In the early stages of dating, taking things slow can make all the difference. In this Love U Podcast, I reveal the best practices for dating during the first month, from pacing emotional intimacy to setting boundaries that protect your self-worth. Discover how to keep things balanced, avoid common pitfalls, and see if he has genuine relationship potential over the first four to six weeks. This episode provides a roadmap to confidently navigating the early dating phase without rushing into...

In a world that can feel negative about dating, it's easy to believe there are no good men left. In this episode, I challenge that belief with real stories and research showing that genuine, committed men do exist. I share two stories of men who found love later in life, despite heartbreak, and emphasize that finding a great partner is about staying open, setting high standards, and not settling for less. I also dive into new data on remarriage rates that defies the stereotype of men avoiding...

After an incredible week at a retreat in Mexico through Modern Elder Academy, I had a car accident on the ride home from the airport. I'm okay but moments like this are excellent for reflection, so I decided to do an emergency podcast. Tune in to hear what happened, what I learned from the retreat, how it applies to dating, and why we need other people to live our lives to the fullest. 📚 Take my mini-course to raise your relationship standards: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/7steps 🔥 Take...

Have you ever found yourself fixating on someone you barely know, building a fantasy that leads to disappointment? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I share how to break free from this cycle. I discuss the reasons why obsessing over someone too soon can be emotionally harmful and offer six practical steps to regain your focus and self-worth. Learn to challenge your thoughts, set boundaries, and imagine a future centered on your goals, not just a relationship. By reframing your approach...

As a high-achieving woman, you have choices. You can choose to give a chance to a guy who is not your type, or stick with your type. You can choose to make his behavior a dealbreaker, or learn to accept him in full. In this episode, my friend Carol Allen and I consider your choices and draw the same conclusion: all married couples compromise your way into happiness, and what they tolerate from their partners is minor compared to what they gain. We also discuss what it's like to be a childless...

Have you ever been stuck in a situation where you're giving more than you’re getting? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, we dive into the tough but necessary conversation about breaking up with someone who isn't ready to commit. I’ll guide you on how to recognize when a relationship isn’t progressing and why it's important to set boundaries to avoid wasting time with someone who isn’t ready for a future with you. If you want the confidence to let go of a relationship that’s not escalating...

It's not just a hit Netflix series; it's a direct calling for me to respond as a Jewish man married to a Catholic woman in a healthy interfaith relationship. In this episode, I talk about what's bad, what's good, and what Love U principles Kristen Bell's character violates in her attempts to rid herself of a kind, consistent boyfriend. If you've watched the show, it's worth the listen. 🌟 Take my mini-course to raise your relationship standards https://www.evanmarckatz.com/7steps 🔥 Take...

We started off discussing the topic of envy - how rich people often envy happy couples and happy couples envy those with greater wealth. We moved to why I envied Matthew Hussey and he also envied me. (Seriously!) Finally, we went to a dangerous place - why political differences are so divisive and why they don't have to necessarily end your relationship. Carol and I don't agree politically but we do agree that people are more than their beliefs and opinions. Anyway, this Love U Podcast is...

In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I discuss three common ways women can be afraid of commitment. While it’s often assumed that men are the ones afraid to commit, Evan reveals how many women, even those seeking a serious relationship, can experience fears around commitment, avoiding key conversations, and feeling uncertain about what they truly want. Learn how to identify these behaviors, establish healthy boundaries, and get clear about your relationship goals so you can find the love...

I brought back my friend, Carol, to talk about one of the most popular dating videos on YouTube: How to Keep a Man Interested in You. Yes, we have a list of 10 reasons, but that's not where we spend most of our time. Because the big question is not about how to keep a man from a place of insecurity, but rather, how to be the kind of partner that makes men feel accepted and appreciated. In addition, we talk about a recent New York Times article about the value of friendship even when you are...

Tired of superficial dating advice that doesn’t really work? In this episode, I’ll show you how to transform your love life by making five small changes to your dating habits. These tips will help you date smarter, broaden your options, and create more meaningful connections—without changing who you are or what you want. When you shift your online dating approach - just a little - you can finally see the results you deserve! 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now:...

I know, as a guy, there's a limited amount I can weigh in on a topic that affects every woman: menopause. But since my listeners are generally in midlife, it felt like a smart idea to bring in one of my best friends, Carol Allen, for a conversation about how menopause affects your body and your relationships. I share stuff from my own marriage, as does Carol, and since she's been married ten years longer, it's worth your while to listen up. In addition, we talk about the rulebook in your head...

When you've had nothing but rejection, failure and disappointment in your relationships, it's easy to second-guess yourself. The problem is that, when a good man comes along and is doing 95% of what you want, you obsess about the 5%. While your questions may be reasonable, if you find that your anxiety is driving your actions, it helps to learn to trust - both men and yourself. I hope this episode helps get you to a place where you're not overthinking and you can actually enjoy falling in...

In this Love U Podcast episode, I dive into the concept of "dating up"—the idea that women should aim to date or marry someone with more wealth, power, or status. This episode was inspired by a thought-provoking conversation with a client who challenged me, claiming that women need to hear the cold, hard truth about their unrealistic dating expectations. If you're a woman who’s tired of not finding men on your level, this episode is a must-listen. 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now:...

In this Love U Podcast, I share a tale of friend who had a hard time committing because of a lack of passion (despite the good sex) - because I felt some of those same feelings once upon a time. This leads into the five stages that men go through before they'll commit. If you're a woman who wants to know what men are really thinking when they're dating you, this is an eye-opener. 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Apply for Coaching:...

Every relationship that ever broke up started with some level of excitement. Those first few weeks and months of breathlessly getting to know each other, explore each other, and make giddy plans for the future. But, as you already know, the first months (and even years) bear little resemblance to marriage and have little predictive power. In other words, every eager guy is going to put on his best face when he's interviewing for the job. What happens when he's got the job and starts to take...

Many smart, strong, successful women have trouble setting healthy boundaries with men. These powerful women give up their power to get along, to please, and find themselves emotionally dissatisfied within their relationships. In this Love U Podcast, I share a few anecdotes that correlate with 5 important boundaries you MUST set with men. None of them are revolutionary ideas; all of them are importance if you want to have a partner who hears and respects your wishes. 🔥 Take my quiz to find...

Is it a good idea to go "no contact" after a painful breakup where you still have feelings for him? Absolutely. Is it a good idea to use "no contact" as a means to make your ex miss you so he'll take you back? Hell, no! In this emergency Love U Podcast, I discover that there are some coaches who will tell you what you want to hear - regardless of whether the advice gets you results. 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Apply for Coaching:...

There's a temptation when you first start dating to tell a guy what you expect from him. After all, previous men have disappointed you, you've learned your lessons, and you want to set healthy boundaries and expectations. The issue is twofold: a) you can't tell a man who is not your boyfriend how to act and b) you don't always deliver the message in an effective way to get what you want. In this episode, I break down the logic about when you should talk about your needs and how to know your...

There's a lot of talk about red flags: separated guys, recently divorced guys, guys who never want to get married, guys who aren't sure if they want kids, long distance guys, etc. These men are easy to spot and avoid. But how good are you at paying attention to GREEN flags - the traits and behavior you want to see in men? In this Love U Podcast, I run down 7 things to look for in a new partner if you want a chance at long-term compatibility. 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now:...

I haven't interviewed anyone on my podcast since 2017 but when I got the opportunity to speak with Thais Gibson, creator of the Personal Development School, I leapt at the chance. She's fiercely intelligent and listening to her go deeper on attachment styles and limerence was a treat. Thais Gibson is a counselor, best selling author and co-founder of The Personal Development School. She has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities ranging from CBT, NLP, somatic experiencing,...

As an independent, successful, single woman, you've built a life about which you can be extremely proud. There's only one problem. You have to take care of everything yourself. The mortgage. The health insurance. The plans. The repairs. The vacations. You take care of your parents, you take care of your kids, you take care of your clients. I just have one question for you: who's taking care of YOU? This special Love U Podcast episode explores the story of one woman who is finally ready to let...

I once took a poll and discovered that 40% of my mailing list was not dating at all. These are women who had enough interest in the subject matter to reach out to me for dating advice, but, for their own reasons, chose not to use it. I feel for them. When all your past relationships have disappointed, it's natural to feel afraid and paralyzed when it comes to dating. The problem is that you'll never find love if you don't date. In this Love U Podcast, I'm going to nudge you to stop letting...

The first presidential debate of 2024 was revealing. We saw, quiet clearly, that the two candidates running for office were, in fact, incapable of being the leader of the free world. How does this apply to dating and relationships, you might ask? Well, the world is filled with Donald Trumps and Joe Bidens. One is selfish and untrustworthy. The other is a nice guy who is not capable of the job. So, what should you do, as the CEO of your love life, when you run across men like these? Check out...