In this highly anticipated episode of "Remodeled", Jes chats with clinical psychologist Dr. Antonia Jurkovic about her perceived and experienced correlations between ADHD and Polyamory. They dive into: how much Dr. Antonia thinks Polyamory and ADHD are related to one another, how the identities are inherently intertwined, and the growing observation that so many non-monogamous folks have ADHD. They also talk about how ADHD might impact what draws someone to polyamory (a need for...

We continue our Polyamorous Men series with this live interview with The Good Chad of @Polyamfam. In this episode we discuss Chad's polyamory origin story. Chad shares the struggles he had early on-- his insecurities and jealousies, and how polyamory actually helped him work through them to become a better version of himself. Chad talks about the role toxic masculinity played in his polyamorous journey, and he gives us his number one tip in helping other men overcome toxicity: Listen. To....

~ From Purity Rings to Non-Monogamous Things ~ In this episode, The Daylovers chat with their first special guest of the season, Instagram's @PurityToPolyamory. In part 1, she shares what lead her to starting her Instagram account, and her reaction to its quick success. She mentions that "exvangelical" and "deconstruction" circles are on the rise right now, and delves into the parallels within her journey between the deconstruction of her faith and her realization that she is polyamorous....

In this live and (mostly) unedited episode, The Daylovers share some exciting news regarding their recent rise to UK trash mag fame, update everyone on their dating life, and talk about some fun new merch they just launched. Plus, Jes goes off about how capitalism has ruined dating apps, does a deep dive into how her demisexuality affects her online dating life, and announces her newly discovered identity as a "Demisexual Slut".  *** You can submit questions you may have about Jes and Joe,...

In this kick off to the long-awaited Season 2, Jes pitches her mushroom-inspired idea to Joe that if she can let go of editing each episode as intensely as she did in Season 1, then they can get a lot more episodes out quicker. Joe doubts Jes is capable of that. In Part 1, The Daylovers then catch you up on their lives: how it's been going with the new baby, navigating breakups, and just getting their reality tossed around by the general upheaval that comes with a newborn, plus also the plot...

In this special "Mini Episode", Jes shares a coming out story with you all. Just because you're 35 doesn't mean there aren't parts of your sexuality that you're still discovering. This story is dedicated to anyone with whom it resonates.  *** You can submit questions you may have about Jes and Joe, polyamory in general, or a specific situation you're navigating by emailing [email protected], or submit the anonymous form at www.remodeledlove.com. >>...

In the Season 1 Finale of “Remodeled”, The Daylovers sit down with the Godfather of their children, Christopher Daniels (aka “Titi”), to share the sacred birth story of Lucius Sol Daylover. The mission of Remodeled is to Redefine Family and Redefine Love, and the reverent home birth of their sweet LSD did just that. Can you imagine a more perfect way to end our first season? The telling of birth stories, if you’ve never read or heard one, is an extremely powerful genre of storytelling. Not...

In this episode of Remodeled, Mr. Daylover recounts his mostly solo journey growing up on the East coast, moving to Vegas, and then finding his tribe in Reno. So far in this podcast we’ve focused on the relationships that shifted us into polyamory, but this 3-part memoir looks at the backstory, and unearths the seeds of a weird existence that would oddly match with a polyamory lifestyle later. Joe explores his middle class Catholic upbringing, his angsty teenage years, being a late bloomer,...

In this episode of Remodeled, The Daylovers take you inside their hearts, to the depths of their total mystical weirdness, to answer a listener's email asking them to describe the role their spirituality plays in their polyamory. The episode starts with a chronological telling of how each of them came to have the beliefs they currently have -- a unique synthesis of their mutual passion for world religions, philosophies, and mystic traditions. Jes completely nerds out on her profound love of...

In this episode of Remodeled, The Daylovers have the honor to chat with one of their favorite polyam content creators, all the way in the UK, Poly Philia. @polyphiliablog, whose sole creator is a brilliant human called Leanne, is a 22-year-old bisexual, autistic, polyamorous Asian cis-woman, who's also a part-time swinger and meme maker. The trio discuss Leanne's identity, the role she feels her autism has played in her logical view of relationships, her journey into polyamory, and her...

In this saucy, sexy, and absolutely hilarious episode of Remodeled, The Daylovers sit down with one of the finest humans on this entire f*****g planet, Wade Gainer. Wade identifies as a Black, Pansexual, Cisgendered Male, with Narcolepsy, who's been sober now for 4.5 years. The trio explores Wade's history with polyamory, as well as his journey into pansexual exploration. They also have a vulnerable and encouraging discussion on topics such as worrying about the penis-size of your partner's...

In this episode, The Daylovers have a zoom date with Joe's Side-Witch, Lore (aka: The Patron Saint of Compersion). Lore, a professional Death Doula, identifies as a queer, non-binary, latinx, polyamorous, demisexual, hyper-romantic, pansexual. Lore has known The Daylovers since before they got together, and the 3 recount the ways each person has been a part of each other's journey into polyamory. In the first half, Lore discusses the nuances of their identity, their journey into polyamory,...

In this episode of Remodeled, Jes shares her glee at the fact that, after 8 years, Joe *FINALLY* let her make him an online dating profile. Joe vulnerably recounts his insecurities and fears he's had around being "proactive" in the dating world, and the both of them revel inside how much his recent opening up has brought so much wonderful new confidence and amorousness into his life.  Jes also tells their love story, which is a hilarious narrative involving a psychic vision and hallucinogenic...

In this episode of Remodeled, first recorded a year ago, The Daylovers talk to one of their oldest friends and comedic cohorts, Shane Tolomeo. Shane was one of the very first people Jes and Joe “came out" to, back in their early days of polyamorous exploration. Now, 7 years later, Shane is living as a happy, healthy, polyamorous gay man. The trio discuss Shane’s polyam origins, his relationship to jealousy, his thoughts on polyam’s connection to Burning Man, and why non-monogamy may be more...

In this episode, featuring guest host JD Montelongo, and alternatively titled "Pregnancy WAP" (or "Echo Chamber Ego Boost"), the trio answers several listener emails asking: How do you tell your partner you're interested in exploring polyamory? What would you do if they weren't interested? Does your partner's bond with someone else ever make you feel disconnected? The crew also discusses ideas around "compatibility", and address some fuckery found inside a few emails. Most enjoyably, Jes and...

In this raw, vulnerable, and passionate episode, Jes and Joe answer one listener’s email with several questions around Polyamory and Parenting. They dive into the philosophy of semiology, and how your personal semiotics affects how you see the world, and how you understand what’s possible. Not only do they invite you into an expansion of your personal semiology, but they challenge you to examine which cultural narratives you may have bought into without even realizing it. Additionally, Jes,...

In this episode of Remodeled, Jessica & Joe pick up right from where they left off in Episode 1 -- answering all of the questions that guest host JD Montelongo wants to know: How do you create rules and boundaries for yourselves when exploring polyamory? What happens if one partner is more eager to experiment with polyamory than the other? What's the difference between "open relationships" and "polyamory"? Did any of your "rules" evolve over time? What rules do you have around sex itself?...

In this episode, Jessica and Joe (The Daylovers) leave no stone left unturned in this honest and raw re-telling of the question they are most often asked: "How did ya'll 'get into' polyamory?" With literally no role models to look up to, they had to navigate the world of polyamory on their own. Now, 7 years later, they share their story as a beacon of light for others, as well as to alter the cultural narrative of what's possible. You may find their journey triggering, painful, surreal, and...