Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER, TODAY with your special discounted rate: HERE This week I am spearheading a LOADED conversation with Lauren LaRusso About ROMANTIC AFFAIRS 😐 We are here to talk about all the things that no one wants to talk about… and we are going to answer the questions that have probably crossed your mind when it comes to ROMANTIC AFFAIRS. Lauren is a psychotherapist specializing in marital affairs. She has helped countless individuals and couples process the unexpected and inalterable impact of infidelity on their lives. Let’s jump right in! In this episode…  Inflection points  Seeing the signs The TRUTH behind infidelity  Shame, silence, & secrecy  Non monogamy  Entitlement, vulnerability, boundaries  Quotes “As betrayed spouses, we become complicit sometimes because we adjust our expectations based on the slow creep of changes in our partner.” - Lauren LaRusso “As humans, we always want what we can’t have.”  - Lauren LaRusso “You have to be hyper vigilant for yourself. You need to be connected and in tune to yourself enough to be looking outside and sending the signals of unavailability of loyalty to your primary relationship.”  - Lauren LaRusso “I would recommend handling your shit as soon as you possibly can.” - Lauren LaRusso “I think that the affair itself removes the power of choice for the person who doesn’t know about it.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps:  0:00 -  6:00 | Intro  6:00 - 9:40 | Does everyone have a role in affairs?  9:40  - 11:15 | Inflection points  11:15  - 15:00 | Laurens background  15:00 - 18:20 | Shame, silence, & secrecy  18:20 - 19:40 | Ethical or consensual non monogamy  19:40 - 22:15 | Secrecy can be enticing  22:15 - 27:30 | The main reasons affairs occur  27:30 -  32:55 | The betrayed spouse  32:55 - 36:00 | Can marriages be saved after affairs? 36:00 - 38:00 | How do we get to being happy?  38:00 - 41:05 | Making a choice for YOURSELF  41:05 -  43:50 | Forgiveness & unavailability  43:50 - 46:45 | Being strung along  46:45 - 49:25 | The power of choice  49:25 - 51:35 | Honesty & integrity  51:35 - 54:30 | People who stay in their marriages  54:30 - 57:11 | Outro  –  This episode of The Know is presented by Pampers, the #1 pediatrician recommended brand.  –  SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW. Join Becoming HER: https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003  Connect with Lauren  https://www.laurenlarusso.com/ / https://laurenlarusso.substack.com/  @laurenlarusso   Connect with Nikki  www.nikkispo.com   @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices