DON'T LET CRAZY CHRISTIANS HARSH YOUR VIBE!! Whether or not you have directly experienced purity culture, you may have internalized some of the harmful effects. This long-lasting shame and guilt around sex can lead to emotional, psychological, and physical harm. Check out Beducated and use code HANDYMANDY for 40% off Shop for toys & kinky stuff on my Amazon Page If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at [email protected] with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Pornography has the potential to be SO beneficial but it also has the potential to cause a lot of harm. In this episode, I talk about the pros & cons of porn and why the debate is so divisive. Listen to the end for recommendations for ethical and audio porn websites! Check out Beducated and use code HANDYMANDY for 50% off. Shop for toys & kinky stuff on my Amazon Page If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at [email protected] with the subject line "HANDY...

Is circumcision really necessary? What's the deal with attachment styles? Are men actually trash? Why is Viagra so easy to get? Today I'm talking about all of my controversial opinions and what led me to feel the way I do about them. If you don't agree with me, that's okay. But make sure that you're giving critical thought to your opinions and actually exploring your beliefs. Nobody get triggered, okay? Check out Beducated and use code HANDYMANDY for 50% off.  Shop for toys & kinky...

Dirty talk can be so hot and add to the intensity of your sex life, but it can also be uncomfortable, intimidating and awkward! In this episode, I provide a few tips to overcome your fears, transition out of silent sex, find your dirty talk style with  10 specific categories, plus some tips for sexting and phone sex! At the end, I answer a question about aftercare and why it's important. Check out Beducated's course and worksheet on dirty talk! Shop for toys & kinky stuff on my Amazon...

IF your high school offered any kind of comprehensive sex-ed, they probably talked about birth control using scare tactics: how to prevent from scary STIs and expensive unwanted pregnancies. Well, there's actually a lot of information that people never learn, including the dark history of birth control, why some methods aren't as effective as you think, and how side effects can impact your sex life. I cover all of that and more in this episode (plus a few ranty personal stories about the US...

Isn't a penis massage the same thing as a handjob? NO! It's more intentional, sensual, and erotic AND can lead to full-body orgasms and even multiple orgasms (yes, men can do that too). Many of these techniques come from Beducated, a streaming service for sex ed! Also check out my Amazon Sex Toy Gift Guide! It's honestly coming in so handy for me (pun kinda intended). If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at [email protected] with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

You've heard of the G-spot, but do you know about the A-spot and U-spot? In our FIRST EVER SPONSORED EPISODE (omg wow) I walk through how to give a sensual vulva massage, with techniques straight from a Tantric expert on Beducated. Give the gift of pleasure this Christmas with Beducated! Click the link below and use code HANDYMANDY for a 24-hour free trial and 40% of the annual subscription. http://beducate.me/bg2250-handymandypod Also check out my Amazon Sex Toy Gift Guide! It's honestly...

Once a cheater always a cheater? Why do people cheat? Is it possible to make it work after someone cheats? All of these questions and more answered here! We'll look at cheating through the lens of attachment theory and the Gottman Approach, a therapy model that is based on decades of research and over 3,000 couples! Spicy Holiday Gift Guide! Beducated Discount (Use code BLACK22) My Instagram  If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at [email protected] with the...

Do you feel like you take forever to finish and it's impacting your ability to enjoy sex or stay in the moment with your partner? Well this one's for you! There are many reasons some people take longer than average to reach orgasm, and some are more easily fixable than others. In this episode, I list some of those reasons and suggestions to overcome them. Ever heard of death grip syndrome? Listen up! THIS MONTH ONLY, you can get 50% OFF the annual Beducated subscription and a 24-hour free...

Tons of guys are worried about cumming too fast or not lasting long enough, but when is it actually a problem and what can be done about it? In this episode I cover misconceptions and unrealistic expectations about the duration of sex, what a premature ejaculation diagnosis actually entails, and a few strategies to prolong penetration. Plus I answer a question about orgasm-induced sneezing! It's a thing! My Favorite Toys and Products My Instagram  If you want me to answer one of your...

Meet my friend Anaya from Pretty In Kink! I asked her a few questions about her career, what issues she commonly sees with her clients, and what we can learn about being more open and accepting. Go check out her website at Pretty In Kink! My Favorite Toys and Products My Instagram  If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at [email protected] with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

We get so much information from our families, communities, media, and larger society about sexuality and a lot of times, it's unhelpful or downright inaccurate. Today I'm correcting 10 common myths about sex drive: 1. Aphrodisiacs make you horny 2. If your partner rejects your advances, they aren't attracted to you 3. Porn doesn't change your sex drive 4. Sex should last 30 minutes or longer 5. Men are always horny and ready for sex 6. Women have lower sex drives than men 7. Sex and desire...

People who practice sexual mindfulness experience more desire, better self-esteem, more consistent orgasms, a better relationship with their partners, and better overall sexual functioning! In this episode I introduce Tantra and Sensate Focus as ways to incorporate sexual mindfulness into your life.  Plus I answer a question about meeting and dating with social anxiety! My Favorite Toys and Products My Instagram If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at...

In this episode, I share some of the mind-blowing facts and concepts I've recently learned about kink in school. The specific article I reference comes from the Wiley Handbook of Sex Therapy, published in 2017, which includes fun facts about kink,  common myths, reasons people may seek therapy for their kinks, and what we can learn from kinky people. Listen to the end, because there is an incredible section from the book that shows an empirically-validated foundation for kink and BDSM...

We're talking about squirting & female ejaculation! YAY! In this episode I cover common myths, squirt anatomy, the differences between female ejaculate and squirt, and techniques for learning how to squirt. I also touch on the Only Fans rumor (lol).  My Favorite Toys and Products My Instagram If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at [email protected] with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Giving head, fellatio, cunnilingus, blowjobs, sucking d*ck, eating p*ssy, sloppy toppy; whatever you wanna call it, here it is! Oral sex could get it's own podcast altogether, but here is the overview of how to give good head, no matter what parts your partner has! This episode does trend heterosexual, but the straights need more guidance in this area. Definitely go check out Beducated and use the free trial to watch some of the courses on blowjobs and cunnilingus. B*****b Instructions:...

I'm finally answering your BURNING questions about how I knew I wanted to go into sex therapy and how I got to the place I am today. Some of these are personal stories and some are career choices, but please be respectful of my narrative and the topics I touch on. I also describe what the process is like to become a licensed sex therapist and what my long-term goals are! Beducated (Netflix for Sex-ed) My Favorite Kinky Toys and Products My Instagram If you want me to answer one of your...

Do you have a secret kink or fetish? Most people have kinks and at least 30% of the US population keeps theirs a secret! NO MORE! In this episode, I'll define what kinks and fetishes are, where they come from, what the most popular kinks are, and how to introduce them to your partner. And if you're into vanilla sex, that's cool too--you can still learn about the other flavors. Call yourself a kink connoisseur! Beducated (Netflix for Sex-ed) My Favorite Kinky Toys and Products My Instagram If...

You know what squirting, handsfree orgasm, and stronger orgasms have in common? Pelvic floor muscles! I take my experience attending a pelvic floor workshop and combine it with medical resources to give you the full run-down on the role your pelvic floor plays in your sex life. I explain how to locate, tone, and use these muscles to improve your sex life from the inside out! *this podcast was recorded prior to the SCOTUS decision overturning roe v. wade* If you would like me to answer your...

It's time to expand your sexual menu! In this episode, I give a quick crash course in all the different types of sex toys, lubes, and products I frequently recommend. In future episodes, I'll be diving into fetishes, kinks, and specific techniques, but I feel like we need this base level introduction to get the full scope of options. If you haven't explored the world of sex toys yet, get into it! Shop all of the items mentioned here using my Amazon store! Check out the best sex-ed you can...

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH! Whether you party hard all month or silently wonder how gay pride  could possibly apply to you, it's important to know how to support your LGBTQ+ friends. In this episode I cover gay history in the US, redefining how we think about certain terms, misconceptions, and 7 ways to be a good ally! My Linktree If you have a question you'd like me to answer on the next episode, email me at [email protected] with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

The student becomes the master! Unlike the sex-ed you may or may not have had in school, there is no scare tactic, shame, or judgment here! In this episode I give a crash-course on the biological, psychological, and emotional aspects of sex. Let's replace the performance and orgasm-focused view of sex with a more pleasure and intimacy based one! Check out my instagram to view the accompanying graphics and pictures for this episode. View the original powerpoint presentation here. If you have a...

We all have to start somewhere! In this first episode, I talk a little bit about ~me~, my education, underlying perspectives, and what the hell happened with my TikTok. Then I answer some of the most popular questions I've been asked by you guys recently: this week it's pornography addiction and some signs you might want to talk to a therapist. If you have a question for me, email it to [email protected] with the subject line "Handy Help Me." If you want to support me further, please...