Episodes
Why might we be able to debate and have disagreements at work or in certain situations but panic and shut down or become defensive with loved ones? Natalie delves into why we feel threatened by disagreement and difference and how to start breaking the habit.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 12/03/21
Published 11/26/21
With the 20:20 vision of hindsight, we often recognise our blessings in disguise. But at the time, whatever we're going through can suck, and Natalie talks about the importance of allowing ourselves to feel instead of bypassing our feelings and forcing ourselves to be 'grateful' or look on the bright side.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 11/26/21
Natalie shares how she learned to stop taking responsibility for other people's baggage and how this inspired the show's central question: What's the baggage behind it?   Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 11/12/21
Natalie explains why learning to be unconditionally obedient skewed our perception of negative consequences and why it's time to update our thinking so that we stop scaring ourselves out of taking care of us.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop    
Published 11/05/21
Natalie talks about how our resistance and discomfort about asking for help or support reveals our reliance on being The Strong or Supportive One.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 10/29/21
We've texted or hung out with someone several times, why do we think know them already? Natalie shares why intensity causes us to mistakenly extend trust.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 10/22/21
Natalie talks about the thoughts and feelings we default to when certain people disappoint, annoy or upset us and how these can help us have a more honest relationship, both with ourselves and this person.     Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 10/15/21
Being able to get things off our chest is crucial to our wellbeing and part of our intimate relationships, but sometimes we chat out our business to the wrong people! Natalie shares some of the reasons people respond unfairly or unkindly when we share our problems with them.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 10/08/21
Natalie dives into the importance of approaching our interactions and relationships with a 'mutual mentality' so that we don't devalue, exploit and short-change ourselves.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 10/01/21
Natalie explains why downplaying the truth or significance of something—minimising—whether it’s who we are and what we need or other people’s asks, expectations or behaviour, leads to big problems.     Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 09/24/21
Plenty of us are a little bit too used to blaming ourselves for other people's feelings and behaviour and determining that we're not 'good enough'. But not everything is about us, and in this week's episode, Natalie breaks down the trouble with inverted narcissism.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 09/17/21
Sometimes our habit of trying to control the uncontrollable creeps into our relationships. Natalie delves into this tricky subject, sharing some surprising examples as well as advice for how to become more aware of the habit.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 09/10/21
Natalie talks about how and why we put ourselves under pressure about taking care of ourselves and shares tips for breaking this perfectionism habit so that we don't have unrealistic expectations of self-care that cause us more harm than good. This is the last episode of the summer, and Natalie will be back on September 10th 2021.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 07/16/21
When we've just started talking to, dating or going out with somebody and feel anxious about something, it's not uncommon to do a spot of columboing, snooping around their profile to see if they're following 'hot' or 'sexy' people or even their ex. Natalie talks about how we can wind up putting ourselves between a rock and a hard place with our columboing and what we can do when we don't like our discoveries.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 07/09/21
Natalie talks about why being drawn to one particular thing in romantic partners can prove to be a major blind spot. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop    
Published 07/02/21
It's easy to assume that the reason you're still thinking about someone (or something) because it means you're still crazy about them, mad with them, or that you're still invested in the situation. Actually, there's another reason why, and Natalie breaks this down in this week's episode.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 06/25/21
Natalie talks about why we don’t have to become drained, resentful or burnt out from supporting others.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 06/18/21
As humans, we don't like having problems, especially when we feel it's unwarranted and that we've done all the right things. But what if this is part of the problem in the first place? Natalie shares insights on how we can learn (and move on from) problems with more love, care, trust and respect.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 06/11/21
Natalie talks about when somebody attempts to erase the past by acting as if it didn't happen and trying to pick up where they [decided they] left off.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 06/04/21
So many of us fear that we are 'needy' and so settle for less than what we need, desire and deserve. We also may have been called it by someone else, and it's left a mark. Natalie dives into the truth about 'neediness'.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 05/21/21
Natalie talks about why our attempt to be giving or to make amends can backfire if our actions cross boundaries.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 05/14/21
It can be super frustrating when you have a negative experience of someone, and everyone else thinks the sun shines out of them. Natalie talks about why our experience of a person can differ due to context.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop  
Published 05/07/21
When somebody fakes a future to get what they want in the present, the disappointment, confusion, self-doubt and sense of rejection can leave us reeling and distrusting. Natalie revisits Future Faking and why we must, ultimately, be careful of deceiving ourselves.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop    
Published 04/30/21
Natalie talks about why the infamous piece of advice, 'He's just not that into you' from the 2004 book of the same name, can easily be misinterpreted as 'You're not enough' or 'They behaved as they did because they didn't feel enough'.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop
Published 04/23/21