Alternative episode title: Famous Last Words In this episode, The Daylovers (Jes, Joe, and Ash) talk about:  *what Datty is learning in polyamory (fear of trying and failing at finding compatible partners), *what Ash is learning about parenthood and co-parenting (letting go of attachment, not trying to immediately nip things in the bud or cast judgment, learning to pause...), *what Jes is learning in polyamory, which she breaks down to what she is learning through each of her partners:     >>with Joe: are we "just" gay best friends?      >>with Dr. M: learning to lean into my fear of my partner's expansion, which is really just fear of my own,     >>with Loverboy: (GASP. WHO IS LOVERBOY?? Find out inside this episode!) Most heatedly, they talk about the dreadful art of "Downplaying" after Joe accuses Jes of downplaying her connection with Loverboy. Downplaying in polyamory can be a really contentious topic. Downplaying can be: pretending that new connections don’t have a sexual or romantic vibe when they actually do, dampening one's excitement or hope about a new connection, dampening how you actually feel about a new connection, downplaying the possibilities of what may come, etc... This convo gets real and honest as f**k, and we're excited to bring y'all into the room with us and how we work through conflict/call each other out on our b******t. Hear the rest of this episode, and receive access to all our exclusive episodes plus 2+ years worth of exclusive content on our Patreon: www.patreon.com/remodeledlove.