In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner of four years has a friend who has opened up their relationship after having been married for nine years. Apparently, it’s working well. They have ‘sex only’ relationships, stick to some rules, and say it’s made them love each other more and enjoy sex more. My partner is intrigued by the idea and asked if I would be open to trying it. I can see the appeal, but it’s not something I am interested in at all. I was devastated when he suggested it, but not surprised. I handled it well and simply told him I needed time, even though inside I felt like I was dying. I don’t want to do this, but I don’t want to lose him either. How do I handle it? 2) I’m a 35-year-old straight man and actively sexual with multiple partners. Giving my partner oral sex is something I do without thinking. I can’t imagine having sex without it because the pleasure goes both ways. But I have recently been made aware that there is a link between oral sex and throat or mouth cancer for men with lots of partners. Is this media hype? Should I stop having oral sex just in case? 3) A friend of mine can’t orgasm no matter what she tries. I orgasm very easily and have told her all the things that help me, like using a vibrator, reading a book with a hot sex scene in it, and getting my boyfriend to give me oral sex. No matter what she tries nothing happens, and this has been going on for years. I feel so sorry for her. Can every woman orgasm? Could it be that she’s never going to have one? I don’t know else to suggest. To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelU Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.