“Hi.
I just wanted to point out something really important. Series 1. Ep 47 “the Ick”.
The correct term is psychological splitting. It’s a very unhealthy defence mechanism and means you are insecure and have a subconscious ego defence to criticise and “switch off” attachment.
It’s a trauma response.
Please name it for its proper name. It’s not “cool” or “hip” or “evolved” in any way. It’s a form of abject destruction in relationships and it is the responsibility of person who DOES the splitting to stop it. It has NOTHING to do with the partner. Absolutely nothing.
Splitting is a toxic behaviour in healthy relationships and means the splitter WILL ruin healthy relationships.
Harsh truth perhaps. But we can’t call it “Ick”. It isn’t.
It’s a defence mechanism generated from trauma. Or at best a VERY immature emotional response. Teenagers do it as party of growing up. ….”
trexmonster via Apple Podcasts ·
Australia ·
07/08/22