In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Why do women need different things to orgasm each time? Just when I think I’ve got it all figured out and found the spot that makes my wife orgasm, she moves the goalposts. It seems to change every time. Is this true, or am I imagining it?   2) Which feels better for women: a short, fat penis or a long, thin one? I am tall and have a long, thin one but I’m never sure whether to feel smug when people talk about big...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My question is about ‘face sitting’. My husband has asked me to try this with him, which I'm more than happy to do. But would like to know a bit more about it—especially because I'm a bigger girl and don't want to hurt him.   2) My girlfriend doesn’t love giving BJs, but will do so on occasion. If she doesn’t enjoy them, it’s not fun for either of us, and if that’s the case, that’s just the way it is. But do you...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I didn’t start having good sex until my early 30s, and within a few months of dating I started squirting. Now, it’s a ridiculous amount. I can’t have sex anywhere except on a waterproof mattress cover or blanket. Sometimes just kissing my partner makes me gush slightly which can be uncomfortable if I can’t immediately change underwear. We were hooking up in the kitchen the other day and I made a decent size puddle...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My wife and I, both in our late 30s, have always enjoyed an adventurous sex life. She’s always watched porn, which leaves me cold but never bothered me. But now she wants to watch it together. I really don’t want to, and it’s causing arguments. She thinks I’m ‘weird’ and says I’m probably the only man in the world who would say no to this request. 2) I’m really into having my nipples bitten HARD, but find men are...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve been listening to your podcast since the beginning and my question is similar to other male listeners: I'm 51, my wife is 55, and we’ve been married for 20 years. We have four kids in their older teens. Our sex life has been virtually non-existent for at least six years, and we have had no sex at all in the last year. We don't even sleep in same bed anymore. We tried therapy and that didn't work. My wife...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My girlfriend’s idea of perfect sex is both of us having orgasms as quickly as possible. Skip the foreplay, get naked, apply the lube, and get straight into intercourse. My idea of perfect sex is a bit of flirting, undressing each other, making her climax a few times during foreplay, then penetration in as many different positions as we can manage until we’re both fully satisfied. Any suggestions for some sort of...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) After years of having really good sex, my partner is now avoiding it. He’s 48. You always say if a man over 40 suddenly goes off sex, he’s having erection problems. I think you’re right because the last few times we did attempt sex, he couldn’t get hard. The thing is, we’re good at having sex, but not so good at talking about it. I have no idea of how to address the issue. Can you help? 2) Our sex life is good, but...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner of four years is quite strange sexually. He seems to quite enjoy sex when I make the first move, but never initiates otherwise. He performs oral sex, but only if I insist and I can tell he doesn’t really like it. I thought he might be struggling with his sexuality and trying to force himself to be straight when he’s really gay, but he assures me that’s not the case. He tells me detailed stories about the...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I'm a 50-year-old man from Amsterdam and a loyal listener to your podcast. I'm married to a wonderful 48-year-old woman, and our love and sex life is good. However, my wife has recently started worrying a lot about menopause and its effects on her body and sex drive. Could you discuss this topic? 2) My boyfriend and I became polyamorous six months ago. He said he loves me and wants to be with me, but hadn’t had his...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m recently back in the dating game and wondering if there are generally accepted definitions of vanilla/non-vanilla? So far, I've ducked all the likes from guys who describe themselves as 'non-vanilla' in case I disappoint. I'm late 50s cis female heterosexual, I love sex, and have a very healthy libido. I'm very comfortable about my body, love having sex outside, and enjoy oral and anal (including anal sex and...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner is very shy when it comes to talking about sex. He found a sex compatibility quiz which we took as a way to open communication between us and the results showed we’re very in sync. In the quiz, he expressed interest in using a penis ring. But how do I know which one to buy, and what is the best way to use it? We’re a hetero couple, both 30, healthy, and have sex twice a week. He doesn’t have issues with...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I split with my husband of 14 years and my divorce has just come through. I’m a combination of nervous and excited. The marriage wasn’t bad, it was just boring and the sex was never good or satisfying. I’m now ready to get out there and start dating again, but I’m nervous about sex. Any tips on how to ease back into it? I’m 46. 2) I love my wife but I have just finished a work affair that lasted two months. I...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Even when I've had plenty of foreplay and I'm certain I'm turned on, when my partner first enters me it's like he's stuck for a moment. It’s like my vagina won't let him in. He’s able to ease in after a few seconds and intercourse is great after that. It doesn't hurt, but I find it a bit awkward and confusing because I'm not sure what's going on. It’s like he's hitting a wall. Do you have any thoughts? This has...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My girlfriend and I went through a period of not having sex—we were so busy it got forgotten about. We made a point of having sex every Friday night—and now it’s stuck. We now ONLY have sex on Friday nights. She really likes this arrangement, but I hate having sex on a schedule. How can I make her more spontaneous? 2) I am way more adventurous than my wife of many years and sex has become difficult for her lately...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve lost a lot of weight using Ozempic and am delighted with how my body looks. I feel brand new and—at last—sexy and desirable. After years of complaining that I never initiate sex and accusing me of not even liking sex, I thought my husband would be pleased with my newfound confidence. I’m now super keen to try new things and have sex more often. I thought he would be happy with all these changes, but he just...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner makes strange noises during sex and it really puts me off. It’s like a whimpering noise—it sounds exactly like the noise my dog makes when I’ve locked her outside. I nearly burst out laughing the first time I heard it, now it’s just a turnoff. We’re four months into the relationship. How do I bring this up? 2) I have (finally) met a great guy and the sex is good—he definitely gets me hot and bothered—but...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I think my partner is faking orgasm because when he ejaculates, no semen comes out. The first time it happened, I asked him why there wasn’t much stuff. He said he didn’t know why and walked off. Since then, it happens now and then. I don’t say anything because I don’t want to embarrass him. Why would he fake it? Do men fake it? Is there another reason why this is happening? 2) I recently discovered my husband of...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I love watching BDSM porn and have a masochistic kink. My wife enjoys sex, but is pretty conservative in what she likes. I’ve told her I’d quite enjoy being tied up or spanked and she looked shocked, so I didn’t pursue it. How do I let her know I’d really like her to indulge me a little during sex without her thinking I’m perverted? 2) My husband and I have been together since college, married 37 years—and I...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner of four years has a friend who has opened up their relationship after having been married for nine years. Apparently, it’s working well. They have ‘sex only’ relationships, stick to some rules, and say it’s made them love each other more and enjoy sex more. My partner is intrigued by the idea and asked if I would be open to trying it. I can see the appeal, but it’s not something I am interested in at...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner’s favorite position is doggy-style in front of a mirror. I hate sex from behind—I like face-to-face positions so we can kiss. I also hate watching myself naked because I focus on all that’s wrong with my body and can’t enjoy myself. My partner knows this, but I also know it’s his favorite thing and don’t want to deny him. Any tips on how to keep both of us happy? 2) I am in my 50s and have completely...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) When I first got together with my partner of four years, we had lots of fun tying each other up. That stopped about a year ago and I really miss it, so I asked if we could incorporate it back into our lovemaking. The very same night, I walked into the bedroom ready for bed—not even slightly in the mood for sex—and there was a tie on the bed. I asked him what it was for, and he said to tie me up. I was in my...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I feel like your inbox for this podcast is full of questions like mine. I’ve been married for 26 years, and our sex life quietly died about 10 years ago. I’ve been listening to you both and I know this is normal. What I want to find out is if my wife misses our sex, or if she is happy with not having it? We’re best friends and still sleep naked, we just never initiate sex. We’ve never talked about sex before, even...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My husband and I are each other’s first loves. We’re now twenty years on, 10 years married with a child and I feel at a loss. Our sex life is robotic and boring, once or twice a month. Same foreplay, same position. I have repeatedly suggested trying new things, but it’s always met with resistance, no willingness to talk or try anything. Frankly, he has no clue how to make me orgasm. I can count on one hand how many...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I love sex and I love the feeling of orgasm, but I’ve never been able to have more than one. Are all women capable of multiple orgasms, and how can I increase my chances of having one? 2) I’m a straight guy wanting to suggest a threesome with my wife of four years. She’s really into sex and very adventurous, but I’ve never suggested anything like this or even asked if she’s had one in the past. I have. I would love...