Today's episode discusses the four top female fantasies: why they arise, which ones your wife may have, and what impact her fantasies can have on your sex life! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Huge Red Flag: Never Having Two Encounters (Or Orgasms) In A Row." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous...

When people say this, there are usually two issues they aren't examining the depth... career and marriage. Today's episode discusses how you can feel that life is unfulfilling even if it looks "perfect" from the outside! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Huge Red Flag: Never Having Two Encounters (Or Orgasms) In A Row." For my secret Facebook...

Many lower libido people say things like, "You got off, what more could you want?" This is not badly intentioned, but comes from a place of not understanding much about sex. Having an orgasm means nothing about the quality of sex just like having had a meal means nothing about the quality of the food. Understanding this idea can be transformative for both men and women in therapy! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll...

If you are harder on yourself (and possibly your spouse/kids) than on anyone else, this is the episode for you. Here's why you may struggle with self compassion and how to start treating yourself with more kindness and grace. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Not Working Is Pretty Terrible For Many People." For my secret Facebook group, the "best...

Some men believe that if a woman needs touch to be aroused, then she isn't really attracted to you. This is not accurate, and this sort of distorted thinking ruins many sexual relationships. Learn about attraction, foreplay, and arousal in this episode! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Not Working Is Pretty Terrible For Many People." For my...

Your relationship with your parents and the relationship you observed between your parents aren't the only subconscious templates you learn in childhood for later relationships. How you interact with your sibling(s) are also a huge source of information about relationships, expectations, and scripts. Learn more in today's episode! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent...

The ubiquity of internet porn has made many men think in unhealthy ways about married sex. Kinky or new activities are not the norm for most married couples, except on special occasions. Thinking about sex as a life activity, similar to exercise or eating, can be a very healthy way to reframe sex if you've had a history of porn use or have been told that you make your wife uncomfortable in bed. Subscribe if you love the DPM...

Some people think that "highly sensitive" means highly difficult. Get a pen and paper to take the highly sensitive person quiz I'll read you for the first few minutes and listen to everything I tell you about HSP's... you DON'T have to walk on eggshells around them! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "If You Are Scared To Confront Your Partner...

What would your most confident friend say to your husband/wife about their rude or dismissive behavior, if this friend was married to them? Using this lens can give you a real wake up call and deeper motivation to change how YOU let people treat you! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "If You Are Scared To Confront Your Partner About Their...

This can also explain the U shaped happiness curve! Buckle up and listen if you're in or expect to be in your 40's or 50's :) Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: " What Are The Two Components Of A Happy Marriage?" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members,...

Here are some very important red flags when looking for a partner after divorce!! Essential listening if you are dating! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: " What Are The Two Components Of A Happy Marriage?" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members,...

An internet comment so wildly off base that it needs its own episode! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: " What Are The Two Components Of A Happy Marriage?" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members,...

On the internet, people are reading that if you have any type of neurodiversity then your brain is just different and you shouldn't be expected to "mask" to try and "pass" as neurotypical. This makes some people say they are neurodivergent so all touch or intimacy is off the table. Wait what? Listen for my take on this idea. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber...

And what does this do for your marriage and especially your kids? Related to a prior episode on when your wife is only fun when she drinks. And also: what's the analogue for women whose husbands drink? Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "I Don't Want To Get Divorced Because I Would Lose Half My Money." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money...

If you communicate in a negative, sulky, passive, or anxious way, then it's no wonder your wife responds poorly. With this one magic phrase, you can transform your dynamic, or at least put it on the right track! All about how to communicate differently and how you can set your wife up to succeed! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "I Don't Want To...

Some guys are upset that their wife no longer dresses up or gets her hair dyed... here's a whole episode going deep into this idea and potential ways to think about it. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "I Don't Want To Get Divorced Because I Would Lose Half My Money." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to...

Common sense advice that many people ignore in favor of "but they saw what NOT to do!" Today's episode dives into why pattern recognition is important... and then a twist ending! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Understand Why Your Wife May Take Deaths Harder Than You Expected." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent"...

When recovering from the end of a difficult relationship is particularly difficult for you, e.g. you keep obsessing about it, keep blaming the other party, and are unable to focus on moving forward, you are likely missing a key piece: going back into family of origin. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Understand Why Your Wife May Take Deaths Harder...

It used to be that each spouse doing what they were best at was an accepted and even extolled strategy. Now, there is an idea that the man needs to be able to do what the woman does as well as his own stuff. This is mainly applicable in situations where the woman struggles with untreated or undiagnosed anxiety or depression, and is the avoidant partner. Listen and learn! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my...

If your needs are being met by other people/activities during dating, you may not realize that your partner isn't as good of a fit as you imagined! Then when these external variables change, you fall squarely into the disillusionment stage. What do I mean? Listen to find out. Buy my newest book! Couples You Meet In Counseling: 7 Common Relationship Dynamics That Sabotage Closeness: https://amzn.to/3WQoA8X Subscribe if you love the DPM...

There's a huge difference between how a woman acts before and after kids, which is evolutionarily mediated! Listen to ensure you aren't expecting contradictory things... the mom you wanted your kids to have but the girlfriend she used to be. Buy my newest book! Couples You Meet In Counseling: 7 Common Relationship Dynamics That Sabotage Closeness: https://amzn.to/3WQoA8X Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my...

I’ve discussed in many places that porn use is not helpful for marriage, particularly in cases where there is a libido disparity and partners are trying to come closer to one another’s levels.  In this post I will address a phenomenon that many women describe in therapy, which is how differently their husbands act when they are using porn, why this happens, and how it hurts relationships! Buy my newest book! Couples You Meet In Counseling: 7 Common Relationship Dynamics That Sabotage...

Many clients of both genders struggle with the decision of whether to get divorced before or after the kids leave home. There are pros and cons to each decision, discussed on today's episode! Straight talk as usual. Buy my newest book! Couples You Meet In Counseling: 7 Common Relationship Dynamics That Sabotage Closeness: https://amzn.to/3WQoA8X Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes!...

Most men find it very useful to learn about responsive desire, which means needing to be touched in order to get excited. This is the kind of desire women generally have within monogamy after the honeymoon stage, and contrasts with spontaneous arousal, or being excited even before touching happens. When these men understand that responsive desire kicks in after the honeymoon stage (with some exceptions, e.g. ovulation), or with age, they start learning more about female arousal, resolve to...