Your Mental Health Plan for 2024 (Part One: Your Recovery Audit) | Ep. 368
Description
f you need a mental health plan for 2024, you are in the right place. This is a two-part series where we will do a full recovery audit. And then next week, we’re going to take a look at the key tools that you need for Your Anxiety Toolkit. We call it an anxiety toolkit here, so that's exactly what you’re here to get.
The first step of this mental health plan for 2024 is to look at what is working and what isn’t working and do an inventory of the things that you’re doing, the safety behaviors, the behaviors you’re engaging in, and all the actions that you’re engaging in that are getting in the way of your recovery.
Now what we want to do here is, once we identify them, we can break the cycle. And then we can actually start to have you act and respond in a very effective way so that you can get back to your life and start doing the things that you really, really wanted to do in 2023 but didn’t get to.
If you’re listening to this in many years to come, same thing. Every year, we have an opportunity to do an audit—maybe even every month—to look at what’s working and what’s not. Let’s do it.
Now, one thing I want you to also know here is this is mostly an episode for myself. A couple of weeks ago, I was not coping well. I consider myself as someone who has all the skills and all the tools, and I know what to do, and I’m usually very, very skilled at doing it. However, I was noticing that I was engaging in some behaviors that were very ineffective, that had not the best outcomes, and were creating more suffering for myself.
Doing what I do, being an anxiety specialist, and knowing what I know as a therapist, I sat down and I just wrote it all out. What am I engaging in? What’s the problem? Where am I getting stuck? And from there, naturally, I did a mental health audit. And I thought, to be honest with you, you guys probably need such a thing as well, so let’s do it together. Here is what I did. Let’s get started with this mental health audit that we’re going to do today.
FOUR RECOVERY AUDIT CATEGORIES
General Perspective
Safety Behaviors
Safety
Mindset
What we’re going to do is we’re going to break it down into four main categories. The first category is your general perspective of your mental health, your recovery, and your internal emotional experience.
The second category is the safety behaviors you’re engaging in. A safety behavior is a behavior that you do to reduce or remove your discomfort, to get a sense of safety, or to get a sense of control. Sometimes they’re effective, sometimes they’re not, and we’re going to go through that today.
The third category is actually just safety—looking at how safe you are inside your body with your internal experience. And I’ll explain a lot more of that here in a little bit, so let’s just move on to section number four, which is mindset. What is your mindset about recovery? And we’re going to go through this together.
LET’S PROMISE TO DO THIS KINDLY
As we move forward, I want you to promise me and vow to me as we do this. We are only doing it through the lens of being curious and non-judgmental. This audit should not be a disciplinary action where you wrap yourself over the knuckles and you beat yourself up, and you just criticize yourself for the fact that you’re not coping well. That is not what we’re doing here.
WE ARE JUST GATHERING DATA
We are ultimately just taking data. We’re just looking at the data of what’s working and what’s not. And then we get to decide what we do differently. And we get to be honest with ourselves about what’s actually happening from a place of compassion, from a place of understanding, knowing that we’re doing the best we can with what we’ve got. Again, I could beat myself up and be like, “You’re a therapist. You do this for a living. What is wrong with you?