A lil 2024 update! I'll be posting more consistently on YouTube, though I might still release guest episodes on here every now and then 3 youtube: Zareena Evelina

What are some common dating dealbreakers? Signs of a toxic and/or abusive relationship? How do you know whether to commit to a relationship or let go of it? These are some core questions this episode revolves around and my ~attempt~ to answer them with help from some of the sources listed below :) **Domestic Violence Hotline/Resources: www.thehotline.org** Dealbreakers research study:  ⁠https://phys.org/news/2022-03-partners-relationship-dealbreakers.html⁠ When Is It Time to Leave a...

It's a big question! To get started, I polled listeners via the pod's Instagram asking what they think is key to healthy relationships. In this episode, I share these answers, as well as discuss some research and a healthy relationship model from world-renowned psychologists and researchers, the Gottmans. Check us out on IG :) @thevirginandthebeespodcast RESOURCES: The Gottman Institute & The Sound House Relationship Model:...

Hello lovely bees! This month's episode is about ~being perceived~ and how social media and the pandemic have impacted the way we view our bodies. Thanks for tuning in and keep on buzzing!

 We're back with Part 2 of our revisit of (500) Days of Summer. This time, guest Sophia and I discuss: how (and even if) the characters grow throughout the film  our thoughts on the film's take on love & rom-coms  the manic pixie dream girl   does Tom actually love Summer? the villainization of people who want casual relationships  the bench scene the ending ☀️☀️☀️ You can watch a video version of this podcast on YouTube. Sophia's YouTube: youtu.be/Hk9l7ta2hgY Sophia's...

My childhood bestie Sophia and I revisit the thought-provoking movie that is 500 Days of Summer and discuss....    the problems in Summer & Tom's relationship the problem with the "nice guy" trope & how toxic masculinity presents in Tom situations in which we reminded ourselves of Tom situations in which we felt like Summer rejection (and some of our experiences with it, on both sides) the best character of the whole film... Tom's little sister! ☀️☀️☀️ You can watch a...

LINKS/RESOURCES Letter to Congress template More info on the effects of overturning Roe v Wade Resources for those seeking abortion Donation Funds & Action Item Resources The Judiciary Act of 2021 More info on reasons for the impeachment of Clarence Thomas & more on the political history of Clarence and Ginni Thomas

Happy Valentine's Day! ❤️  Join us for a fun lil chat as we reflect on Valentine's Day and share ideas of what to do if you're single, mindful reminders if you're in a relationship, and some of our previous Valentine's Day experiences. Find the podcast on IG & Pinterest: @thevirginandthebeespodcast Related Episodes ❤️ Figuring Out Your Sexuality for Yourself (with guest Darcy): https://anchor.fm/zareenaevelina/episodes/Figuring-Out-Your-Sexuality-for-Yourself-w-Darcy-Bate-eplo4t A...

2022 is just around the corner! So I thought I'd share some rituals for transitioning from the old year to the new 3 This is also my first solo episode! Let me know what your word is for 2022 — or if you have any rituals of your own! DM or comment on IG (@thevirginandthebeespodcast) or email [email protected] I chose my word "momentum" based off a short entry I wrote earlier in 2021 which you can read on Medium for more background on why I chose this as my word!  Happy New Year and keep...

Moving on is messy. Whether you've broken up with a longtime partner you co-owned a cat with or you're trying to get over someone you never even dated — both are painful and difficult in their own way — and we're here to talk about it and share what we've learned along the way.  Find the podcast on IG & Pinterest ❤️ @thevirginandthebeespodcast GETTING OVER SOMEONE PLAYLIST: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4nblICaAYnje5nW2XCbaJL?si=0c9cc67fe64948ba --- This episode is sponsored by...

Let's have a chat about what people are experiencing as we wrap up the year and move into 2022! If you want to participate, simply share how things are going for you right now (or how they went throughout 2021) in regards to your love life or even just your relationship with yourself (self love, sexuality, body image, etc).  WAYS TO SUBMIT: - Email me at [email protected] - DM the podcast IG @thevirginandthebeespodcast - Leave a voice note (to be included in the episode) at...

I made a playlist curated with songs that fit the vibe of the podcast!  Available on Spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2lCBec6ldqbYSBpWp3lbz5?si=c44444fbc64440fe

"Who wears the pants in your relationship?"  This is a common question same-sex couples get — in this episode bisexuals Bella and Zareena discuss the intricate topics of body image, self perception and expression (and more!) surrounding this question — and offer a different approach to this mindset. You can watch a video version of this podcast on YouTube (channel name: Zareena Evelina) and find sources mentioned in the video description. Bella is on Instagram @bellafunt and Twitter...

What are people's honest thoughts about hookups? In this special episode, Zareena separately interviews six guests about their experiences and lessons learned in navigating hookup culture.  🌻QUESTIONS  Q1: What has your experience been like navigating hookup culture? (2:37) Q2: What have you learned about yourself? (13:33) Q3: What advice do you have for others? (28:24) Bonus Question: How has the pandemic affected dating for you and how have you handled it? (38:09) 🌸GUESTS (in...

I took an unplanned hiatus but we're back baby! Stay tuned for a special episode coming out next week :) Find us on IG, VSCO and Pinterest: @thevirginandthebeespodcast 

How does people pleasing affect dating, sex and relationships? How can you assert your boundaries in a way that’s comfortable for you? How can you find a healthy balance if you’re a people pleaser? In our 9th episode, sexpert (former UCSC SHOP educator) and Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, Carly Shaul, joins us again to continue our conversation from our previous episode "The Virginity Myth". In that episode, we discussed the complicated social construct of “virginity” and Carly...

Society places so much pressure on young people when it comes to "losing their v card" — but how much of this is helpful versus harmful? What even is virginity? Do we place too much importance on it? Do we have unrealistic expectations? What if your first time isn't a good time? In this episode, we chat with sexpert (former UCSC SHOP educator) and Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, Carly Shaul, about how virginity is a construct and the impacts of purity culture. Carly also shares her...

Bisexual humans Lauren Van and Zareena Evelina discuss the complexities of labeling yourself and your sexual orientation, as well as some of the experiences and issues they've faced as bisexuals — including external & internalized biphobia, changing ratios, common misconceptions about bisexuality and more! You can watch a video version of this podcast on YouTube (channel name: Zareena Evelina) and find studies/surveys mentioned in the video description. Check us out on Instagram...

A little clip from our episode "Mindful Masturbation Part 2" with Corinne Guichard!

How can you bring mindful masturbation into your partnered sex life? What are some ways you can explore virtual intimacy if you can't physically be with your partner? What are some tips for mindfully consuming porn and making sure it plays a healthy role in your life? We're back with PART 2 of "Mindful Masturbation" with yoga instructor and former editor-in-chief of UC Santa Barbara's SexInfoOnline, Corinne Guichard, as we tackle the more external factors of mindful masturbation — porn and...

Stronger orgasms, learning more about yourself, and developing a stronger sense of connectedness to your body, sexuality and spirit — these are just a few benefits of mindful masturbation! How can you begin to incorporate mindfulness and yoga principles into your masturbation practices? What does that look like? Corinne Guichard, yoga instructor and former editor-in-chief of UC Santa Barbara's SexInfoOnline, joins today's episode as we explore these questions!  You can watch a video version...

How does dating even work during a pandemic? What are some best practices when it comes to dating apps like Tinder, Bumble and Hinge? Why do you sometimes have chemistry over text but not in real life? Both Chelsea and Zareena have spent 6+ years on dating apps and Chelsea is now in a long-term relationship with a partner she met on Hinge. Together we share some of the good and bad we’ve experienced on dating apps as we go through what makes a good profile, what photos you should use,...

Do you actually like him or is it just aesthetic and/or platonic attraction? Are half of young people actually bi? In this episode of the virgin & the bees podcast, we take a look at some research on and our own experiences of compulsory heterosexuality and bi erasure. Our guest Darcy Bate first shares her story of how she came to know she was a lesbian after years of unknowingly navigating comp het. We then discuss what it means to be bisexual, how many people's sexual orientations are...

What does healthy consent look like? What is its role in a committed, established relationship? In a hookup? In something in between? How does our society view and interpret consent and how can we move towards better understanding? Nick Kludjian, former editor-in-chief of UCSB's SexInfoOnline, joins today's episode as we explore these questions!  DISCLAIMER/TW: We know that consent is closely tied to sexual harassment and rape culture. While we do not go into detail with these topics, we do...