Trigger Warning: This week we are discussing a topic that can feel heavy for some. Our guest is Alreen Haeggquist and we are having a conversation around sexual abuse, assault, healing from trauma, and advocating for yourself and others. Alreen is a seasoned lawyer, author, and advocate on a mission to amplify voices and combat silence around abuse. As always, check in with yourself as this topic can be super triggering, so move through this as you need to🤍 In this episode… Women feeling silenced Secrets Emotional triggers GaslightingShame Women as sexual objects Belief  Quotes: “Keeping secrets is like drinking poison. It really poisons us from the inside out.” - Nikki Spo  “Not staying silent and starting to let out all the trauma is how we can get out of that shameful mindset and stop the generational pattern of keeping it all in.” -Alreen Haeggquist “I was really angry. Not about what happened to me, but angry that I had to deal with the messed up stuff and thoughts that I had to deal with this and that I have to clean it up.” - Alreen Haeggquist “I want women to know you could talk about it and it actually is how you're going to get to the next step and live the life that you didn't think you were deserving of or didn't think you could have.” - Alreen Haeggquist “It is so important to have people in your corner who believe you. I know what it's like to come out and not be believed, and it’s excruciating when you have to try to convince people you've been hurt. It's really such a horrible toxic place to be in.” - Nikki Spo  “Sharing what happened to you with other people is healing in and of itself.” -  Alreen Haeggquist Timestamps:  0:00 - 2:15 | Intro 2:15 - 5:20 | Feeling silenced  5:20 - 7:20 | Not keeping secrets  7:20 - 12:15 | Listening to your body   12:15 - 17:15 | Gaslighting  17:15 - 23:21 | Silencing as the biggest form of gaslighting  23:21 - 25:00 | Woman are under attack sexually  25:00 - 27:35 | Identifying and not identifying as the victim  27:35 - 29:40 | Helping women from a lawyers perspective  29:40 - 32:30 | The importance of being believed   32:30 - 39:55 | Steps to healing  39:55 - 42:21 | Outro  – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW. –  When shopping for a new car, Toyota of North Miami has to be at the top of your list. Toyota of North Miami is a Miami based dealership that offers you a superior selection of new Toyota vehicles as well as a large inventory of used vehicles and certified pre owned Toyotas. Right now, you can lease a new Toyota Corolla for just $79 a month and get free car washes for life. Be sure to check out Toyota of North Miami for all of your car purchasing needs. Connect with Alreen  https://www.alreen.com/  Connect with Nikki  www.nikkispo.com   @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy