Breaking up is hard to do. In this episode of Remodeled Love, Jessica talks with one of her favorite polyam podcasters, ashe danger phoenix of the Dear Jessamyn podcast. They discuss why lesbian breakups take so long, and is there a way to make them shorter; can we discuss breakups with someone before entering into a relationship with them, the difference between low stakes breakups, ghosting, and breakups that rip your heart out--how to see them coming, how to lean into it, and how to stay conscious during the death.  Polyamory inherently forces the need to get good at breakups, simply by the nature of the fact that you end up dating so many more folks. Getting "good" at breakups is a powerful muscle to build on this path. *** Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier Guest: ashe danger phoenix, Tenderfire Media *** 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: Buy our new e-book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", now available via www.remodeledlove.com. Venmo: Jessica-levity CASHAPP: $jessicalevity PayPal: [email protected] Patreon: Patreon.com/homesliceproductions …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level. Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through www.remodeledlove.com