On this episode Kat is joined by Lucy Cox, a confidence expert, to talk about the connection between neurodiversity (particularly ADHD) and habits.  KEY TAKEAWAYS We take on so much information. There are so many ‘shoulds’, I’m writing a book about ‘should’ because it’s this toxic stick that we whack ourselves over the head with We should be better, we should be more active, we should have better habits, etc. It pops up everywhere in our lives, and the more we consume self-help advice, courses, talks, etc, we accumulate more ‘shoulds’ and it becomes so overwhelming we don’t know where to start. I didn’t set out to go into the world of self-confidence, it’s a personal quest. When you hit your 40s it’s one of those things that starts to come to a head, whether that’s feeling like you should be further ahead in your career, the business should be doing better, further ahead in your relationships, etc. It’s not gender or geographically specific You can advise 100 different entrepreneurs on the same task and they’ll all approach it differently. When you examine what sits behind that you start to see that it’s the way people are deciding to keep themselves safe – socially, emotionally, physically, financially – that comes from the things that we’re told, the things we believe to be true about ourselves, about other people, about what an entrepreneur is.  We’re born with a certain personality and pull between positive and negative; we’re innately programmed to keep ourselves safe in very different ways. You can look at twins and they ways they self-sabotage, one might be a very active energy – controller, hyper achiever – and one may be a passive energy – victim, people pleaser. But you can see that from the day they’re born. BEST MOMENTS “Talking without action is pointless.” “When you give someone the olive branch of being able to design something like a new positive habit for themselves, there’s a different commitment to following through with it.” “There are so many microaggressions that we come into contact within our lifetimes.” “ADHD is the disability of social disapproval, the presentation is disorganisation, forgetfulness, chaotic, the inability to follow-through, compulsive, and not socially acceptable and not-visible All you life you have to make excuses to fit in.”   ABOUT THE GUEST Lucy Cox is an award-winning business and confidence coach with over 14 years of experience in the field of coaching, training, impactful program development, and facilitation.  Lucy is a certified Positive Intelligence Coach and Life Coach who brings a wealth of real-life experience; as a coach, an entrepreneur, and (importantly) as a human being. No stranger to the ups and downs of leadership, parenthood, relationships and personal growth, Lucy brings a warm, personal, empathetic energy to everything she does, developing strong, honest relationships and creating lasting impacts for all clients. Website ABOUT THE HOST Kat started her career as a teacher, before moving into Tech where she worked in different executive roles within teaching and consulting working across the globe, both in the public and private sector. Despite appearing 'successful' on the outside, she paid a heavy ‘life’ price. In 2016, her whole world collapsed. The reason? The compound effect of years of unhealthy and toxic habits that destroyed her health, relationship and career. She suffered a severe breakdown and lost everything. In the middle of this she got headhunted for her first CEO role. She rebuilt herself by changing just one small habit, and built a series of positive habits which has transformed her professional and personal performance, resulting in becoming the healthiest and happiest version of herself.  She is a positive habits international keynote speaker and teacher, giving talks and delivering high impact programmes to organisations across the globe.  Link