Maya Angelou once said, “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.” Stop trying to force someone to be who you believe them to be and accept who they show up to be We often struggle accepting the truth about people, especially when it may impact how we feel Don’t avoid the authentic truthThe truth is people can change but they have to desire change personally “Codependency keeps you fixated on another person. You are more consumed with this other person being the center...

Sometimes we mind-read other people and we expect others to mind-read us. We expect others to just know what we’re thinking and feeling without verbally communicating. We also assume details about a person without communicating.  It’s important to not take it personally when someone is acting different. Remove your assumptions and mind-reading and have a conversation.   “Codependency keeps you fixated on another person. You are more consumed with this other person being the center of your...

You deserve to be happy. You deserve peace, you deserve joy and beautiful connected relationships. People often settle in toxic relationships and unwanted situations because that don't feel worthy of happiness. You deserve to enjoy your life and now is the time to overcome fear and anxiety.  Want to connect with us? Reach out to us online! Pre-order new book! https://sisbenicertoyourself.com Email: [email protected] Instagram: @rainiehoward Facebook: @rainie.howard YouTube:...

Title: Staying too long: Lies, Fake Conversations & Toxic Energy •       Some patterns are difficult to break •       Believing things will improve with time will hold you back •       You are led by guilt  “The teachings in this book will unveil the true nature of your super powerful spirit. It is a state of calm, strength and universal authority that is capable of overcoming all things. You will begin to understand that the victimization mindset programmed by society and social norms is...

Your silence can move mountains. You can transform your life through silence. Talking too much can hold you back, feed doubt and interrupt your clarity.  Stop telling everyone everything. Keep it to yourself. Save your energyWhere your attention goes, energy flowsDon't deplete yourself by spending energy on small things. Join us live at the Love Retreat in St. Louis (or virtual) October 8-9 www.TheLoveRetreat.com Want to connect with us? Reach out to us online! Pre-order new book!...

Could your blessings be blocked because of spiritual and emotional resistance? It's time to get clear and real with what's holding you back. No more faking it until you make it.  No longer be deceived by your heartGet real with your truth and work through itYou can't position yourself for the blessing until you healGet out of agreement with anything that blocks your blessingJoin us live at the Love Retreat in St. Louis (or virtual) October 8-9 www.TheLoveRetreat.com Want to connect with us?...

Rebound relationships are when you rush into another relationship just to get your mind off your past relationship. It’s the “get love quick relationship.” They are deceiving and often end just as quickly as they start.  “Some people keep changing partners to avoid changing themselves.”-Anonymous  The following are signs you may be in a rebound relationship. •       They talk about their ex a lot •       They are emotionally unavailable •       They get upset when talking about their ex •   ...

Loneliness is an empty feeling of beings without the attention of others. It’s when you have conditioned yourself to depend on the interaction and attention of people but experience a season when it fades. Being alone doesn’t have to result in feeling lonely. You can embrace time alone to recharge, restore and renew your life.   1.    Vibe alone and reconnect with yourself 2.    Get comfortable in your own energy 3.    Don’t use people as a means of escape 4.    Become more aware of your own...

You’ve been frustrated about the things happening that seemed to be against you, not knowing those things are serving you. Many times, the unwanted issues are influencing you to align yourself with what you really desire and deserve. All things really are working together for your good.   1.    You actually deserve better 2.    It’s being processed. This process is causing you to sharpen your focus 3.    You are still being aligned to receive it 4.    You have given up on your desire “The...

Do you struggle to connect with some family? Do you feel as if you can't relax and be yourself around some family members? When is comes to dealing with toxic family, it's important to become aware of the issues, align with your desired outcome and allow authenticity.  Become aware of the issueAccept that you can't change or control another personUnderstand your desired outcomeAllow the new healthy norm“Codependency keeps you fixated on another person. You are more consumed with this other...

Boundaries are important in all relationships. Family, friends, lovers, etc. When your energy is depleted from over giving... You learn to say no and suddenly you find your flow. Healthy Boundaries are essential for healthy relationships and for our mental health. Saying no is a complete sentenceDon’t expect seasonal relationships to be permanentDon’t make someone else’s issue to become yours “Codependent relationships are when you excessively rely on another person emotionally and...

Rejection comes from a belief that you’re not wanted or that you don’t feel like you belong or connected. The emotions of rejection can lead to shame and feeling like a victim. This mindset causes feelings of helplessness and blame. Understand that you can overcome these emotions by renewing your mind.   As you believe so shall it be doneFocus on what you desireBe nicer to yourself“Why does it feel like a struggle to be in love, why does it feel like a struggle to have financial abundance and...

Do you put lots of energy in trying to make another person happy? Do you feel like you can’t say no when someone needs your help? When others are in a bad mood does it impact you? If you answered yes to any of these questions you may struggle with people pleasing.  Realize you have a choice; you can say no if that’s your decisionCreate boundaries and set your priorities Never feel bad for self-careStrengthen your self-image“Codependency keeps you fixated on another person. You are more...

Your relationships have a great impact on your entire life. They impact your alignment with God, they affect your confidence, peace and your clarity. Toxic relationships will cloud your vision and distract you from personal growth.  Be with people who are good for your soulStop allowing your loneliness to reconnect you to toxic relationships. It’s just like drinking poison because you’re thirsty.  “Sometimes growth may feel like you’re losing when you are actually aligning and expanding....

Your past relationship trauma may cause you to subconsciously block love. Love requires faith, commitment and a open heart to receive.  Let go of the defensive mode: guarded energy will block you from being approachableStop assuming everyone is like your ex Take time to heal: when you’re still broken it’s hard to be your loving kind self“Even after manifesting some good in your life, you can sabotage it all because of your pattern belief. It’s the reason why 70% of all lottery winners go...

The things that people do is a projection of their own reality. When you become immune to the actions of others you protect yourself from feeling like a victim due to emotional suffering.   Don’t take it personally Grow your self-worth. Don’t attach your identity to othersAsk: Is this an emotional trigger or are you upset?Prioritize your self-careSet Healthy Boundaries and let go of people pleasingWant to connect with us? Reach out to us online! Pre-order new book!...

It’s not selfish to make yourself a priority. It’s necessary.  Quote: If you are not being treated with the love and respect you deserve, check your price tag. Perhaps you’ve marked yourself down. It’s YOU that determines what you’re worth by what you accept. Get off the clearance rack and get behind the glass case where Valuables and kept. Bottom line, VALUE yourself more.   Accept yourselfForgive yourself Set higher standards and healthy boundariesHonor your inner being Happiness is an...

Now you can take full control over your life and make the decision that serves you. Learn to make a decision and stand on that decision with confidence and peace. It’s a process. Allow it to unfold. Trust that it’s all working together for your good. Guard your mind and focus on the path laid out for you.   Ask yourself; how do you desire to feel? Then align with that feeling…Don’t make any permanent decisions from a place of emotional pain…Create your own loving environment Stop thinking...

Often times when emotional pain is felt some people choose to ignore it, suppress it and even numb it.  We allow time to go by without addressing it. We avoid dealing with it.  That pain is seeking your attention. Understand you can love the pain away.    You can decide to change the story Eliminate the victim mindset Problems are not permanent Accept responsibility (what they did may be their fault but it’s your responsibility to heal)Want to connect with us? Reach out to us online! Email:...

Fall in love with the process of becoming the very best version of yourself and you will attract healthy whole relationship.  Healthy relationships start with becoming a healthier you Saying No when you mean it, is a form of self-loveYou are responsible for the energy you surround yourself with Want to connect with us? Reach out to us online! Email: [email protected] Instagram: @rainiehoward Facebook: @rainie.howard YouTube: @rainiehoward Website: https://www.rainiehoward.com Store:...

We often compare ourselves to others, compare ourselves to our past success and our past failures, our past wins and how good things use to be. We get lost in what was that we don’t allow ourselves to receive the possibility of something new and better. This thinking leads us to striving for what we once had and striving for what we see others have. It’s time to free yourself from this pattern of struggle.     Love will sometimes look like letting go  You are on a unique path, stop trying to...

What’s for you is for you. You don’t have to chase, beg, and fight for it. That energy will cause you to block it. Money is one of the biggest excuses we make to not allow ourselves to receive what we really want. By looking at your current situation you stop yourself from even considering the possibility of having what you desire. Creating wealth has less to do with focusing on money but more to do with your mind, your attitude and the way you think. Having financial strategies is good but...

Sometimes growth feels like you’re losing when you are actually aligning and expanding. Growth can often lead to ending and letting go of some people and things. Growth isn’t always packaged in rewards.Growth often feels very uncomfortableYou’ve never been this version of yourself, be patient with yourselfLearn the power of silenceGet your "Learn to Love Yourself Bundle" click this link > https://www.realloveexperts.com/backtolove Comes with; 2 PAPERBACK BOOKS; Undeniable Breakthrough and...

So many people want to be rich but being rich is based on circumstances. Rich is a matter of what you see in your bank account and the pursuit of being rich can have too much of an influence on your emotions. Wealth is a mindsetWealth is not about having lots of money, it is about having a lot of optionsDon’t focus on your income, focus on your impact.  Napoleon Hill- “If you can’t do great things, do small things in a great way.”Don’t allow your present moment to keep you from doing the work...

You don’t have to do it the way they did it. You don’t have to appeal to what they like. You don’t have to live to please them. You don’t have to travel in their lane. Don’t let them compare you. You are uniquely you.  Stop shrinking to fit places you’ve outgrownDon’t hurry it, savour itEven if you can’t see it, it’s all working out for you. Walk with trustIf you rush it, you’ll ruin itOnly make decisions from a place of feeling good