Episodes
You might have seen me recently crying on Tiktok over my imposter syndrome. While I was in California, I found myself in a few uncomfortable situations that ultimately led to me doubting myself and my abilities. In today's episode, I talk about my struggles with imposter syndrome, what happened in California, where imposter syndrome comes from, as well as how to overcome imposter syndrome. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's...
Published 04/22/24
Published 04/22/24
In today's episode, I am talking about why girls have such a bad reputation when it comes to friendships. I have heard so many people, especially men, say girls are so much drama and they're always fighting with their friends. In my opinion, I think the reason why girls have more friendship fallouts is because we have higher expectations for our friends than guys do.  Today I'm talking about Healthy friendships I currently haveComparing my boyfriend and his friendships to mineWhy guy...
Published 04/15/24
Do you find yourself being jealous and unhappy when others succeed? Listen to this episode. In today’s episode, I talk about why we struggle to be happy for others and how to actually be supportive when others do good.  SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok Youtube: Subscribe here Revolve, Amazon Storefront and more: LTX If you want to ask me questions, need advice or have any episode...
Published 04/08/24
ARIES RISE!!!!! It’s officially April and my birthday week. With my birthday coming up, I wanted to talk about previous birthdays where I felt underappreciated by the people in my life. Birthdays can be really hard, especially when you don’t have many friends and feel very overwhelmed. Over the years, I’ve found myself upset over the lack of plans and birthday wishes because all I wanted was to be celebrated. In today’s episode, I talk about celebrating yourself and how you can’t expect...
Published 04/01/24
Every year around my birthday, I spiral because I am overly aware of the fact that I am getting older. I used to be so excited for my birthday, and now I dread it because I am afraid of getting older. In today's episode, I talk about the fears of aging, backhanded compliments, beauty standards, and why I am no longer attaching a negative meaning to aging.  SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care...
Published 03/25/24
Stop minimizing what you want out of fear of what others think. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok Youtube: Subscribe here Revolve, Amazon Storefront and more: LTX This Episode is Sponsored By: Factor - Visit factormeals.com/tntc50 to get 50% off using code tntc50 at check out. If you want to ask me questions, need advice or have any episode ideas, submit here: TNTC Community...
Published 03/18/24
How to stop being bothered by others actions and perception of you. Why you should to stop taking things so personally. Mikayla's episode that inspired me: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5cYgbiocg2UuWhvncuXSwm?si=8hdF6u9NQvuXf7Ky13otPg SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok Youtube: Subscribe here Revolve, Amazon Storefront and more: LTX If you want to ask me questions, need advice...
Published 03/11/24
YOUR GIRL HAS BEEN IN A FUNK. In an attempt to make myself feel better, here are some questions to ask yourself next time you're in a funk. What’s taking up the majority of your time? Who are you spending time with? Are you spending more time in your head or in the moment? What are your current habits? Are you listening to your body and your needs? What is something you can do right now to feel relieved or feel happy? SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not...
Published 03/04/24
ADVICE SESSION #7!!! This episode covers:Going back to an ex after they left you Being “too sad” or “too much” for people What to do if your partner thinks other people are attractive What to do if your ex is treating their new partner better How to be happy alone when all your friends are in relationships Dealing with being ghosted and rejected Being the best version of yourself If you want to ask me questions, need advice or have any episode ideas, submit here: TNTC Community Google...
Published 02/26/24
In this week's episode, we're talking about the different ways to say and show your love for someone. I am constantly hearing people say, "if he wanted to he would" or "he doesn't love you if he doesn't do this." Although there might be some truth behind those statements, in today's episode I talk about why it's not that simple and how everyone expresses their love differently. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's...
Published 02/19/24
Today we're talking about self-care that goes so much deeper than throwing on a face mask or going for a walk. In today's episode, I talk about 10 non-physical things that you can do to take care of yourself.  SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok Youtube: Subscribe here Revolve, Amazon Storefront and more: LTX TNTC COMMUNITY...
Published 02/12/24
With February being the month of love, I want to focus the next few episodes on self-love. In today’s episode, I talk about the harm that comes from losing yourself in a relationship as well as the process of learning to be alone and love yourself after a breakup. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok Youtube: Subscribe here Revolve, Amazon Storefront and more: LTX TNTC COMMUNITY...
Published 02/05/24
Quick mini vent sesh!!! Today's episode is a reminder that you're allowed to be angry and advocate for yourself when someone disrespects you. Standing up for yourself DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON.  SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok Youtube: Subscribe here Revolve, Amazon Storefront and more: LTX TNTC COMMUNITY GROUPCHAT:...
Published 01/22/24
I CAN'T BELIEVE IT'S BEEN 2 YEARS OF TRYING NOT TO CARE. With it being the 2 year anniversary of this podcast, I'm sharing my story of how hard work and being delusional got us here. I I talk about why being delusional works, how your thoughts control your reality, and going after what you want. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok Youtube: Subscribe here Revolve, Amazon Storefront and...
Published 01/15/24
The truth about big friend groups and why I think the best people have less friends.  In today's episode, I talk about the misconception that people with little to no friends are bad and don't know how to maintain healthy friendships. I strongly believe a big reason why people struggle to maintain friendships is because they don't allow their friends to walk all over them. These people would rather stick up for themselves and risk losing those friends than stay in friendships with people...
Published 01/08/24
HAPPY 2024!!!!!! I'm so excited to spend another year with you, besties 🥹 In today's episode, I talk about getting out of your own way. I used to carry around the BIGGEST victim mentality and make excuses for why things weren't working out for me. Today, we're taking accountability and discussing 8 things that will help you GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY SO YOU CAN LIVE THE LIFE YOU DESERVE! 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍 SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's...
Published 01/01/24
NEW YEAR NEW ME As the year comes to a close, it's time to start thinking about who we want to be and what we want our lives to look like in 2024. In today's episode, I talk about goal setting, your diet, how to plan your glow up guide and things I will be doing to help me glow up in 2024. This episode covers: - Life updates - Setting unrealistic goals - Your diet is more than what you eat - Planning your glow up guide: How I want to feel, My mindset, My hobbies, My goals, My habits -...
Published 12/18/23
As the year comes to a close, I've been reflecting on goals of mine that I have and haven't accomplished. While doing this, I've realized that I tend to put much more emphasize on what I haven't completed than what I have. In today's episode, I talk about: - Looking at things with a negative perspective - Scarcity vs Abundance mindsets - 5 realistic ways to redirect your thinking   SPONSORS This episode is sponsored by ZocDoc Go to Zocdoc.com/TRYINGNOT and download the Zocdoc app for...
Published 12/11/23
Here are some gentle reminders for those days that you can't get out of your head. 1. Time heals everything. 2. It's okay if not everyone likes you. You don't like everyone. 3. You've never had an original thought. Negative thinking and intrusive thoughts happen to so many people.  4. When one door closes, another door opens. 5. Small steps make big changes. 6. Them succeeding does not mean you're failing. 7. Nobody thinks about you as much as they think about themselves. So don't...
Published 12/04/23
STOP BEING DESPERATE!! If you find yourself begging for partners to treat you right, double-texting your friends for a response, or chasing fame and success, listen to this episode. In today’s episode, I talk about my own experience and how I reeked of desperation as I chased relationships, friendships, and money. Let today’s episode be a reminder that you don’t chase; you attract. ✨✨✨✨ SPONSORS  For Green Chef’s best deal of the year, get $250 off with code tntc250 To get 30 days of full...
Published 11/20/23
Now that I'm in my mid to late 20s, I have been stressing a little bit about my "timeline." What my next moves are—if I'm going to have kids, if I'm going to get married, if I'm going to buy a house—the list goes on. The best way that I cope with these stressors is by talking through them with all of you. Today I'm throwing it back to a TNTC community favorite! Last year, I did an episode about navigating your 20s, and so many of you told me that you found it helpful. In today's episode, I...
Published 11/13/23
Sometimes when we get upset, we don't know entirely why because what we're upset over seems so insignificant. But a lot of the time, the reason we're upset is because things that we've struggled with in the past resurface. In today's episode, I talk about why I think it's important to understand why things trigger you the way they do. I talk about my experience with being bullied over how I smell, growing up with parents who fought, being told I eat too much, anxiety over being late, friends...
Published 11/06/23
Welcome to another advice session! In today's episode I answer some of your questions. This episode covers:  - How to handle mood swings - Figuring out if someone likes you back - How to get over a crush - How to stop being codependent - How to face failures - Comparing yourself to older adults - How to deal with social anxiety when hanging out with new people - Whether you should send that long paragraph to someone  If you want to ask me questions, need advice or have any episode...
Published 10/30/23
For the girls who want to form habits and feel good but don't want to commit to 75 hard or 75 soft. After finishing 75 hard, I fell off a little bit with my routine, and I decided I wanted to get back into it. I miss working towards something and feeling as good as I did doing 75 hard. I don't want to commit to another 75 days, and I don't believe that challenge aligns well with my current lifestyle. With that being said, I have decided to start my own self-improvement challenge that will...
Published 10/23/23