8 years ago on a Sunday afternoon, Bree walked down Kel's long drive way for an interview.  After the news that their neurdiverse son was no longer welcome at Before and After School Care, Kel and her husband had been forced to explore other care options.  While the first nanny was okay, the fit wasn't quite right.  18 and with minimal experience with children, on paper Bree was probably not an ideal candidate. In fact, on her first day she had to call her mum to walk her through how to cook mashed potato. However after an hour spent chatting, they both knew that this was meant to be.  For the next 7 years, Bree nannied Kel's two boys: Through both her pregnancies, often with a baby strapped to her back and another in tow, through a cross-the-globe move, both the boys graduating primary school and so much more.  While this experience was no doubt enriching for the boys, as you will hear in this episode, the decision to hire a nanny is one that  created ripples throughout both family units and left no part of their lives unaffected.  Throughout this episode Bree and Kel explore topics such as the mental load, the Perfect Mother Myth, how they approached communication and decision making as a team of three, the logistics and finances of hiring a nanny, guilt and shame attached to this decision, some hilarious and heart warming stories from the past 7 years and so much more.  To connect with us:  Website: www.birthofamother.com.au Instagram: @matrescence.podcast @kel.matrescence.podcast .... This episode was sponsored by The Nurture Village.  To connect with them:  Instagram: @Thenurturedvillagehampers Website: www.thenurturedvillage.org/ ....