to unhealthy behavior, and does a deep dive on how we might exhibit some of these behaviors in current or past relationships without realizing it.

In this episode, John talks about the challenges people face when they stay in a relationship after infidelity. He encourages people who are in this situation to ask themselves a very important question: why are you staying in this relationship? Especially when there hasn't been any growth, or change on the other person's end.

In this episode, John talks to James Rhee about his journey as a Korean American and experiences in leadership. He shares the story of the red helicopter and how it impacted his perspective on kindness. James explains his philosophy of kindness in math, how he designs systems that reward true agency, the importance of joy and finding contentment in everyday moments, the significance of championing Asian-Americans in media, and the positive changes happening in representation.  James Rhee is a...

In this exciting episode, John hosts a panel with the speakers for the upcoming In Bloom: A Love and Relationships Summit. They talk about everything love and relationships including artificial intimacy, sex as a cultural and relational issue, emotional availability, and the practice of interdependence. The conversation also touches on communication in relationships, the challenges of navigating different attachment styles, the importance of understanding and empathy in relationships, rather...

In this episode, John shares his thoughts on the twenty things every man should have or have done by age forty. He covers a wide range of topics including: finding purpose, developing personal style, maintaining good credit, experiencing heartbreak, expressing love for other men, setting boundaries with parents, saving and investing, practicing forgiveness, experiencing rebirth, and much more.

In this episode, John talks with Keila and Joe about their relationship history, communication issues, and recent conflicts. They also talk about the baggage from past relationships, the challenges of feeling safe and secure, external stressors, different social lives, and the pressure to be everything for each other. They also discuss the impact of living together and the pressure of time and fertility. John ends this episode with a little behind the scenes commentary on the reality of...

In this episode, John talks about how complicated the aftermath of cheating is. He talks about the importance of not taking things personally, forgiveness if you want to repair the relationship, why people cheat, how to heal if you've been cheated on, and more.

In this episode, John reflects on his personal growth journey through social media and the power of documenting one's story. He shares how he found his voice and embodied his potential through podcasting. John also discusses the importance of building a local community and serving others. He explores themes of love, relationships, acceptance, and the need to surrender and let go. He also emphasizes the significance of dreaming and staying curious throughout life.

In this episode, John talks to Annie Undone about monogamous vs non-monogamous relationships. They talks about what non-monogamy is, what is looks like in a romantic relationship, what judgements surround non-monogamy, debunk myths about non-monogamy, how to be in a healthy non-monogamous relationships, and more. Annie is an artist and writer working to normalize diverse relationship styles and varied sexual experiences. She is a queer, kinky, relationship anarchist on a mission to incite...

In this episode, John answers all of Vanity Fair's Proust questions, and does a deep with each answer. He shares vulnerable moments of his life by talking about his childhood, happiness and fears, his current state of mind and struggles, occasional lies he's told, and more.

In this episode, John brings back the hosts of "Guys We F****d," Corinne Fisher and Christina Hutchinson, to discuss the lasting influence of childhood on adult life, emotional vampires, the necessity of solitude for creativity, and their positive outlook on aging. They delve into how childhood experiences shape self-worth and emotional health, with personal anecdotes about family dynamics. The importance of alone time is emphasized as crucial for meeting creative demands, with each host...

In this emotional episode, John and his retreat members get vulnerable and share their experience attending March's Miserable F*cks Retreat. They dive into why they decided to attend this month's retreat, what fears they have going through with experience with strangers, what feelings were brought up that they had to work through, and much more.

In this episode, John talks with Zach Watson to discuss the topic of mental load and domestic labor distribution. They explore the challenges and controversies surrounding this topic, particularly in relation to men's responses. They explore the role of childhood experiences in shaping perspectives, the need for understanding and empathy, the challenges faced by breadwinners, and the concept of the default parent. They also touch upon the influence of a capitalist society on the perception of...