Some of the most crucial information about abusive relationships is how they start. What are they like at the very beginning? Most victims and survivors don't recognize the manipulation that happened at the start. That's why this can be a key to preventing new victims in the future. This episode provides a general overview of the manipulative moves and maneuvers that are used most often - and most successfully - to entice a new target into a relationship with an Abuser. This is one episode...

Important Valentine's Day Episode - no roses required. Most of our episodes are about choosing a better romantic partner. This episode is all about YOU, whether you're female or male, in a relationship or single. It guides you as you identify any beliefs or behaviors that are holding you back, causing you or your partner pain.  It helps expose the mistakes you repeat - no matter how much you promise that you won't - that may be keeping you from manifesting your happily-ever-after. The steps...

This is one of the most important Episodes we've done. Inspired by a request from a podcast audience member, this Episode explores the tricks and maneuvers used to entice a mistreated partner to return to an abusive relationship. How is it done? What does it take for someone who's fed up and perhaps deeply afraid to dive back into a highly volatile and even dangerous situation? What strings are Abusers most likely to pull?  Are there ways to tell if someone is genuinely trying to heal and...

This short podcast needs to be bookmarked and saved somewhere convenient. It contains key tips for emotional survival during the holiday season - or any time your family gets together. If you have a volatile partner, a difficult relative, a troublesome partner of a relative, don't go into their lair without protecting yourself. That's what this Episode is all about. All always, the crucial tips are simple, accessible and effective. Be prepared as you head into the holidays, so your day isn't...

This is still the only podcast series that exposes the specific tactics used by Abusers to lure in and trap romantic partners. It offers rare insight into manipulation that's relevant everywhere in your life, not only in romance. But have you ever wondered if we've missed something - another risk factor that could be significant? In this explosive episode, we discuss a crucial danger that's backed by decades of research yet seems to remain a relative secret. It's unknown by most people...

I'm always learning. This episode is an incredible shared experience with A. Garcia, a woman who's experienced severe abuse and violence.  She decided to use what happened to her as a platform to help others.  The interview was via Zoom, not in a studio, but I promise you'll get so caught up you won't mind. Please listen as A. discusses what she endured, and how she is a big proponent of PTG, post-traumatic growth, that encourages us all to use our painful life events to make ourselves...

In the last Episode we looked at the efforts made to help Abusers to change. Batterers' Intervention Expert Kevin Tarrance from the Department of Children and Families in Florida shared his insights. He offered the various stages he believes Abusers have to traverse in order to fundamentally alter their expectations and behaviors in their intimate relationships.  In this Episode we look at change and YOU - the core principles to help you understand what change is and how it's achieved. We...

This is an exciting episode, and not only because I had to quickly learn how to use a virtual interview on Zoom as a podcast episode.   Whether or not Abusers can change is the #1 question I'm asked by those who've been involved with these individuals. Yes and no.  That's the answer and why it takes two episodes to discuss it. I interviewed my first guest, Kevin (Michael) Tarrance, an experienced Domestic Violence Intervention Specialist in Jacksonville, Florida.  Kevin has been put in...

This is a must-listen Episode. I discuss why my book, But He Says He Loves Me, is still essential knowledge for anyone wanting to quickly and clearly spot the signs of an abusive relationship.  I've just finished production for the audio version of the book - out soon - and offer some exciting previews for my listeners. The book, But He Says He Loves Me, was written in two voices: myself as a domestic abuse expert, and the voice of an Abuser (a fictional blend of real men) who offers men...

The holidays are here! Well, if you count family birthdays, reunions and other special events, the holidays are always here. How do you get through with your sanity intact? How can you still grab joy even if some family members insist on being difficult? Is it even possible? This special holiday edition is filled with tips on how to handle difficult people and situations during family get-togethers. How do you prepare? What do you keep telling yourself so you can remain in control? How do...

If you only listen to one Episode of this series, this podcast Episode is it. We cover the basics of the entire abuse prevention program: Selection, Main Tactics and Honorable Mentions.  All of Abusers' secret and most effective tactics laid bare for you to examine. The insights here offer a powerful review session for regular listeners and can bring new listeners up to speed. In addition, the information in this podcast are available to anyone who requests it. Just email me at...

We've discussed Abusers' tactics at length. I thought it would also be useful to cover some of their most common tricks - smaller moves that may be part of a bigger tactic.  The 15 most common tricks are included in this Episode. These tricks are sinister, effective, and can cause a lot of trouble.  That's the bad news. The good news is these moves are often easy to spot. They're scripted ploys that help Abusers gather in a new Target, get a Victim to back down, or convince a Target, Victim...

With previous Episodes you've done a lot of work to develop a new superpower, a set of valuable skills that help you identify Abusers early, to spot the tactics of manipulation, coercion and unfair persuasion in romantic and non-romantic settings. In this Episode we talk about how to protect your new knowledge, how to shield yourself from influences that would try to prevent you from using what you know. We look at some simple mistakes that can easily be avoided, and why your brain is your...

As promised, this is the crucial second Episode on Resilience, filled with crucial insights and key tips to start building this central core life skill right away. No life is without pain, trouble, disappointment, regret. Resilience is the ability to...

Resilience is such an important topic, yet it gets far too little attention. It's often included in expensive leadership courses, but what about everyone else? What about our need to understand, develop and use this key tool in our ever-changing...

I think the concept of fear has been misrepresented in recent years. After all, if we don't feel fear we'll take unnecessary or even foolish chances. We'll ignore the instincts that tell us to get away from something or someone dangerous.This series has...

Sex is an important part of adult relationships. In this Episode, we look at sexuality and Abusers: what sex means to them, how they treat their partners sexually, the sexual weapons they'll use if the relationship ends.  Sex definitely doesn't mean...

This Episode covers some crucial information about how secrets can make you vulnerable to manipulation and the way secrets always grow into bigger and more harmful lies.We also chat about ways to get back into the romance game after you've been hurt -...

Are you interested in finding out some simple ways to get to know a new potential romantic partner? Ever wondered what you should ask, or wish you had a a few tips of what to do?That's what this Episode is all about. We start with some insights from...

Have you ever thought about your relationships and wondered how much you really care for the people in your life - or worried about how much they truly care about you? The Circles of Intimacy is a simple set of 2 small tests with a few questions that...

I believe it's incredibly valuable to expose the specific tactics used by Abusers to manipulate their targets into relationships. But this knowledge cannot work alone. Potential targets must also recognize where they're vulnerable. They have to explore...

This episode continues our important discussion on troublesome relationships that aren't romantic.  They can be family, old friends, and even work relationships. Some are simply challenging others would qualify as toxic. How do you know for certain?I'll...

We've talked a lot about abusive relationships and how to avoid choosing an abusive partner. But what about Abusers you don't choose - your family member, a neighbor, a work colleague, a boss? What about an old friend or a new friend who seems great at...

In this Episode, I fulfill a promise I made to my male listeners and discuss the means and methods used by female abusers when pursuing male targets. Most of their ploys and maneuvers are identical to those used by abusive males - so listening to...