In this eye-opening episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life, I challenge the prevalent dating advice that suggests loving yourself first before entering a relationship.  Join me as I explore why the notion of self-love first is inaccurate and potentially limiting in the context of dating.  Delve into the importance of receiving love and validation from others as a crucial aspect of personal growth and relationship development, instead of focussing on the love you have for yourself...

Welcome to a special episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life! Today, we're diving deep into the world of single life and tackling the anxiety that comes with it. In honour of Mental Health Awareness Week, we're exploring empowering strategies to manage anxiety and find inner peace. Join me as I share my insights on handling the anxieties of being alone, dating, and the outcomes of relationships. Together, we'll uncover practical tips, self-care practices, and mindset shifts to conquer...

Are you single and looking for some inspiration to transform your life? In this episode, I've curated a list of 5 must-read books that will help you improve your mindset, gain new perspectives, and develop positive habits around being single. These are hand-selected books, all of which I've read, that will help you in the early stages of becoming single. From addressing your fears around being out of a relationship, to cultivating the mindset to be comfortable with being alone, these books...

In this episode of The Single Girl's Guide to life, I tackle one of the most hotly debated topics in the dating world - the pros and cons of dating a man with kids. I'll be discussing the unique challenges and benefits that come with dating someone who has children from a previous relationship, thanks to my own internal debate when deciding whether to date someone with children, and now currently in a relationship with someone with children.  I'll explore some of the common concerns that...

As a single, millennial woman, you may be questioning the traditional norms around dating and relationships, and wondering if there are alternative options out there. It's important to explore the options as so many of us are given traditional ideas as a default. And polyamory is one such option, and this episode aims to open up the conversation around this fascinating and diverse relationship model. Through my own exploration of the idea and understanding the concepts and terminology...

Marriage is seen as the ultimate expression of love, the biggest commitment you can make to another and the desire and hope that it will last forever. As someone that's been married and divorced in their 20s, and experienced my own parents getting divorced as a child, marriage has been an interesting subject to explore, and the more I've explored and experienced, the more I've felt it necessary to share some of the realities of what marriage means in today's day and age. From personal...

Back when I first started dating, I had to learn ALL the basics. No matter how much dating content you consume, some of the lessons you learn ahead of time can't easily be applied in the moment. There's how you feel, all the "what if"s and you're dealing with the unpredicatbility of another person you don't really know. And as I soon learnt, dealing with not getting a reply in dating is one of the trickiest to balance - you don't want to look needy but you want a reply. You don't want to be...

Being in a situationship SUCKS! It's confusing, often frustrating and it's so, so painful. You fall into the trap of getting into a routine with the guy you like, and keep refraining from bringing anything up in case he doesn't feel the same way about you back... but he's friendly and flirty, so surely he likes you, but how can you know?! And before you know it, you're knee-deep in a year-long situationship that you finally build the courage to ask about and it's not good news...  In this...

When you're in your 20's, its easy to get caught up in the "everyone else is doing it, so its what I have to do" mentality. You start believing that because everyone is heading towards the same goals as you, that you're doing everything right. In this moment, Chantelle discusess why you don't have to follow the same path as everyone else in life - and how whether or not you achieve your goals isn't necessarily dependent on exactly what actions you take. Listen in if you're trying find a...

Theories of attachment styles have been around for decades, originally being developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth in the 1950's. They were originally based on the idea that we develop attachment styles based on our early childhood experiences with our caregivers.  But what if it's not just about our early childhood? What if there are other origins for our attachment styles? In this video, I talk about the alternative factors that contribute to the development of attachment styles,...

After reflecting on our time during lockdown, which included virtual dating for some, Chantelle shares her observations of how we had the time to prioritise ourselves and how we should continue to apply that in dating. It's easy to lose sight of our own needs and desires in favour of pleasing a potential future partner however, it's crucial to remember that prioritising ourselves is essential for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Listen to the full episode here. Watch the...

Leaving a long-term relationship is SCARY. You don't know what's going to happen once you intiate the ending... and as soon as you do, the doubt creeps in. You wonder if you made the right decision. Or you're on the edge of leaving, trying to make sure you make the right decision as to whether to break up with him or not. I'll share some of the more subtle reasons you were right to make the decision to leave, as well as clarify the more obvious ones (though they're not always obvious to...

From the very first episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life, Chantelle explores the mindset shift you need to enjoy your single life and stop obsessing over dating. She dives into the pressure we experience when we're single to get back out there and date when we've only just got ourselves out of a relationship. It seems like everyone associates being in a relationship with being happy - and it just isn't true for us all and has limiting effects on how we can enjoy our single life if we...

With summer just around the corner, many of you single women are excitedly thinking about planning your solo travel adventures, and as a seasoned solo adventurer, something I maintain whether I'm single or in a relationship, I'm here to help you come up with solo ideas to embrace your independence and adventure. In this episode, I'll share practical ideas insights to help you decide on what plans to make for an empowering solo travel experience. For braving it on your own to wanting to do...

In this episode of The Single Girl's Gudide to Life, I'll be discussing the 5 compatibility checks that are crucial for building and sustaining a long-lasting relationship that you can look out for in dating. Join me as I delve into the key factors that make a relationship work, from shared values to communication styles, and provide tips for the elements you need to consider early on. With this episode, I hope to equip you with the knowledge and confidence you need to navigate the dating...

In this week's episode, I share my personal journey of transforming my anxious attachment style into a secure one. After becoming a single, millennial  woman following my divorce, I found I struggled with anxiety in my relationships. I would feel an overwhelming sense of worry when I didn't hear responses, and when someone ended a dating phase with me, I'd find it hard to process. My past experiences had left me feeling insecure and fearful of being vulnerable with others. But through a...

Looking for advice on how to move on from a guy you never even officially dated? In this episode, I delve into the power of the no contact rule and how it can help you let go of someone who was never really yours. I'll provide practical tips and strategies for letting go of unrequited love, navigating mixed signals, and overcoming the emotional attachment to someone you never even dated. By following these strategies, you can gain emotional clarity and heal from the pain of unrequited...

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In this episode, I explore the many myths and misconceptions that surround the single life. Contrary to popular belief, being single is not a death sentence; it is a lifestyle choice that can be just as fulfilling and rewarding as being in a relationship. And getting into a relationship isn't the silver bullet for success and happiness either! Looking at the work from author and social psychologist, Bella DePaulo, I delve into the understanding of why single life isn't the be all and end all...

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Valentine's Day is around the corner and with it comes a lot of pressure to find someone special to love, and you start thinking "I'd just be happier if I was in a relationship!" But why are we so concerned with starting or being in a relationship?  In this week's podcast, I examine the reasons why getting into a relationship won't make you any happier, focusing on how to find true contentment in yourself rather than in a partner. Listen to this podcast episode to get a better...

I don't know about you but the dating process could be BORING at the best of times. From all the swiping, starting chats only to not hear back, it could feel like a success to even get a reply. But then when it came to arranging a first date and yet again, dinner and/or drinks was suggested?! It felt like a never ending loop of the same old thing.  When you're single, dating is part of your social life. It shouldn't be the same all the time, and it needs a bit of variety. And it shouldn't be...

Subscriber-only episode Hello, and welcome to the EXCLUSIVE content I'm creating for you for The Single Girl's Guide to Life.  This is additonal content on top of the usual podcast to help you work on your single life with helpful tips and practical strategies to support your on your journey to loving and accepting yourself in your single life.  This episode sets the scene for this subscriber page and gets you taking PRACTICAL steps.  So grab a notepad (one you can dedicate to this...

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