While just the word vulnerability can trigger our defenses, it can also be a great gateway to secure relating and deepening the connection with our authentic selves. In a society heavily influenced by social media, unhealthy gender roles, and many other factors - Ann and Sue dive into the importance of changing the narrative and stepping out of our defensive invulnerable state and into our healthy, vulnerable selves. 

Relating from a place of inner security is not about an attachment category, and it can't stop with us as individuals. Ann and Sue share exciting news and community updates for TU. With secure relating at the forefront, this episode includes a sneak peek into the structure of their new book, Secure Relating Holding Your Own in an Insecure World. They explain the three R healing spiral, cultivating community, and much more! Now is a great time to join our online Neuronerd community...

Tune in as we follow up on last week's episode, and sit down with amygdala expert, Dr. Joseph LeDoux. We discuss the non-conscious versus unconscious, protein synthesis, the differences between fear and threat, and how it all applies in the world of attachment.

Explore the evolution and science behind Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) with Dr. Laurel Parnell and Dr. Ann Kelley.

Attachment 'insecurity" is partly a manifestation of unresolved stress patterns in the child and, by extension, the family. Therapists usually think of stress as interpersonal and dyadic, but you can't isolate individuals from context. We talk about context a lot when it comes to attachment - the circumstances or setting which helps to understand a process more deeply. As Sharon Lambert says in today's episode, you can't "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" if you have no boots. Sue Marriott...

We aren't one thing and getting to know our different parts is an effective technique to deepen healing. These "parts" are metaphorical "little beings" that live in our minds and manifest into physical or emotional reactions from traumatic events. Dr. Frank Anderson has spent decades of his life studying these parts and sharing his findings to help others utilize built-in resources like their "self-energy" to navigate their own traumas. Join us as Sue Marriott and Dr. Anderson weave together...

The idea of adding 30 minutes of extra meditation to our already busy schedules can feel overwhelming - but Jake Eagle has dedicated years to his research and found the mindfulness loophole. Awe is an incredibly powerful tool that can over time help us rewire our brains and build security within. Eagle is here to prove that awe is not only meant to be found in grand moments like standing at the top of a mountain or hearing your favorite musician live - but in the tiny fragments of our...

Conflict in relationships is inevitable - find out the ins and outs of repair for healthy relationships. We are back with relationship expert, Dr. Stan Tatkin to explore the inner workings of relationships from a biological and societal perspective, and his new book, In Each Other's Care. All humans are complicated creatures and if we spend enough time with each other, it's going to get tense.  That part is OK, but what happens after arguing disconnection or tension is what really...

The Barbie movie through a secure-relating lens patriarchy, masculinity, happiness, and freedom from gender scripts with Liz Plank & Sue & Ann.

The Barbie movie through a secure-relating lens.Patriarchy, masculinity, happiness, and freedom from gender scripts with Liz Plank & Sue & Ann.

The Barbie movie through a secure-relating lens.Patriarchy, masculinity, happiness, and freedom from gender scripts with Liz Plank & Sue & Ann.

The Barbie movie through a secure-relating lens.Patriarchy, masculinity, happiness, and freedom from gender scripts with Liz Plank & Sue & Ann.

The Barbie movie through a secure-relating lens.Patriarchy, masculinity, happiness, and freedom from gender scripts with Liz Plank & Sue & Ann.

Learn more about implementing the AAP and understanding pathological mourning for attachment trauma with Dr. Carol George.

Learn more about implementing the AAP and understanding pathological mourning for attachment trauma with Dr. Carol George.

Learn more about implementing the AAP and understanding pathological mourning for attachment trauma with Dr. Carol George.

Learn more about implementing the AAP and understanding pathological mourning for attachment trauma with Dr. Carol George.

Wanting to learn more about attachment? This is the episode for you! This is a follow-up to our previous episode on recognizing secure states of mind. If you're a regular listener, you know we talk a lot about attachment - but what is it exactly? This episode is a refresher course where we break down what it is, what it isn't, attachment spectrums, embodied stories, and much more. Whether you're more advanced in your knowledge of the topic or starting fresh - this is a great place to connect...

A refresher course on all things attachment from spectrums, connective and protective systems, embodied stories, and much more.

A refresher course on all things attachment from spectrums, connective and protective systems, embodied stories, and much more.

What is secure attachment and how can I grow my own capacity for security? We’ve covered the different protection and connection strategies - preoccupied (red on the spectrum), dismissing (blue on the spectrum), and unresolved (tie-dye), but today’s episode is all about what secure attachment actually looks like in daily life. You’ve experienced the continuum from red, blue, or even tie-dye, but how do you know when you’re in your green? A securely attached system doesn’t mean you’re never...

Discuss conditions that promote a secure attachment in parenting, and how to check in with yourself and deepen your connection with others.

Discuss conditions that promote a secure attachment in parenting, and how to check in with yourself and deepen your connection with others.

The neuroscience of awe as an antidote to our stress response system In this series, Secure Relating in an Insecure World, we've covered tough topics head-on. It is, therefore, fitting that we close the series with something scientifically hopeful to help us stay in our secure selves so we can stay engaged and active as social advocates and not collapse in overwhelm. The science of this specific feeling of awe has garnered much attention for good reason.  Our guest today has spent decades...