Episode 89: When A Relationship Has to Change—How to Tolerate Discomfort, Face an Attachment Void, & Resource Yourself
Description
We need attachments to other people, places, and to God. Yet transitions have a way of shaking up those attachments—even healthy ones!
Today we’re talking all about how to balance our need to hold on to others - and also the need to let go. It takes skill and self-compassion to navigate these seasons of wrestling for more health, more connection, or more freedom.
Here’s what we cover:
1. Healthy & unhealthy attachments (9:34)
2. The 2 competing relationship needs everyone has (21:45)
3. Attachment voids (28:12)
4. Practices to anchor yourself (33:50)
5. The role of liminal figures (40:08)
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Related Episodes:
Episode 16: What are Attachment Styles and Why Does it Matter?
Episode 88: Navigating Transitions—What to Do When Change Stirs up Anxiety, Uncertainty, or Confusion
Other episodes with Rowena Day:
Episode 44: Why Anger is a Surprising Friend, What Happens When You Avoid It, and How to Create Space for Healthy Expression of Anger in Your Family
Episode 63: Spiritual Direction, the Power of Listening, & How to Attune to Yourself and to Others
Episode 31: Peace-Keeping, Anger Avoidance, and How to Start Using Your Voice
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