Conflict in relationships is inevitable - find out the ins and outs of repair for healthy relationships. We are back with relationship expert, Dr. Stan Tatkin to explore the inner workings of relationships from a biological and societal perspective, and his new book, In Each Other's Care. All humans are complicated creatures and if we spend enough time with each other, it's going to get tense.  That part is OK, but what happens after arguing disconnection or tension is what really matters. Sue Marriott & Dr. Tatkin take a deep dive into addressing conflicts, building secure attachments, and abandoning gender stereotypes for a more inclusive discussion. Follow along to explore healthy interdependence, couples' purpose, and secure functioning. "A secure functioning partnership works on problems, not each other" - Dr. Stan Tatkin Time Stamps for In Each Other's Care - Healthy Relationships  5:44 - Dr. Tatkin's view on telehealth & virtual therapy 8:36 - How PACT approaches virtual therapy 16:05 - Understanding procedural memory  19:08 - Break down of insecure attachment  22:53 - What does secure functioning look like? 28:48 - Attachment in polyamorous relationships  37:47 - Exploring healthy interdependence in relationships 44:50 - An example of a couple’s purpose 53:41 - The importance of gender inclusivity when talking about relationships Resources for today's episode, In Each Other's Care - Healthy Relationships Stan Tatkin's Website - Information about his practice, sessions The PACT Institute - Dr. Tatkin's official website Relationships are Hard, but Why? - Dr. Tatkin's TedTalk A free excerpt - from Dr. Tatkin's new book @DrStanTatkin - Instagram account Dr. Stan Tatkin - Facebook Page @DrStanTatkin - Twitter account Dr. Stan Tatkin - LinkedIn account Dr. Tatkin's newest book.       About our Guest - Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, and co-founder of the PACT Institute.  Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine.  He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author of We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships, and the recent, In Each Other’s Care. If you enjoyed this one then catch our other interviews with Stan Tatkin.  He has a great take on applying the principles of relational neurobiology to real life - check it out.   https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/tu121-the-purpose-of-relationships-redefined-during-quarantine-with-stan-tatkin/ https://therapistuncensored.